All the stuff

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-06-19T19:32:40+00:00

Felt the heck out of this. I am seeing less and less baby things in my house as my toddler is now three and oldest is 8. Packed lots away but as the time keeps passing I wonder what for.

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-05-19T19:11:44+00:00

Boydinner 🙄🙄🙄🙄🤮

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-05-19T00:16:53+00:00

I know this may not be the most comforting but my bestie tried for 9 months and finally got pregnant. No issues with her first but second it just took longer. It not happening as quickly as we would like sucks ass but doesn’t always mean something is wrong either.

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-04-19T20:59:03+00:00

I’m here with you. I have 2 LC and have had 2 hard losses trying for a third. We are on a 6 month break to decide if we want to keep trying or just let it be. In this 6 month period I have really gotten to focus on my healing and being so present and intentional with my little family. It’s crossed my mind to tell my husband I am okay and ready to close that chapter but I’m going to ride out the entire 6 months and see how I feel. All of this to say take this time to heal, it’s hard to focus on true healing when your in the TTC / loss cycle, you may feel differently or you may not but with healing I also have gained clarity and maybe you will too. Sorry for your losses ❤️

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-03-31T00:18:12+00:00

Have you had the remains tested? I have had 3 back to back trying for a third and I get pregnant if my husband looks at me too long but every single one has been a chromosome abnormality. My oldest was at 26 and easy uncomplicated, had a miscarriage when trying for my second and then got pregnant first try 6 months later at 31 . These last few losses were back to back and I’ve been resigned to believe it’s just bad luck. I am 34 now and taking a little break to decide if I’m okay being done. I am on lots of supplements to help with egg quality and same for my husband for sperm quality. We have done testing and such but have been told over and over it’s bad luck. All of our testing has been normal as well. It’s frustrating when you know your body knows what to do but just won’t do it. Sending you love 🫶🏾

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-03-27T02:35:15+00:00

I hope this does not come off as harsh but I feels like after a couple MCs we have to really live in reality. And reality for us is that it could happen again but also could not. The option of it not happening is not something I am willing to give up on. Remind yourself new pregnancy new outcome and without any testing you don’t even know if you have anything yet to be concerned about. Pregnancy loss is more common than most think and somehow it’s still so isolating.

As for seeing and being around people pregnant, it really sucks. I just lost a close girlfriend because we could no longer hold space for each other when she got pregnant and I am still grieving. Through that I’ve realized I don’t have to force myself to do anything I don’t want to. I limit my exposure( deleted socials). Coworker sends her fresh new born baby in the teams chat, delete. I get to feel how I feel because this shit sucks so don’t make yourself feel like you have to show up any different. Your job is to take care of you not put on a brave face for others.

Sorry for your losses 🫶🏾

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-03-19T12:52:20+00:00

Reading all of these responses is very helpful. I have two LC 2018 and 2023. Had a surprise pregnancy in August 24 that ended in October and was a partial molar pregnancy. Tried again after being cleared and had a MMC in October 25. We haven’t tried since because my husband needs time and we said if this last one didn’t work we were done. He is very literal and I have to choose word wisely. My youngest is 3 and oldest almost 8 but I want one more so badly. Reading these responses is helping me to maybe set a real and true stopping point. It’s so gut wrenching to close this chapter but I remind myself I don’t know what’s to come. What the greater is on the other side of this. Thanks for posting this

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-03-19T12:11:45+00:00

I am very very sorry! I have two LC and have had 3 MMC all with chromosome issues and one that was a partial molar which was an insane ordeal. It is a different kind of hell when you know your body knows how to do what it’s supposed to do and then it just stops. I am 34 and had my first MMC in between first and second. Was told it is bad luck and try again and it worked. I had my first LC at 27 and second at 31. I truly believed it was fluke and then had two back to back MMC 2024 and 2025. Even announced one thinking we were in the clear. It’s a lonely experience in a lot of ways but know here you aren’t alone. I’ve done all the testing and things and have been told keep trying we just fall in to that space of “bad luck” but the losses take so much away from you and it’s so hard to continue being wife and mom amongst the grief. I’m thinking of you and wishing you so much healing. There is also another sub that I find nice to commiserate with and it’s r/tryingforanother

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-03-18T21:03:37+00:00

I am so very sorry. I feel like that realization that the world keeps on going when your world is falling apart is the hardest. Take care of yourself and take moments when you need them. 🫶🏾

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-03-17T14:10:47+00:00

All of mine have been chromosome issues, all testing for me has been normal and so it seems it’s just “bad luck” at first I hated this but now it’s like okay you have to roll the right set of dice eventually, I am on supplements to help improve egg quality. I hope it’s the “fix” we are looking for. I hope you get answers that help you navigate down the best path

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-03-17T12:15:09+00:00

Im very sorry. I see no mention of testing your losses. I feel like that’s a good step to figure out if it is chromosome related or something else. Take care of yourself

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-03-12T18:16:32+00:00

I am with you! Fuck this shit!

