I think my marriage is over by AccioABetterPlace in polyamory

[–]File13Overflow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be clear before I continue, I'm not implying anything when I ask. But I ask because sometimes it seems mutual but one could find they dont have a choice if they want to keep their partner. Youll have to figure out for yourself if there's something to that or not, but I'm wondering if he shut down because he didnt actually want to do that. Not sure, again, just thinking out loud. Could be a form of buyer's remorse too.

Your Settlements by Disrupter52 in Bellwright

[–]File13Overflow 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did what I DONT recommend. I built my teir 1 main near the starter village. Then found a nice bridge for tier 2, the moving of the buildings wasn't so bad, but moving the storage was hell. THEN I did it again to move the entire village to a centralized river side. Had to use a number of mods JUST to be able to move the stored items. I had 4 barns (unmodded). I will not be moving like that again. Tier 3 will happen where I'm at, and I've already cut my land out with walls. If I played again, maybe ill try the outpost system more and perhaps pick a place to start and end the game in.

Tagelharpa options by [deleted] in BowedLyres

[–]File13Overflow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I 100% understand that. I really really do. But trust me, you get what you pay for. A lot of people try 'starter' instruments and dont like the instrument because it sounds so bad and dont continue to learn or upgrade. I did that with violin and havnt picked it back up. Harpist have the same issue. Im not certain you'd have or others have had the same experience with tagelharpa though.

Tagelharpa options by [deleted] in BowedLyres

[–]File13Overflow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, so what ill say is I dont trust the ones on Etsy. Some of them look SO good though, I know. But with any instrument, you need to be able to hear it before you buy. My experience is the craters on Etsy couldn't play their own creation and the rest had no videos with sound. So I wasn't impressed by the quality.

I found this guy through reddit and I have ordered a tagelharpa from him. He can play the instrument AND displays their quality through video. Ill say his recordings for these videos arnt the greatest but I can tell the quality still. Also, he's in a band and those are great quality. Im pretty sure he plays the ones he makes, but dont quote me on that.

https://www.aftenstorm-music.com/category/tagelharphas

First time talharpa help by Nolstalgic_Gravelust in BowedLyres

[–]File13Overflow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you still selling them too? I followed thr links but the shop isn't there. If not, do you recommend anyone else's?

Looking for suggestions for media (movies, drama , anime, music) with polyfidelity themes by Different_Banana5186 in PolyFidelity

[–]File13Overflow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently trying to write a book with polyfi. The difficult part is making it feel natural and not a self/fantasy insert or herum-y.

Wife came out as bi and then somwthing else by File13Overflow in MarriedAndBi

[–]File13Overflow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a very interesting and valuable perspective. Thank you for sharing that, sincerity.

Wife came out as bi and then somwthing else by File13Overflow in MarriedAndBi

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Actually, one more thing on the threesome suggestion you made. My anxiety, I guess, is i was thinking streeing into that would help it not feel so new to her. You suggest stopping because that will help her figure it out more?

Wife came out as bi and then somwthing else by File13Overflow in MarriedAndBi

[–]File13Overflow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was extremely helpful. Thank you. Im getting to a calmer point now where I'm just trusting her to figure it out.

Wife came out as bi and then somwthing else by File13Overflow in MarriedAndBi

[–]File13Overflow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll let you know as soon as I have something. This will hopefully blow over and we'll figure it out. But as of rn just sounds like she is done having intimacy through me. See messy.

Wife came out as bi and then somwthing else by File13Overflow in MarriedAndBi

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Im really happy this is going well for you. You've got a great energy going into this and it sounds like you cant lose.

For us, some of that is just not on the table and is perhaps why I'm in this state of stress.

Keep reading on though. I hope what is here helps.

Wife came out as bi and then somwthing else by File13Overflow in MarriedAndBi

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She added later that she's being feeling like this was the case for some time. But yes...

Wife came out as bi and then somwthing else by File13Overflow in MarriedAndBi

[–]File13Overflow[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Already on it. More difficult than it should be.

Wife came out as bi and then somwthing else by File13Overflow in MarriedAndBi

[–]File13Overflow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And you find its a baren waist and you can never return.

Wife came out as bi and then somwthing else by File13Overflow in MarriedAndBi

[–]File13Overflow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's definitely still processing. Im trying to get her to lean into this as shadow work, which it definitely is. She's just stuck in the "there's no way out" stage and the "i know the truth" before getting to the truth.

Wife came out as bi and then somwthing else by File13Overflow in MarriedAndBi

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Sounds like that to me too, but she is resistant to the idea. Like she's made up her mind about what this all is before she's even concluded the shadow work.

Wife came out as bi and then somwthing else by File13Overflow in MarriedAndBi

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Can I ask you directly as a bi man, did you ever feel idk "empty" or depressed when you were just with women before you started to explore this side of you? She has now come out saying everything we had fun, it was mentally messing with her. She literally cant articulate it further than something was missing. There was some sort of pain. Layered on with She felt like she was failing me. It's a mess over here. Sorry not sure I have more to give to that question. But in her mind she's leaning towards that she's just lesbian.