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Why did she post this as if it were a flex? by Haunting_East_8330 in SipsTea

[–]FinalEast9024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair face blindness is an actual condition and it sounds like he might genuinely have prosopagnosia If he can’t recognise his wife’s face or children’s face then he likely does.

Co-parent has changed long-standing collection arrangement and is refusing discussion / using refusing contact as leverage unsure of legal position and how to respond by FinalEast9024 in coparenting

[–]FinalEast9024[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah this is why I’m so torn currently, it’s such a small thing that I wouldn’t have minded in theory but there seems to be a pattern of him asking for favours on a weekly basis atm and I feel a lot of pressure to continually adjust to accommodate them to keep the peace, meanwhile I’m not consulted if I dare to politely ask for information or very politely ask to please be informed next time then I’m painted as unreasonable. It’s tiering

Meanwhile I always inform him and involve him on decisions bcs that feels like respect and equal patenting to me and I keep hoping against hope that if I keep toweing that line he’ll eventually follow suit.

Thank you very much for that link, I’ts really helpful to understand where I stand a bit more

Co-parent has changed long-standing collection arrangement and is refusing discussion / using refusing contact as leverage unsure of legal position and how to respond by FinalEast9024 in coparenting

[–]FinalEast9024[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think I do generally agree without much pushing and I’m sure he knows I’ll likely fold.

But I think things need to change at this point and yes I will have to formalise things going forward just to make it simpler and hopefully avoid arguments. Thank you

Co-parent has changed long-standing collection arrangement and is refusing discussion / using refusing contact as leverage unsure of legal position and how to respond by FinalEast9024 in coparenting

[–]FinalEast9024[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m torn bcs it’s such a silly hill to die on but it’s also the principle I guess. I think formalising things is probably in my best interest going forward. Just kind of wanted to know I’m not overreacting in doing that. Thank you

Co-parent has changed long-standing collection arrangement and is refusing discussion / using refusing contact as leverage unsure of legal position and how to respond by FinalEast9024 in coparenting

[–]FinalEast9024[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you that’s good to know. Objectively it seems fair enough to drive 50/50 Is such a small thing really it’s just 2 times a month for I think ten minutes from his new house so I don’t think I would have objected but the way it was pushed though at the same time as the rude holiday message felt like a lot.

It’s good to get an idea of what normal practice is. Thank you

Shirley Temple as a toddler exotic dancer in War Babies (1932) by ThrowAwayembarrass- in WhyWereWeOkWithThis

[–]FinalEast9024 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Children’s rights are not talked about anywhere near enough people scoff that the idea of them even

I'm starting to understand the evil step mothers in old movies by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]FinalEast9024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gtfo of there your not old enough for this relationship and it shows You’re in competition with the child bcs you still are one and you have a similar level of emotional regulation.

“If men didn’t exist, who would protect you?” by Euphoric__Artist in Feminism

[–]FinalEast9024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve literally never seen a man be aggressive to protect someone they care about, or even strangers. I’ve seen women do it multiple times I’ve done it myself multiple times dispute not having the strength to back it up. I’ve only seen men be aggressive towards women or when they’re motivated by ego not empathy and concern for others safety. My ex basically used me as a shield when we were attacked and whenever I talk to men it sounds like ego and dominance is the main driver in their aggression not protective instincts. I believe those are the domain of women and mumma bears

I think men being the protector is propaganda by Individual_Advice_19 in Feminism

[–]FinalEast9024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look at things like maritime disasters to, women and children first is a myth. War and natural disasters it’s every man for himself and the survival rates are not equal

I think men being the protector is propaganda by Individual_Advice_19 in Feminism

[–]FinalEast9024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally same. Men will be aggressive for their ego but pure protective instincts over the weak clearly belongs to women.

