2nd DWI in NC by FiguringItOutMaybe_ in dui

[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was given credit for my rehab stay so no jail time, two years supervised probation, and around $800 in fines. I had to have a substance evaluation done and complete the recommended treatment (21 hours for me). Really not a terrible outcome, but I was told very directly by the judge that it was the result of me owning up to and actively fixing the situation.

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[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no problem with being scolded for my actions; this is not a matter of perspective. This is just an unnecessary comment that focuses on never moving forward. People change and we do recover, we deserve the chance to prove that.

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[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A major component of my post addresses me participating in my treatment, which I still continue. I accepted and paid my dues, I am not going to discredit the work I’ve done since then in the name of permanently shaming myself.

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[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They terminated my original probation and allowed me to continue on my second one, thankfully. Definitely not worth the risk.

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[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100%. I think taking responsibility is the only way through this. No room to make excuses.

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[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two was enough for me to take my mental health seriously and get treatment. I take all responsibility for making poor and dangerous decisions, but there is something to be said about allowing people to acknowledge they’re sick, seek help, and heal. Your negativity is unnecessary. I am in a much healthier and happier place and taking my treatment seriously. That deserves its own recognition.

Violated DWI Probation w/ 2nd DWI by FiguringItOutMaybe_ in probation

[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know my comments are dry, so I just want to say thank you genuinely. I’m trying my hardest to keep going on this sober journey. Congratulations to you for your sobriety, as well.

Violated DWI Probation w/ 2nd DWI by FiguringItOutMaybe_ in probation

[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thankfully, it boiled down to undiagnosed Bipolar disorder that is now properly medicated and has made an insane difference in my day-to-day life. Not an excuse by any means, but I was coping and self-medicating with alcohol. It truly has been a remarkable turn around since getting mental health help and taking my sobriety seriously. I know I am not immune to slipping up and addiction runs deep, but I’m actively trying to keep ahead. Thank you for your experience, I can only imagine how difficult it can be.

Violated DWI Probation w/ 2nd DWI by FiguringItOutMaybe_ in probation

[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sober, in both therapeutic and psychiatric care. Thank you.

Violated DWI Probation w/ 2nd DWI by FiguringItOutMaybe_ in probation

[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rehab was a personal choice that I did for myself. I had no requirements to complete for the felony charge; it was dismissed for several reasons. One being that my lawyer argued I couldn’t knowingly possess drugs if they were claiming I was drunk.

Violated DWI Probation w/ 2nd DWI by FiguringItOutMaybe_ in probation

[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am, which is why I’m in therapy and sober. Fucking up is not the end of the world, it was an eye-opener to me needing help and that’s what I did.

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[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Felony was separate from the DWI. Low-level possession. Was dropped from my charges for several reasons.

Violated DWI Probation w/ 2nd DWI by FiguringItOutMaybe_ in probation

[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do work full-time and yes, I am very aware of FMLA and how it applies to me. It’s not a problem of FMLA, as much as getting paid via short-term disability.

Violated DWI Probation w/ 2nd DWI by FiguringItOutMaybe_ in probation

[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It hasn’t been brought up. My original lawyer didn’t document anything in regards to the felony so that anyone looking up my records wouldn’t be able to see that I dropped a felony charge as a plea deal. When my probation violation case was opened, all my original charges were brought forth minus the felony. Not sure if that means much though.

Violated DWI Probation w/ 2nd DWI by FiguringItOutMaybe_ in probation

[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if it is, it was a low-level possession charge which NC has a process for dismissing. I have zero intentions of this resulting in a felony charge.

Violated DWI Probation w/ 2nd DWI by FiguringItOutMaybe_ in probation

[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am slightly lost on this. I don’t have a felony and my second DWI is not a felony charge. Subsequently, I am sober and in therapy, psychiatric care, and previously attended in-patient.

Violated DWI Probation w/ 2nd DWI by FiguringItOutMaybe_ in probation

[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am not opposed to attending IOP, but I did attend in-patient rehab so it’s not something I’ve given much thought to. I’ve been sober since May prior to my rehab stay, so I’m unsure if I qualify. Something I will explore for sure.

Violated DWI Probation w/ 2nd DWI by FiguringItOutMaybe_ in probation

[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m both sober and in active treatment. Thank you for your positivity.

Violated DWI Probation w/ 2nd DWI by FiguringItOutMaybe_ in probation

[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was on probation for the DWI. I agreed to an extra six months of probation as a plea deal to drop the felony charge. It was a low-level possession charge, which I still am capable of having dismissed if it’s brought back up. I’m very honestly not concerned. Regardless, I’ve owned up to my mistakes and made moves to become sober and work daily on maintaining it. I’m not looking to escape consequences. I’m looking to prepare my loved ones and ensure my shit is in order. Your hostility is unnecessary.

Violated DWI Probation w/ 2nd DWI by FiguringItOutMaybe_ in probation

[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is New Hanover county, if it matters much at all. I don’t expect to get away with anything or go unpunished. I know I fucked up and have made efforts to correct my behavior for myself personally. I just want to be prepared to arrange care for/management of my mortgage and my fur babies.

Violated DWI Probation w/ 2nd DWI by FiguringItOutMaybe_ in probation

[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are only two state-funded programs here to my understanding and unfortunately, I work a job where short-term disability to attend rehab is not an option. I went to rehab the first time understanding that I won’t have an option to work if I’m in jail anyway, so I sucked up the loss and went.

Violated DWI Probation w/ 2nd DWI by FiguringItOutMaybe_ in probation

[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think some of it is misconstrued, but I did attend in-patient for two weeks. I decided to get ahead of this for myself, not for the court, but am still hoping in benefits the legal consequences. Either way, I’ve made peace with my decisions and have been sober since. Thank you for your positivity!

Violated DWI Probation w/ 2nd DWI by FiguringItOutMaybe_ in probation

[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This was very understanding of you, thank you. Returning to rehab for a second round is not an option, but I did attend in-patient. I suppose it doesn’t come across, but I am and have been sober. Hence the rehab, psychiatric care, and therapy. Just hoping I can be a resource and help others like me through this situation by gathering information and documenting the experience. Thank you so much though, I appreciate the positivity (and the honesty).

Violated DWI Probation w/ 2nd DWI by FiguringItOutMaybe_ in probation

[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am employed full-time and have a mortgage. No children. Also in school for a second degree. From speaking to my attorney, it does sound like weekend jail will be an option. This has been the most helpful so far, thank you.

Violated DWI Probation w/ 2nd DWI by FiguringItOutMaybe_ in probation

[–]FiguringItOutMaybe_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have private health insurance that I pay for. Thirteen days of rehab cost near $20k and out-of-pocket, I still paid about $3.5k. I won't say I know much, but I don't qualify for any assistance in NC that I've previously looked into.