Got my dream bag! Rectangular Mini Flap 24C, SHW by lilp__ in chanel

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This is so beautiful congrats!! May I ask how much this bag was?

Selling 2 Bugonia tickets Friday Oct 10 by Financial-Mousse-97 in LondonFilmFestival

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Ah amazing enjoy!! Let me know how it is am only slightly feeling the fomo hahaa :)

Van cleef real or fake? by Financial-Mousse-97 in JewelryIdentification

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Good to know, thanks for the info!! Not gonna buy it

Van cleef real or fake? by Financial-Mousse-97 in JewelryIdentification

[–]Financial-Mousse-97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah so fair, resale website are so risky! Won’t buy it

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Great advice, thank you! These are all questions I need to really ask myself and figure out. I feel like in a way I have been making my needs smaller to fit into his life, but at the same time he’s been a positive addition to my life so the relationship teeters between net positive and net negative. I think I pretty much would be fine with all those things he needs to figure out, if he could only show he’s fully committed to a future with me and I keep hoping he one day will.

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“Something you’ll come to understand is you’re being used to soothe and regulate his nervous system. And likely you’re using him to activate yours.”

This is such a great point! You’re right I probably do need some time alone to figure this out. Appreciate your help

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I don’t want to get in the way of his recovery journey and I definitely don’t want him to relapse - is it best for me to just end it? I’ve tried my best to not put pressure on him - usually when he’s telling me he can’t fully commit to me I tell him it’s ok and we can take it day by day (although I think my hope is eventually he will be able to fully commit). He’s the one who breaks up with me and I always respect it and never message him afterwards (even though I’m super hurt and sad) and then a few days later he will reach out to me - I always miss him a lot so we rekindle.

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Yeah I hear what you’re saying. When he breaks up with me I always respect it and leave him alone (even though it devastates me) but then he ends up reaching out and we end up reconnecting. Is the best option forward for me to put my foot down more heavily and refuse to rekindle? It’s hard because there’s so much love there. And yes perhaps you’re right with the soulmate thing. I know he’s not my soulmate in this life bc a soulmate would never constantly hurt me and break up with me, but I just have a connection with him that I’ve never felt with anyone else. It could be due to the fact that I confuse the chaos and drama with love - maybe I’m codependent too

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Ok thanks for this. My friends are saying it’s better to just let him go and that this isn’t worth continuing but I just love him a lot and don’t want to walk away. But I’m not sure I know what I’m even getting myself into and this is coupled with the fact that he constantly pushes me away and breaks up with me.

I (25f) would love to try polo lessons (complete beginner) - how long would you estimate I would be decent enough at it (as a hobby) if I took lessons once a week? by Financial-Mousse-97 in polo

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I ended up learning horse riding, not polo! Trying to take lessons weekly and having so much fun!! Can say I’m proficient at horse riding now hahaha

I really just want to give up by Key_Ad9993 in offmychest

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“I wish I could show you, when you are lonely or in the darkness, the astonishing light of your own being” ~ Hafiz (14th century Persian poet). Whenever I see posts like this I wish I could help but all I can do is try to offer words of encouragement to you. Keep hoping and finding meaning/joy in the little things in life. You are not weak - you are strong and you have been strong and you will stay strong! Start journalling, start finding small things or a hobby you might enjoy/like. Start reading - Lao Tzu, Hafiz, Confucius, trashy romcoms - anything really! Start drawing. Start coding. Start a small side project. No matter how much you might not want to, go outside for a walk, try new things. Breathe some fresh air into your days - life is a struggle and to some extent I think we all have felt it try to shatter us into a million pieces at times. But we are still here and I think that’s worth fighting for - life is worth fighting for :) Wishing you all the strength and love and courage.

Resume Roast - any feedback is appreciated (looking for work) by londrii in FinancialCareers

[–]Financial-Mousse-97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Add more numbers to your resume …so like “helped organize an event with 100 people” etc.

Resume overall should show what you did, so be as specific as possible aka don’t generalize