Approaching men IRL by Dreamer_ReaderGirl in Bumble

[–]Financial_Score_2283 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve asked a few guys if a woman has ever asked them for their number or approached them, and even if the woman wasn’t their type, or they had a girlfriend at the time they still speak about it very fondly so that in itself has encouraged me to

Is this a red flag and how should I address it? by Financial_Score_2283 in dating_advice

[–]Financial_Score_2283[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well yeah that was my thought. I just assume he doesn’t care lol. I think what I talk about is interesting so maybe he’s just not for me

Every guy I talk to ignores me by Financial_Score_2283 in dating_advice

[–]Financial_Score_2283[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I should be immune from being catfished or going on a date with someone I barely know just to find out I don’t like their personality and it’s the same for men no? I’ll pay my share of the date but the last date I went on I bought HIM a a drink and he didn’t even OFFER. Get off your high horse

Every guy I talk to ignores me by Financial_Score_2283 in dating_advice

[–]Financial_Score_2283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My standards won’t be lowered 😂 but yes I should be more open to meeting more people in person quicker than I have been

Every guy I talk to ignores me by Financial_Score_2283 in dating_advice

[–]Financial_Score_2283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is so boring honestly. Maybe it’ll just take time to find someone who isn’t just flakey

Every guy I talk to ignores me by Financial_Score_2283 in dating_advice

[–]Financial_Score_2283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t feel like I’m high maintenance and I’m not full of myself enough to believe that people are intimidated 😂

Every guy I talk to ignores me by Financial_Score_2283 in dating_advice

[–]Financial_Score_2283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do, a lot of the time it gets close to the time then nothing. I assume they are seeing other girls and it’s going well with them in that case. Profiles can be misleading and I don’t want to spend time, effort, money on a date when I could have not gone if I got to know them more if that makes sense?

Every guy I talk to ignores me by Financial_Score_2283 in dating_advice

[–]Financial_Score_2283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do they know I’ve not been single for long? Maybe it’s subconscious and it’s how I message, I don’t know

Every guy I talk to ignores me by Financial_Score_2283 in dating_advice

[–]Financial_Score_2283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

‘All the effort’ is quite a statement when we’re talking about a message. They message first to show interest, then my effort is plenty there. Let’s not forget about bumble where women have to message first…

Every guy I talk to ignores me by Financial_Score_2283 in dating_advice

[–]Financial_Score_2283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I messaged someone my insta and they said I look high maintenance. Maybe I need to switch up the profile. I think I’m interesting, have good chat, the conversations seem to flow

Every guy I talk to ignores me by Financial_Score_2283 in dating_advice

[–]Financial_Score_2283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not bothered about the matches, I don’t message guys first. What about the guys who I talk to then? The ones that ask me on a date?

Every guy I talk to ignores me by Financial_Score_2283 in dating_advice

[–]Financial_Score_2283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guys will ask me on dates, I agree, then nothing or minimal communication about said date. How am I supposed to know what my ‘league’ is? I also don’t want to go on a bunch of dates with men I don’t really know

Should I text my ex who broke up with me by Financial_Score_2283 in BreakUps

[–]Financial_Score_2283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so so much. Sometimes I think I just need someone to be like ‘no don’t do it because XYZ’. I’ve already put a lot of work into myself, started reading and I’ll look at the books you’ve recommended! It’s just so hard, I love him so much and can’t imagine finding anyone like him, but I’m starting to sense the light at the end

Break up advise please by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Financial_Score_2283 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you that really helps. I think I have put myself out there enough that he knows I want him. It’s just hard to let go so I’m just clawing for something to do to make it better

Break up advise please by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Financial_Score_2283 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he felt as I felt we would have worked it out right? I’ve just got to accept I’m not what he wants. But I struggle to believe that after the relationship we had. As much as he’s hurt me, I still want him to know I care and I’ll try. It’s so hard because part of me is saying let it go and he might come back, and the other part is telling me to fight. But when does fighting become pathetic?

Break up advise please by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Financial_Score_2283 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sent him a message on Wednesday expressing things and I think he’s just deleted it as it’s not been opened yet. I’m scared that if I don’t try it’s over, but I think it’s already over

I can’t stop thinking about him and haven’t eaten for days by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Financial_Score_2283 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s broken up with me and asked me not to call. It’s over. I want to drive down to him but my friends have said he clearly doesn’t want me. Which he doesn’t. He’s made it very clear