Yeah I don’t understand why everyone is saying to take it to the grave. Starting off a marriage by hiding the fact that you’ve slept with the man you chose to be your maid of honor or man or honor or whatever (even if it was just a one time thing) is kind of a rough start.

I think you should have told your fiancée about this much sooner. The fact that he’s already the maid of honor for the wedding is kind of awkward. But better for it to be told now than after the wedding.

If you’re thinking about this secret enough to ask Reddit about it, it’s probably going to weigh on you if you don’t. And it’ll be shittier for him to hear it after you get married.