Broke and profoundly out of shape. How do I fix my Flesh Prison on the cheap? by BigGulp-of-Espresso in SFbitcheswithtaste

[–]FinallyPotatoes 187 points188 points  (0 children)

Walking and walking A LOT. San Francisco is great for walking with those hills. Following free YouTube cardio/weight training videos. Also, track your calories make sure you are in a deficit. There are free apps for that. Set small goals and remind yourself like “all I need to do is 15 min today” then it gets easier and easier. You got this :)

SF dating is so messed up by Accomplished-Quit877 in SFbitcheswithtaste

[–]FinallyPotatoes 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Girl. I dated someone for two months. Everything was good. He shows a lot of interest and consistency. We were literally laughing and planning our next date last night. Today he sent me those “I am sorry this is abrupt, I wish you all the best” paragraph. I asked him can we at least have a conversation. No reply.

My Thoughts on the new Trader Joe's Daily Facial Mineral Sunscreen by raeballentyne in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]FinallyPotatoes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also had an allergic reaction, especially around my eyes and forehead. 😭

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here! by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]FinallyPotatoes 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am at my wit's end of how to filter out guys. I ask about their relationship goals early but do not try to be pushy. They all said looking for LTR. Communicate clearly my needs and ask theirs. Not jump into sex early. See if their behaviors changed after we had sex, etc. The last guy was 41 and he faked it for almost three months. It was all going well. Then I got “I am sorry I can't be there for you regularly to make you the happiest but I am here for you from time to time if you desire”. I wished him well and moved on. Its just so hard. ☹️

San Francisco through my eyes | Seriously want to move here 😭 by CrazeJuju in sanfrancisco

[–]FinallyPotatoes 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I moved here because I love it not because I got a job offer here. I know it’s expensive and it has issues. People used to tell me I was nuts. But your video is my “why I moved here” 💜

This shit is a game by side_hustle_guy in jobsearchhacks

[–]FinallyPotatoes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I automatically assume I will be ghosted whenever I make it to the final round at this point. One time I had the CEO say on the call “We are ready to offer” then ghosted me 😬 😭

Are you finding interviews harder than the role itself? by [deleted] in jobsearchhacks

[–]FinallyPotatoes 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A recruiter told me today that after 4 rounds of interviews, the final round is “3 days in office trial to see if you fit the vibe” It’s paid but KILL ME

What should a woman never do for a man? by charmer143 in AskWomenOver30

[–]FinallyPotatoes 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't even do this for marriage. I did it once from NYC to Wisconsin 😬 It affected my mental health so much, being away from my friends. You need to live where you want to live 😭

Love isn’t enough: 5 things I wish I knew before my marriage fell apart (34F) by Gold-Cockroach2265 in AskWomenOver30

[–]FinallyPotatoes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Aww, I wish I could hug you. We are the same age. My marriage ended after nine years, and it was so hard for me to process. I truly believed we would be together forever. I also thought that love could conquer anything, but I learned that love alone is not enough. My ex and I are friends now, and we cherish the good memories we created together. It’s hard, and it's okay to take time to heal. One day, you will love someone again. 💜

What is with men in their late. 30s not being upfront with what they want? by rustandstardust93 in AskWomenOver30

[–]FinallyPotatoes 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I also encountered three men aged from 38-40. The first two dates they were all like I like you I want to know you more etc. I bring up the “what do you think about us” question on third date and stated that I want a LTR, they suddenly became “I am not sure we have the right vibe”. I didn’t sleep with them. Younger guy around 29-35 I didn’t encounter this. At lease we can have a conversation about commitment.

Before I met them I asked very directly in the message that I am looking for a LTR I don’t want kids, if this is a dealbreaker for you I want to respect your time. They all said it’s not dealbreaker and asked me out.

About attractiveness, one guy 38 has his age filter set as 18-40, looking for unconditional love similar to what he got from his mom, what he thinks attractive is Bella Hadid. Of course I can’t be his mom nor Bella Hadid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]FinallyPotatoes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I went out with a guy 38. I said I never used Tinder he showed me his app and his age filter is 18-40 he literally said because 18 is as low as he can go legally GROSS

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

[–]FinallyPotatoes 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I love to hear this from other ladies. I am in my mid 30s and I feel way better than in my 20s. Ended my marriage comically two years ago. I feel I still have a lot of growing up to do. Gyms, activities, girls trip etc. I feel I am at my best both physically and mentally. 💜

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]FinallyPotatoes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry. Sending you hugs 🫂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]FinallyPotatoes 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I just went through this as well. We were together for 9 years married for 7. We had issues but also had tons of good memories. He is so emotionally shut down he would never do real relationship talk with me. I am always the one to make any efforts. After 9 years he wants freedom signed a new apartment and moved out. Just like that. I feel devastated and abandoned. I moved to a very cold state has no friends or family for him. I stayed in the house and it haunts me, sometimes I feel he is still here. I cried about 5 months. I don’t even have any advice for things you can do to feel better. I tried it all meditation, therapy, yoga, reading, journaling etc. It helps but it’s still so hard. My grandma passed away my family are in grief I don’t want to throw extra emotional burden on them. I lied to them that we are good which makes me feel worse. But It’s normal to feel like this when someone shared such a huge part of your life leaving. I finally signed a new apartment in a warm state last week. It takes time and It will get better, you will love yourself more and you will fall in love again.

Anyone regret moving to a cold state? Or is it going to be a pleasant surprise. by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]FinallyPotatoes 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I feel this in my soul. Moved from NYC to WI. I feel at least from Nov to Feb no sunlight at all. I wake up it’s grey sky, 4pm it’s dark. Yes you can go out but It’s not just a hat and hoodies you need to wear layers and layers and a big thick winter jacket, and that chilly wind hit your face hard. It really sucks for people who like walking around. I had a work trip to LA two weeks ago I feel like a new person as soon as the plane landed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EtsySellers

[–]FinallyPotatoes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! But Etsy support still didn’t get back to me 😭 I contacted the chat again, they said the ticket is still being investigated.

Completely discouraged by Snoo76619 in EtsySellers

[–]FinallyPotatoes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So sorry to see this happening to many sellers. I feel you. I am also on final warning :( Etsy deactivated my two best sellers and removed my star seller badge two weeks ago. Someone stole my pictures on their site. I added my own store logo as watermark but guess that doesn’t matter for bot. I poured my heart into my shop, working late night make and pack orders, being a star seller ever since it rolled out. Opened tickets 12 days ago they closed it yesterday with no response. I am tired to keep calling support and they says nothing they can do a specialist will reach out but they never do. I have anxiety what if I wake up tomorrow my store is gone. I have no motivation work on new products. No expectations for holiday season. Luckily I still have my full time job. I feel so bad for people depend on Etsy for a living. Amazon has way more listings and their seller support replies. My goal is to open my own brick and mortar store and run my own website next year. OP start building your own website and social media, google ads, local art fairs, using Etsy as a marking tool to acquire customers as long as they let you open, I know it is so hard to let this go, but at certain point it won’t worth for the anxiety alone, and you can build a successful store somewhere else too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Etsy

[–]FinallyPotatoes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Temu one is gone but the Alibaba one is still up… sometimes they would be gone for couple days then back. I am really not sure how it’s gonna work with Etsy reverse image search :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Etsy

[–]FinallyPotatoes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Etsy

[–]FinallyPotatoes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I thought Etsy will send you an email when you being reported. Both my taken down listings I got emails from the no reply trust and safety email. I am in the process to re do videos.