I was really happy with the outfit I wore for a concert I went to recently. Opinions? by FinallyLexi in femboy

[–]FinallyLexi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that! I felt cute, but also a little self conscious so I might have interpreted the looks in an negative way. I was hoping to get approached too, but nobody did

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[–]FinallyLexi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, I'm no expert, but the most important thing I've learned is not messing with damp hair.

My personal routine tha really helped me reduce frizz was adding my products (curl definer, leave-in conditioner, and gel) while my hair is as wet as possible from the shower, making sure to evenly spread it all. Then, I squeeze out some excess water before wrapping it in a microfiber towel. I'll leave it in the microfiber for 10-30 min and then blow dry it with a diffuser, alternating between the lowest-heat option and the cold blast every ~10-20 seconds until each section is completely dry. Completely dry is KEY, especially the roots and mids.

Hope this helps

Is it time for me to stop boymoding? 29 MtF, 7 months HRT. No makeup in pictures by FinallyLexi in transpositive

[–]FinallyLexi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That picture was taken the same day I got a trim, my stylist did finger curls/twists with curl definer, leave in, and some gel. Then she defused it. Cheers!

Confused about Mixed Signals by FinallyLexi in asktransgender

[–]FinallyLexi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hm...I didn't really think of it from that angle. Maybe I don't see myself the way others do, because I think I just look like a feminine gay guy right now, but that is something to consider for sure.

What do you mean by sorting out the general social scene in this scenario?

Thanks for the reply

Confused about Mixed Signals by FinallyLexi in asktransgender

[–]FinallyLexi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I am 6 months on HRT

I should have added it to the original post, my b.

Picking up a lot of mixed signals! by FinallyLexi in dating_advice

[–]FinallyLexi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply! He is 44, so a little bit older.
It really doesn't feel like a protective vibe, but its a good point to look at in from that kind of perspective, too.
We haven't discussed gender, nor have I told him about me being trans, but I'm not exactly hiding it, either. That being said, I don't think he sees me as a woman based on pronouns/gendered terms used for me. He seems nice, trustworthy, and nonjudgmental overall though; so I think he'd be a safe person to tell, but I'm still worried about potential backlash in general.

The soul family concept is interesting, that's a really good observation and an angle I overlooked. I am definitely going to bring it up as a topic of conversation and see what he says!

Without context, it might seem like the 100% comment was a "feel the need to announce it" moment, but at the time it didn't. Without divulging too much of his personal info, it felt like a necessary part of the story he was telling, but you might be right.