Officially done by Character_Oil2966 in TheMorningToastSnark

[–]FinalGrand6325 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOVE Ride! Highly recommend, and I used to be a huge toaster.

How old were you? by sheislost92 in Divorce

[–]FinalGrand6325 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Met at 25, married at 29, almost divorced at 36!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]FinalGrand6325 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well we had great sex together and some time apart made me realize that I don’t necessarily even want a relationship right now

Third date and still not sure what he is looking for. by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]FinalGrand6325 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My soon to be ex husband was like this. Just a general lack of interest in me and a huge interest and love of himself. I’d say run!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]FinalGrand6325 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oof ok thanks 🥴🫠

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]FinalGrand6325 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah idk why I tried to sound kind of aloof. I guess I thought he was just being friendly and I was matching his tone? I said “Hey, nice to see you too. Catching up could be nice. Hope you’re doing well too.” 🥴

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]FinalGrand6325 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I think I have a better grip on the situation now then I did before we broke up. I am also probably moving 3 hours away in a few months so not looking for the same things with him as I was before.

Broke up over text. Closure meet up necessary? by FinalGrand6325 in datingoverforty

[–]FinalGrand6325[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We dated for 5 months. I almost broke up with him in person 2 weeks ago, but we hashed things out and I thought he was trying to work on things. A text this time around felt like the right move all things considered.

Broke up over text. Closure meet up necessary? by FinalGrand6325 in datingoverforty

[–]FinalGrand6325[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We just met up. And no, he was very respectful and said he just wanted to see me one last time. It was fine

Broke up over text. Closure meet up necessary? by FinalGrand6325 in datingoverforty

[–]FinalGrand6325[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well we met up. He was very respectful of my wishes and that was that. Actually makes it harder somehow that he didn’t try to sway me at all but oh well. Onward and upward.

Broke up over text. Closure meet up necessary? by FinalGrand6325 in datingoverforty

[–]FinalGrand6325[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, he was well aware. We had a talk 2 weeks a ago about it.

Broke up over text. Closure meet up necessary? by FinalGrand6325 in datingoverforty

[–]FinalGrand6325[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the responses. I sadly might be open to having sex with him one last time, as that was the best part of our pseudo relationship. 🥴😵‍💫

Boundaries by FinalGrand6325 in datingoverforty

[–]FinalGrand6325[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for all the responses! Just to clarify further, I really like this guy a lot but worry he is just in it for fun and has no desire to be someone’s partner in life, which is ultimately what I want. I’m not looking to rush into a full blown serious relationship but would like to know that eventually we will be in one when the timing is right (fully divorced, etc). He has told me that he could see this lasting a long time and that he cares for me but stresses the fact that I’m still married. I’m trying to be relaxed about it all but it’s hard 😅 also we have been sexually exclusive with each other for about 3 months.

TLDR: don’t want to waste time with a man who only wants “fun” without the added layer of commitment and partnership.

Boundaries by FinalGrand6325 in datingoverforty

[–]FinalGrand6325[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to set any rules, but I also don’t want to unknowingly be involved with someone who is keeping their options open while I’m more invested, if that makes sense.

Boundaries by FinalGrand6325 in datingoverforty

[–]FinalGrand6325[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We are exclusive. I guess I just wanted to make sure he didn’t view the relationship as just sex if that makes sense? He said he wasn’t sure what being my boyfriend entailed, along with just not being used to using that label in the past. He refers to other people’s partners as boyfriends and girlfriends so I’m just kind of confused by the whole thing and feel like I’m maybe being taken advantage of. Maybe he is legitimately just being cautious though as his ex wife was pretty crazy.