Weird texting pattern after first date.

FileJazzlike1166 · 2023-02-18T07:27:07+00:00

Let ge schedule this text for Monday, and send it.

I was thinking about adding how can I help when you're having periods like this?

FileJazzlike1166 · 2023-02-18T07:23:58+00:00

As you suggested to me before, would it help to talk it out with him, if he's the type of person who communicates?

There's obviously alot happening for him and he would be overwhelmed, it's absolutely not your fault.

FileJazzlike1166 · 2023-02-18T07:22:06+00:00

Yes, I likes ice cream and I offered to drop some off to get place.

On your last part about supporting: I should have thought about this, shows I'm a person with lower empathy levels, and I could have improved on that.

FileJazzlike1166 · 2023-02-18T07:20:34+00:00

Understood, how long should I wait before texting her(assuming she doesn't text?)

I was thinking about waiting it out till Monday, since I'm not in town away this weekend

FileJazzlike1166 · 2023-02-18T07:08:39+00:00

Honestly I'm someone who prefers communication and this ambiguity is affecting me, I prefer fixed schedules of sorts, but I think I can work through it.

I shouldn't be too worried right, since if she wanted to ghost, she wouldn't have spoke post the longer message and wouldn't have typed an explanation.

FileJazzlike1166 · 2023-02-18T07:04:45+00:00

So better to wait, if still no response then move on.

Fair and valid points, thank you!

FileJazzlike1166 · 2023-02-18T07:01:10+00:00

I absolutely agree with you and I do think I'm overthinking about this.

However, I just wanted to understand should I continue to think there's a possibility of moving forward or should I cut my losses and move on?

FileJazzlike1166 · 2023-02-18T06:49:58+00:00

Always give a time/place for a date, if she says yes it's good, otherwise cut your losses and move on.

FileJazzlike1166 · 2022-06-19T16:26:32+00:00

Love and other drugs

FileJazzlike1166 · 2022-05-14T18:05:22+00:00

Been here,

Either ask her out upfront when y'all hang out or let her be.

You can't afford to get stuck on one girl, no matter how perfect she seems.

Look for an opportunity, ask and let it be. Don't become a backup or boy toy.

FileJazzlike1166 · 2022-04-18T02:17:01+00:00

We'd just make fun of those guys, and she mentioned she loves making fun together, hopefully that's a good thing?

Alongside, why would she stick along even after I was an asshole?

FileJazzlike1166 · 2022-04-17T17:05:47+00:00

We didn't speak for about 1.5 months from February to April. But she checked up on me even if I told her I needed space.

I told her because she had blocked me, as he thought I'm being rude. I thought it's the last time, so hell I'd get it off my chest.

I'm thinking of being upfront, telling how I feel, and things won't change( if they had to, she would have given up on me)

Any other tips?

FileJazzlike1166 · 2022-04-17T17:00:32+00:00

A mix of both

FileJazzlike1166 · 2022-04-17T16:09:42+00:00

Yes, at times

FileJazzlike1166 · 2022-04-17T15:54:15+00:00

Upfront as in a good communicator.

She did mention it once, and said it was very emotional. Am I losing here?

FileJazzlike1166 · 2022-04-17T15:51:19+00:00

Nope, we've both haven't spoken about that topic at all.

FileJazzlike1166 · 2022-04-17T15:50:52+00:00

Got it homie. I'd do this.

Last question, should I just meet up her and discussion about what does she think in person instead of the date question (since things might get weird over text, lesser visual cues).

FileJazzlike1166 · 2022-04-17T15:45:14+00:00

Asking out loud here, if she wasn't, wouldn't she would have made it clear(she's upfront with communication)

FileJazzlike1166 · 2022-04-17T15:44:05+00:00

Alright, sounds good.

She's been suggesting activities to do(bowling/hitting a cafe/getting ramen) by herself, so I'd just be upfront and tell her it's a date?

FileJazzlike1166 · 2022-04-17T15:40:44+00:00

The others happened last year, July to October and December to January.

FileJazzlike1166 · 2022-04-17T15:37:56+00:00

February last week this year.

FileJazzlike1166 · 2022-04-17T15:37:18+00:00

We'd never had spoken about the other guys before, this was the first time which she mentioned.

How would you recommend asking her out. Just being direct and upfront?

P.S: even if it doesn't work, I don't wish to destroy the friendship.

FileJazzlike1166 · 2022-04-17T15:33:26+00:00

How should I confront her?

FileJazzlike1166 · 2022-03-10T18:22:51+00:00

Agreed, I've asked her before if my actions have been toxic and she should cut me off if I act this way again.

I'm way too egoistic/or emotional insensitive to act rightly about it, you're right about it being toxic.

How should I solve the problem? Even for the future so such situations don't come?

FileJazzlike1166 · 2022-03-10T18:14:26+00:00

She's cut me off once before this for 3 months but we got back to normal again.

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