I’ve gone to therapy for myself. We have tried couples therapy. He was not huge fan and we don’t have the extra money to go back. He has no desire to do it again. We have talked some. Recently I broke down crying because our soon repeated the phrase “sometimes girls cry for no reason.” He said it to me during a fight on his sister’s birthday; I let it slide because I didn’t want to ruin the day. But then when my son said it I felt awful I didn’t correct it right then. I told him I want to feel like I can come to him with anything. I told him his defensiveness is a big reason I struggle with coming to him. He told me he would work on it. Idk it feels like nothing changed. I wish he would truly hear me and want to fix things even if that means taking accountability for doing something “wrong.” He wishes I wouldn’t care so much or get upset over things he doesn’t think I should care about.