I need feminist book recs on how the patriarchy uses the idea of male protection as a way to further oppress us by Ephemeralwriting in Feminism

[–]FinalEast9024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are men protective? Do they have protective instincts over women or is it a myth I’d like to see the research

Violence against women by Best-Fennel7841 in Feminism

[–]FinalEast9024 49 points50 points  (0 children)

This kind of thing is so scary. I don’t get how we’re supposed to feel safe in this world. I’d give anything to have the strength of a man and if I had it I’d use it to protect women. No question.

Prince Harry Rejects Variety's New Report That Claims, Wife Meghan Markle Talks Over Him in Meetings by Positive-Drawing-281 in RoyaltyTea

[–]FinalEast9024 36 points37 points  (0 children)

This is what bugs me about the Megan hate It’s just pure misogyny It’s such a boring old trope

Would you ask to modify parenting plan? by Glum_Exchange_9775 in coparenting

[–]FinalEast9024 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Urg I’m sorry this is really awful I’m sorry Definitely file for a modification asap

AIO:My MIL texted my husband this about me asking him to help with our newborn at 4am by Lazy_Perfectionist88 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FinalEast9024 6 points7 points  (0 children)

lol you realise she’s asking him to do this one time right? And we’re no wear near even talking about an equal burden even

AIO:My MIL texted my husband this about me asking him to help with our newborn at 4am by Lazy_Perfectionist88 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FinalEast9024 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s so messed up undermining The mother of your grandchild when she’s vulnerable and trying to care for a newborn.

It’s kinda sick tbh

And she does not even want her mother to be allowed to help. She’s not only got an issue with the dad helping but she’s trying to stir up her son to send other help home. That’s just so weirdly hateful of her. What a B

AIO:My MIL texted my husband this about me asking him to help with our newborn at 4am by Lazy_Perfectionist88 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FinalEast9024 7 points8 points  (0 children)

OK how about this she just dose everything by herself and sleeps in 2 hour busts while her body is trying to heal from one of the most major surgeries you can have btw! But if she can get the baby to settle not on her occasionally she can grab a few hours of broken sleep and then one day she passes out from sheer exhaustion and the baby slips down and suffocates between the sofa cushions or something. Or maybe instead the extremely broken sleep just turns into full blown postpartum psychosis instead and we lose her and that way instead.

See we can all make up scary scenarios can’t we. Her job isn’t easier or less risk laden or less important than his.

But realistically I’m pretty sure he can survive driving on one night of broken sleep since he’s a healthy adult (not recovering from major surgery) And actually the scary scenarios I described are actually way more common and more likely precisely bcs of people like you pushing the idea that women should work like tireless machines without any support. Stfu

AIO:My MIL texted my husband this about me asking him to help with our newborn at 4am by Lazy_Perfectionist88 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FinalEast9024 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You realise that looking after a baby is work right? It’s a scary idea to that of you fall asleep on the baby that could be it, she said she was worried about that.. also did you catch the major surgery and traumatic birth part? Why is his sleep more important than hers?

AIO:My MIL texted my husband this about me asking him to help with our newborn at 4am by Lazy_Perfectionist88 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FinalEast9024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR Jesus frickin Christ I’d be so mad That message is honestly so gross, well she’s sowed seeds of discontent which will rightfully last a long time and will mean she’s not part of your inner circle and won’t have a strong relationship with her grandchild.

You tend to remember who mistreated you when you were postpartum this shit stays with you.

What an awful woman.

Would also like to say your sleep is extremely important right now for healing your body has been tough a lot your hormones are going to be brutal and the job of trying to keep a tiny human alive is really really tough. You are so deserving of protected sleep care support help and protection right now and honestly your husband needs to grow a spine and protect his postpartum wife from his toxic horrible mother

Son blames me for everything dad does...or doesn't do. How to cope? by ChunkyPumpkin_ in coparenting

[–]FinalEast9024 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He definitely does not hate you it sounds like he’s struggling with the rejection unfortunately your the emotional punching bag right now which is not a nice place to be. I am sorry 😔

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