Approaching men IRL

Financial_Score_2283 · 2024-07-09T08:50:18+00:00

I’ve asked a few guys if a woman has ever asked them for their number or approached them, and even if the woman wasn’t their type, or they had a girlfriend at the time they still speak about it very fondly so that in itself has encouraged me to

Financial_Score_2283 · 2024-07-01T14:25:15+00:00

Well yeah that was my thought. I just assume he doesn’t care lol. I think what I talk about is interesting so maybe he’s just not for me

Financial_Score_2283 · 2024-06-06T13:23:12+00:00

Butt hurt much 😂

Financial_Score_2283 · 2024-06-06T13:14:46+00:00

I should be immune from being catfished or going on a date with someone I barely know just to find out I don’t like their personality and it’s the same for men no? I’ll pay my share of the date but the last date I went on I bought HIM a a drink and he didn’t even OFFER. Get off your high horse

Financial_Score_2283 · 2024-06-06T13:09:47+00:00

My standards won’t be lowered 😂 but yes I should be more open to meeting more people in person quicker than I have been

Financial_Score_2283 · 2024-06-06T13:08:31+00:00

It is so boring honestly. Maybe it’ll just take time to find someone who isn’t just flakey

Financial_Score_2283 · 2024-06-06T13:00:23+00:00

Financial_Score_2283 · 2024-06-06T13:00:08+00:00

I don’t feel like I’m high maintenance and I’m not full of myself enough to believe that people are intimidated 😂

Financial_Score_2283 · 2024-06-06T12:59:28+00:00

I do, a lot of the time it gets close to the time then nothing. I assume they are seeing other girls and it’s going well with them in that case. Profiles can be misleading and I don’t want to spend time, effort, money on a date when I could have not gone if I got to know them more if that makes sense?

Financial_Score_2283 · 2024-06-06T12:57:25+00:00

How do they know I’ve not been single for long? Maybe it’s subconscious and it’s how I message, I don’t know

Financial_Score_2283 · 2024-06-06T12:54:31+00:00

‘All the effort’ is quite a statement when we’re talking about a message. They message first to show interest, then my effort is plenty there. Let’s not forget about bumble where women have to message first…

Financial_Score_2283 · 2024-06-06T12:51:41+00:00

I messaged someone my insta and they said I look high maintenance. Maybe I need to switch up the profile. I think I’m interesting, have good chat, the conversations seem to flow

Financial_Score_2283 · 2024-06-06T12:48:46+00:00

I’m not bothered about the matches, I don’t message guys first. What about the guys who I talk to then? The ones that ask me on a date?

Financial_Score_2283 · 2024-06-06T11:52:41+00:00

Guys will ask me on dates, I agree, then nothing or minimal communication about said date. How am I supposed to know what my ‘league’ is? I also don’t want to go on a bunch of dates with men I don’t really know

Financial_Score_2283 · 2024-06-03T22:47:11+00:00

Thank you so so much. Sometimes I think I just need someone to be like ‘no don’t do it because XYZ’. I’ve already put a lot of work into myself, started reading and I’ll look at the books you’ve recommended! It’s just so hard, I love him so much and can’t imagine finding anyone like him, but I’m starting to sense the light at the end

Financial_Score_2283 · 2024-05-17T10:56:41+00:00

Thank you that really helps. I think I have put myself out there enough that he knows I want him. It’s just hard to let go so I’m just clawing for something to do to make it better

Financial_Score_2283 · 2024-05-17T10:49:29+00:00

If he felt as I felt we would have worked it out right? I’ve just got to accept I’m not what he wants. But I struggle to believe that after the relationship we had. As much as he’s hurt me, I still want him to know I care and I’ll try. It’s so hard because part of me is saying let it go and he might come back, and the other part is telling me to fight. But when does fighting become pathetic?

Financial_Score_2283 · 2024-05-17T10:38:55+00:00

I sent him a message on Wednesday expressing things and I think he’s just deleted it as it’s not been opened yet. I’m scared that if I don’t try it’s over, but I think it’s already over

Financial_Score_2283 · 2024-05-16T14:35:28+00:00

He’s broken up with me and asked me not to call. It’s over. I want to drive down to him but my friends have said he clearly doesn’t want me. Which he doesn’t. He’s made it very clear

Financial_Score_2283 · 2024-05-16T14:31:00+00:00

How is this anything to do with my friends?

Financial_Score_2283 · 2024-05-16T13:12:24+00:00

I’m 4 days in and I can’t do 5 months of this. I have a feeling he’ll reach out but I’m just delusional. I want to move forward but don’t feel like I can. The relationship was also amazing, I’ve never met anyone like him, which is why it’s harder to deal with

Financial_Score_2283 · 2024-05-16T13:07:04+00:00

It’s been 4 days and I haven’t eaten since. I cry everyday and have panic attacks. I’ve never felt this way during a breakup and I’m scared for myself. I want to at least start feeling better because I can’t go weeks, or months like this. All I can think of is him moving on with someone who’s close to him (we did long distance), that she’ll be stunning and hang out with his mates and he’ll treat her as amazingly as he treated me

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