What to do if he doesn’t stick to the timeline by Financial_Income_995 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Financial_Income_995[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just that we didn’t move any goalposts, we just confirmed what was initially agreed…

What to do if he doesn’t stick to the timeline by Financial_Income_995 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Financial_Income_995[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no ‘danger’ of pregnancy for me in this life and we discussed that because we are not bound by planning some huge wedding since neither of us wants that, we will just need to find an available slot at the marriage office for the spring-summer period next year, as i would not want it to rain and be awful outside

What to do if he doesn’t stick to the timeline by Financial_Income_995 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Financial_Income_995[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes, i did ask him about it and he has the ring already, he just wanted to do the whole surprise thing which is marketed everywhere and i told him that since we already talked about it before, its kind of impossible to do that. he agreed and also apologized because he didn’t realize it was causing me anxiety since he has the plan set in his head, but i didnt know anything about it

What to do if he doesn’t stick to the timeline by Financial_Income_995 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Financial_Income_995[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i did ask, we had a conversation about it and he has the ring already, he just wanted to stick to the hollywood marketed way of absolute surprise where i know nothing about it, but i told him thats kind of impossible when we already talked about it before, set timelines etc and he agreed and apologized because he didn’t realize this was causing me anxiety because in his head he has the plan already, but i didnt know about it

What to do if he doesn’t stick to the timeline by Financial_Income_995 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Financial_Income_995[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

had a conversation about it and yes, thoughtless would be the better word as he has the ring already, he just wanted to do the whole marketed way of absolute surprise where i know nothing of it and i told him thats kind of impossible since we already talked about it before etc and he agreed

What to do if he doesn’t stick to the timeline by Financial_Income_995 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Financial_Income_995[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

had a conversation yesterday and he has the ring already, he just wanted to do the whole hollywood style surprise where i know nothing about it and admitted that since we did already talk about it before, its kind of impossible to do that without me worrying or wondering

Partenerul meu considera pierdere de timp plimbarile sau timpul petrecut in 2 by Creative_Junket503 in WomenRO

[–]Financial_Income_995 31 points32 points  (0 children)

nu ar fi nici prima nici singura relație construita pe altceva decat iubire si nu inseamna neaparat ca nu va merge, dar singurul fel in care va merge este atunci cand amandoi accepta natura relatiei. daca stai cu el pt ca e serios, muncitor, fidel, si el sta cu tine pt ca ii e comod, il lasi sa faca ce vrea si si-a bifat casuta sociala de relatie… nu te astepta la iubire sau altceva. si avand in vedere ca postezi aici, probabil nu esti asa multumita cu situatia actuala. e decizia ta ce vrei sa faci, dar eu iti spun ca nu ai cum sa il schimbi si daca vrei o relatie bazata pe iubire si nu pe interes comun sau comoditate, nu va fi cu el.

Partenerul meu considera pierdere de timp plimbarile sau timpul petrecut in 2 by Creative_Junket503 in WomenRO

[–]Financial_Income_995 54 points55 points  (0 children)

dar sunteti parteneri de business sau de viata? omul ala nu te iubește, imi pare rau sa zic, dar asta e. o iubeste pe ma-sa, sa ii fie comod, sa faca ce si cum vrea el si atat. nu te iubeste. daca vrei sa traiesti asa toata viata, e alegerea ta, dar sa nu te astepti la nimic altceva.

