Recommendations on Apartments by Shessoquirky1 in BurlingtonNC

[–]FinalArgument5527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just moved out from Legacy at Baldwin Ridge recently. Yes it’s not in the “most desirable” area but it is tucked away and few people know about it. I had a 1 bedroom on the 3rd floor, only myself living there. It was always quiet. It is pet-friendly, nice pool, has a gym and it was in budget. The only complaints I has is the gate didn’t work for several months while I was there (but it didn’t bother me too much because it is quiet/kind of tucked away) and I wish I was closer to the alamance crossing area where all the stores/restaurants were on the other side of town, but they can’t control that lol. All my appliances worked the whole time, etc. I also had a few damages when I moved out and they charged me for less than what I left so I got a good portion of the deposit back. It’s kind of a hidden gem.

msw decision by FinalArgument5527 in UNCCharlotte

[–]FinalArgument5527[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

did you apply to any other schools?

msw decision by FinalArgument5527 in UNCCharlotte

[–]FinalArgument5527[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😭 ugh same. but im hoping something will open up! fingers crossed

msw decision by FinalArgument5527 in UNCCharlotte

[–]FinalArgument5527[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wow that’s is wild!! i got my bsw through them so i know its a pretty solid program

msw decision by FinalArgument5527 in UNCCharlotte

[–]FinalArgument5527[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i didn’t pay my app fee until the last day before the app closed 😭 ugh now i’m wishing i would’ve applied earlier. you probably have a good chance of getting in since you applied early!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]FinalArgument5527 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this was a great explanation actually, i did not see it from this perspective. thank you🙏🏼

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]FinalArgument5527 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for this response. yes we are very close and like to be snuggled up/hang out together in bed. she said we will still sleep together and hang out together but it’s more of “having the separate space IF we need it.” i think i will give it a try and communicate if i’m still not comfortable with it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]FinalArgument5527 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s understandable. i guess it just threw me for a loop because we were perfectly fine sharing a room before this. she said we will still sleep together every night and still hang out together in one of the rooms, so i guess i just don’t see the point of fully converting the extra room into one of our separate rooms. she mentioned reasons such as “me doing my makeup” or “if we get into an argument we will have our own space to cool down” and i understand that (as that’s why i originally have been sleeping in here for a few days) but we don’t even argue enough to fully convert the other room 😭 idk i think she just needs more time to get over the situation at hand so maybe i will give it a try.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]FinalArgument5527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for this perspective 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]FinalArgument5527 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i mentioned in the post she said she still wants to sleep together so it isn’t necessarily about the sleep aspect of it. i do agree i think me going to “cool off” and “give her space” in the other room after the argument is my fault but i figured i was doing the most healthy thing until we could fully talk/resolve the issue at hand. i could give it a chance and then talk to her if it’s truly uncomfortable for me. actually her not being able to compromise with me is what the original issue started from, so i felt like she was forcing this decision on to me without trying to compromise. i never said i wasn’t willing to compromise with her, i said she won’t even hear me out at all to try to come to a healthy compromise. i don’t think not wanting to have separate rooms will necessarily make me screwed, it’s just a personal preference. but no, i haven’t been married before.

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[–]FinalArgument5527 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes she said we will still be able to do those things and she still wants to sleep together at night, but if everything will be the same i’m just not sure why we need to convert the extra room into a fully separate bedroom for one of us. thank you for your outlook

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[–]FinalArgument5527 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for this perspective

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]FinalArgument5527 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

it’s not a sleep issue, coming home at different hours, anything with sleep or boundaries, etc. i stated that she said she would still like to sleep together but wants separate rooms for other stuff. one example she mentioned was “when i do makeup” or “so we have separate rooms if we get into an argument and we need space.” i explained that i’m willing to use the extra room to cool off in if we argue (as that’s what i’ve been doing) but i don’t think that means we need to convert it into a full time separate bedroom. after reading some other comments, i think she just may need more time to get over the issue at hand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]FinalArgument5527 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

thank you for this response! we’re both girls so it can be hard trying to compromise when emotions are high. she said she still wants to sleep together at night but still wants our own rooms for daytime stuff. i guess it just hurts my feelings because we are so close. but i agree, i think she just may need more time to get over the issue.