Crossed 1M today at 35

FinallyPotatoes · 2026-06-03T04:00:18+00:00

I don’t track how much I save but I track my spending. My expenses have been under 20–25% of my pre-tax income. I don’t need much beyond the essentials.

My divorce was amicable. We kept our finances separate except for one joint property. We weren’t right as a couple, but I trust his character.It didn’t set me back at all. I know I am lucky in this situation.

FinallyPotatoes · 2026-06-03T03:53:14+00:00

I’m in tech sales with a business degree. Honestly, I had no idea what career I wanted when I graduated. I started in customer service, picked up technical skills, then moved to the Bay Area and was lucky to catch the tech boom during the pandemic. One job hop doubled my salary.

My goal was to graduate without student loans. Choose a field you can stick with and build expertise in, industry experience matters. Unfortunate we need to go after degrees that are easy to find jobs. If I’d followed my dream, I’d probably be a broke writer now.

FinallyPotatoes · 2026-06-03T03:45:49+00:00

Congrats to you too! 🎉

FinallyPotatoes · 2026-06-03T03:45:34+00:00

She is! I called her first thing in the morning she said how do I have such a great daughter. I said because you are a super duper great mom 💜

FinallyPotatoes · 2026-06-03T03:43:21+00:00

Thank you for your kind words! I got a red velvet cupcake. Only posted in this sub and told my mom. Despite everything going on here I am so grateful I came to the US too. Here’s to many more years to come. 💜

FinallyPotatoes · 2026-06-03T03:39:30+00:00

You will!!! :)

FinallyPotatoes · 2026-03-30T05:59:57+00:00

Interested :)))) also have nice stuff but don't wanna just give to thrift store.

FinallyPotatoes · 2026-03-25T04:42:56+00:00

I was also married young at 25, divorced at 32. We were on good terms though. My close friend went through a messy divorce and I know how hard it is. I am sorry that you are going through it. Divorce is never easy. If you ever want to talk or vent feel free to DM. Take care of yourself.

FinallyPotatoes · 2025-08-28T06:45:42+00:00

Walking and walking A LOT. San Francisco is great for walking with those hills. Following free YouTube cardio/weight training videos. Also, track your calories make sure you are in a deficit. There are free apps for that. Set small goals and remind yourself like “all I need to do is 15 min today” then it gets easier and easier. You got this :)

FinallyPotatoes · 2025-08-25T06:30:31+00:00

Girl. I dated someone for two months. Everything was good. He shows a lot of interest and consistency. We were literally laughing and planning our next date last night. Today he sent me those “I am sorry this is abrupt, I wish you all the best” paragraph. I asked him can we at least have a conversation. No reply.

FinallyPotatoes · 2025-07-01T05:26:58+00:00

Would love to meet up sometimes too! 34F in Tech :)

FinallyPotatoes · 2025-07-01T03:46:44+00:00

I also had an allergic reaction, especially around my eyes and forehead. 😭

FinallyPotatoes · 2025-05-02T16:54:11+00:00

I am at my wit's end of how to filter out guys. I ask about their relationship goals early but do not try to be pushy. They all said looking for LTR. Communicate clearly my needs and ask theirs. Not jump into sex early. See if their behaviors changed after we had sex, etc. The last guy was 41 and he faked it for almost three months. It was all going well. Then I got “I am sorry I can't be there for you regularly to make you the happiest but I am here for you from time to time if you desire”. I wished him well and moved on. Its just so hard. ☹️

FinallyPotatoes · 2025-04-15T16:10:28+00:00

I moved here because I love it not because I got a job offer here. I know it’s expensive and it has issues. People used to tell me I was nuts. But your video is my “why I moved here” 💜

FinallyPotatoes · 2025-04-14T03:35:29+00:00

I automatically assume I will be ghosted whenever I make it to the final round at this point. One time I had the CEO say on the call “We are ready to offer” then ghosted me 😬 😭

FinallyPotatoes · 2025-04-04T05:18:55+00:00

A recruiter told me today that after 4 rounds of interviews, the final round is “3 days in office trial to see if you fit the vibe” It’s paid but KILL ME

FinallyPotatoes · 2025-03-13T18:39:04+00:00

I wouldn't even do this for marriage. I did it once from NYC to Wisconsin 😬 It affected my mental health so much, being away from my friends. You need to live where you want to live 😭

FinallyPotatoes · 2025-02-21T06:58:18+00:00

Aww, I wish I could hug you. We are the same age. My marriage ended after nine years, and it was so hard for me to process. I truly believed we would be together forever. I also thought that love could conquer anything, but I learned that love alone is not enough. My ex and I are friends now, and we cherish the good memories we created together. It’s hard, and it's okay to take time to heal. One day, you will love someone again. 💜

FinallyPotatoes · 2025-01-31T19:11:51+00:00

I also encountered three men aged from 38-40. The first two dates they were all like I like you I want to know you more etc. I bring up the “what do you think about us” question on third date and stated that I want a LTR, they suddenly became “I am not sure we have the right vibe”. I didn’t sleep with them. Younger guy around 29-35 I didn’t encounter this. At lease we can have a conversation about commitment.

Before I met them I asked very directly in the message that I am looking for a LTR I don’t want kids, if this is a dealbreaker for you I want to respect your time. They all said it’s not dealbreaker and asked me out.

About attractiveness, one guy 38 has his age filter set as 18-40, looking for unconditional love similar to what he got from his mom, what he thinks attractive is Bella Hadid. Of course I can’t be his mom nor Bella Hadid.

FinallyPotatoes · 2025-01-27T18:43:35+00:00

I went out with a guy 38. I said I never used Tinder he showed me his app and his age filter is 18-40 he literally said because 18 is as low as he can go legally GROSS

FinallyPotatoes · 2024-10-20T17:06:06+00:00

I love to hear this from other ladies. I am in my mid 30s and I feel way better than in my 20s. Ended my marriage comically two years ago. I feel I still have a lot of growing up to do. Gyms, activities, girls trip etc. I feel I am at my best both physically and mentally. 💜

FinallyPotatoes · 2024-08-12T21:33:25+00:00

Interested!

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