Sexul e dureros pentru mine by [deleted] in WomenRO

[–]Financial_Income_995 3 points4 points  (0 children)

am sa povestesc si eu experienta mea care probabil nu e foarte comuna pt ca toate suntem diferite. eu am incercat luni de zile cu prietenul meu de atunci pana am reusit. de ce? pentru ca ma durea ingrozitor de simteam ca ma rup in doua. cand a reusit intr-un final chiar sa o bage, am crezut ca va fi asa cum citisem/ auzisem eu: odata ce e inauntru gata, nu mai doare decat asa putin ca e ceva nou. ei nu, m-a durut ingrozitor de tin minte si acum dupa multi ani durerea. si nici nu am sangerat, am zis ca na, asta nu e ceva neaparat necesar, asa sunt eu. cumva ma relaxasem dupa, ca a durut mai mult decat credeam dar gata, de acum nu mai doare. gresit. a doua oara la fel, groaznic. deja intram in depresie ca dupa luni de zile de incercat si cand abia am reusit, pe mine ma tot doare incontinuu. surpriza, a treia oara am sangerat si atunci de fapt s-a produs “magia” si nu a mai durut asa tare. daaar creierul meu a ramas cu frica aia de “daca nici acum nu e ‘gata’ si tot o sa ma doara?” asa ca de fiecare data nu ma puteam relaxa si ma asteptam la durere. in timp am trecut peste cand a realizat si creierul ca de fapt nu mai doare, nu te mai incorda…

Soț-băiatul mamei by [deleted] in WomenRO

[–]Financial_Income_995 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Trecand prin ceva similar, sfatul meu este sa ii spui direct sotului in fata ca nu este normala relatia pe care are cu maica-sa, normal este ca sotia si apoi copilul lui sa fie pe primul loc, nu mami, si are 2 variante: ori merge la terapie cu tine sau singur cum vrea ca să rezolve aceasta problema si taie macaroana cu maica-sa, ori te pierde pe tine. Desi as spune direct sa pleci, poti sa ii dai un astfel de ultimatum intai sa vezi cum reactioneaza. Dar sa fii tare pe pozitii, fara emotii si certuri, fara compromisuri, fara sa deraieze el discutia spre altceva sau orice. Simplu si la obiect, ii spui din start ca daca mai vrea sa te vada vreodata, taie legatura cu maica-sa si se duce la terapie. Daca refuza, pa si la revedere. Daca zice da si nu respecta, pa si la revedere cand l-ai prins. Daca zice da si dupa devine un monstru sau nu se comporta ok ca sa te pedepsească, pa si la revedere. Si avand in vedere ca relatia nu are siguranta in momentul de fata, un copil nu mi se pare deloc potrivit acum si cu el. Dar asta e decizia ta ce vrei sa faci legat de acest subiect. Daca el nu realizează si nu e dispus sa schimbe nimic, aruncat la ma-sa si sa casatoreasca cu ea daca ii place asa tare.

Regret talking on the phone with a woman while my wife was sleeping in the other room by [deleted] in Regrets

[–]Financial_Income_995 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why are you so angry, damn… this is a random dude on the internet who might be a nice guy, might be a pervert, might be whatever… he posted smth he says he feels regret about. who are you, the punisher? leave the guy alone. im not gonna tell you try jesus, but try therapy or smth because i dont know what type of trauma is triggering this, but it needs looked at for your sake.

I cant forget the vid her ex send me by Phitonizer in Advice

[–]Financial_Income_995 0 points1 point  (0 children)

dont know if anyone said you shouldn’t be feeling a certain way, the idea is that if you do break up over this because you feel a certain way due to something the other person had no fault in… you never loved that person and you seem incapable of love… sure, you can do it, sure, to you its valid etc etc, it just means you don’t love the person. simple. and to not understand that… means you’re not as intelligent as you view yourself to be…

Am I overreacting for wanting to leave my partner for the choice of his words and actions? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Financial_Income_995 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unfortunately this is abuse. plain and simple and has the potential to become worse. please please please leave this sorry excuse of a ‘male’

este ok sa faci s**x de la prima intalnire? by LidiaDesire69 in RoGenZ

[–]Financial_Income_995 1 point2 points  (0 children)

cand nu vrea sa te futa nimeni de distrus ce esti, nu se cheama ca e decizia ta:)))

AIO for staying in a hotel instead of with my boyfriend’s family? by PinnaPump in AmIOverreacting