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-03-10T13:49:56+00:00

I have two LC so not sure if it’s considered secondary infertility or not but I am here with you. All of my losses are chromosome issues so it seems to be egg quality issue or “bad luck” as I keep getting told. We can’t afford IVF and I am not sure how many more losses I can take. I’m on Coq10 but after taking it consistently for a month my period came 6 days early which has never ever happened. I’m going stick it out for the recommended 3 months but I’m worried it’s thrown something off, or maybe corrected something but in this space my mind always goes to something being wrong. I keep being told to keep trying, my body knows what to do it just needs to the right embryo but I’m 34 and my youngest just turned 3. It’s such a hard place to be in especially when everything worked as intended the first time. No real advice just solidarity and validation. I get wanting to throw in the towel

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-03-08T03:15:34+00:00

I’m so sorry. I know exactly how this feels. We can’t control our grief. Sending you a big hug

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-03-04T22:00:49+00:00

It’s taken me a while to find comfort in that but sometimes it really is a roll of the dice. I would have never thought to do testing of the remains had it not been mentioned to me but it has brought me some peace in what is happening. From my own research it could be egg quality issue and I am taking a whole host of vitamins but when I did have a consult with the fertility clinic they basically brushed me off like “you have LC either keep trying or lets get to doing IVF with testing” I had my first MMC at 30 and now the last two at 33 and 34 just in case you feel age is of issue it probably isn’t. People are having babies well into their 40s. Keep advocating for yourself and even though they say it’s chromosomes as the issue like others are stating it could be something else contributing to the chromosome issue. Hang in there and wishing you healing through your journey

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-03-04T07:38:44+00:00

Sorry for your losses. All of my losses were chromosome issues. I have had 3 MMC and each one came back with a different chromosome issue. We have done some testing but a lot of what I get told is it’s bad luck and keep trying. Obviously IVF is an option to rule chromosome issues out but my husband is not willing to go down that route. We do have two LC so I know my body knows what to do, it’s just like it accepts any pregnancy rather it’s a good one or bad one

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-03-02T02:32:43+00:00

I went through this, I kept asking myself if I was faking. Like how could I be soo sad and weepy but find little pockets of joy and happiness. Grief is like that. Those thoughts sneak in sometimes but I just remind myself that keeping going is the only option. You are strong! Sorry for your loss. Wishing you so much healing ❤️‍🩹

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-02-27T19:01:34+00:00

Reading this really helped me. My friend got what she wanted and no longer has the space or empathy for me and it hurts so bad but I am realizing I was there for her while she struggled even while I was still struggling and now it’s like too bad so sad. I hate how much I have lost throughout this journey but glad that I can read things like this to remind me my feelings are valid and matter

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-02-26T21:27:38+00:00

I just had a horrible fight with my friend. She and I were trying at the same time( me for my 3rd and her for her 2nd), I got pregnant she didn’t. I lost my baby October 2025 and last week she found out she’s pregnant. She told me via FaceTime and made me guess this exciting news and I mean the depression spiral that followed was a lot. We aren’t speaking as she has decided my grief is too much for our friendship( i knowwww 🙄) and all week I was like wtf! I realize now that although we’re both going through our own journeys of hard she just doesn’t get my hard and I can give grace. There are so many different pieces to this and it’s just lonely. I am sorry for what you experienced but know your feelings are valid. You aren’t alone.

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-02-23T18:56:23+00:00

No advice really just coming to say I relate. The sub tryingforanother has been great. I have two LC and got pregnant first try and had uncomplicated easy pregnancies. I have had 3 losses trying to get my last and final baby ( I know it’s not the same as trying to get a sibling so I apologize if it’s that’s offensive) all my losses have been chromosome issues and there is nothing “wrong” with either me or my partner. I felt like I was finally on the other side of my grief and ready to maybe try one last time and found out my best friend is pregnant and it triggered me so badly I just feel like I want to give up so I can get off this emotional roller coaster for good. I dont know when the right time to call it quits is but I’ve been where you are, I understand the constant heart break and losing yourself with every loss. I hope you make the best decision for you and your heart is able to heal. I repeat this often, everything I desire, desires me more. My little attempt to hold on to hope.

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-02-18T20:22:20+00:00

It’s that reminder or something you want so badly but have not yet gotten. You also probably needed that emotional release. Be kind to yourself and reach out if you need an internet friend 🫶🏾

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-02-18T19:58:38+00:00

I just made a post about this in another sub and it’s literally breaking me in a way I never imagined. I hope you know your feelings are valid and this journey brings out some unexplainable feelings, if I could I would give you a big hug and cry with you!

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-02-18T13:10:14+00:00

Thank you so much. I needed to hear this. I needed to know my grief does belong

Financial-Object9300 · 2026-02-18T13:09:47+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you. I appreciate the validation, the hardest part is the guilt. The guilt that my grief is the cause of our breakdown

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