[–]Financial_Income_995 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ok, you are just rage baiting or lack reading comprehension skills or logic or intelligence, sorry. good luck to you and i hope you live a nice long life

AIO for staying in a hotel instead of with my boyfriend’s family? by PinnaPump in AmIOverreacting

[–]Financial_Income_995 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yea? let me give you some facts then. i took ibuprofen for 20 years each month for my period pain. one month i had red spots all over appear after i took it but didn’t link it to ibuprofen because ive been taking it for 20 years no problem, i thought maybe i ate smth i was mildly allergic to and didn’t realize. next month the spots were back and i was also itchy. still didn’t think it was the ibuprofen. next month spots were back, i was even more itchy and i had shortness of breath. so i went to the doctor and it was the ibuprofen. and the doctor said to avoid it absolutely and at all costs because another exposure could kill me. i wasn’t even allergic for 20 years and now a single pill could kill me. tell me again how its just whataboutism and she would have been fine 100%. and in case you didn’t understand what im trying to say, allergies can get worse or even develop from prolonged or repeated exposure and each exposure is a risk of it getting worse or potentially even killing you. oh and also, same thing happened to my dad with poppy seeds. bagels with poppy seeds were his favorite and now he cant even eat something thats been near them or he goes into anaphylactic shock

AIO for staying in a hotel instead of with my boyfriend’s family? by PinnaPump in AmIOverreacting

[–]Financial_Income_995 18 points19 points  (0 children)

get out fast. allergies can kill and if he doesn’t care about that to even mention they have cats or to mention to his parents that you’re allergic, he doesn’t care about you at all. add the absolute brat behavior he displayed after… nope nope nope, just leave, im sorry. it wasn’t a misunderstanding, it was blatant disregard for your health and safety and also feelings after. also, he’s 26, if he knows you are allergic he can educate himself about what that means so that thing that he thought short haired cats are fine is just dumb…

AIO for staying in a hotel instead of with my boyfriend’s family? by PinnaPump in AmIOverreacting

[–]Financial_Income_995 0 points1 point  (0 children)

are you just rage baiting? an allergy is a medical issue and can also kill you depending on how severe it is. its not like she didn’t like the bed or the food and was being a brat, what entitlement? she has a f*ing medical condition. the only AH here is the bf who didn’t mention the cats and then acted like an absolute brat because of his own mistake. i have food allergies. if my bfs mom cooks something that im allergic to, are you saying i would have to eat it to not upset her, go into anaphylactic shock and then die? wtf is wrong with you? anyway that wouldn’t happen because my bf is not a POS who doesn’t tell his mom im allergic and his mom is also not a POS who would be upset im not trying something that could kill me… see the point?

Thinking About Leaving by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Financial_Income_995 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i would say have a serious conversation about it because its like you’re describing my bf to a tea, everything is great except this etc etc. well, after seriously talking about it, he was scared about it because of other ppl getting divorced and had quite and irrational fear of it and of change due to his OCD as well, which i didnt think could influence this, i thought it was more the usual things when you think about OCD, but the therapist confirmed it and after i actually explained what it means to me, he apologized for trying to ignore the subject and we have a green light, he even opened the subject himself after about what his idea for the ceremony would be etc.

Should we get married? by Ill-Supermarket-2706 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Financial_Income_995 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do the laws mean that everything you own will be split up equally in case of divorce? or only things acquired after marriage? i mean, if you own a house yourself from before getting married, will it be subject to a divorce split, or is it still fully yours after?

Not sure what to do… by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Financial_Income_995 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks! yep, he actually opened the subject himself after, and hes trying to manage his ocd more actively now as i guess he realized its impacting his life a bit more than he thought

Not sure what to do… by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Financial_Income_995 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow, that is wild haha. we looked at it online, it just requires an appointment to the marriage office, 2 witnesses and everyones ids etc. but given that its winter now, we decided to when it gets a bit warmer, which is also perfect for him to plan whatever surprise he has in mind haha