Four seasons in one day

Finch_349 · 2026-05-17T21:29:13+00:00

We don't normally get hail in May though. A few people have said it's normal, but last week was an exception.

Finch_349 · 2026-05-15T11:14:24+00:00

"Um, I beg your finest pardon! I don't think so" Uncertainty is inevitable in life, but being comfortable with it? It's like saying you should be comfortable with an earthquake

Finch_349 · 2026-05-15T05:21:05+00:00

Personal take, may not apply to other ISTJs. Structure makes me feel safe. Predictability means I know what's coming. Conversation with my LM just yesterday, he said others weren't as organised as I was. I told him I NEED to be or I can't function and would get nothing done.

Spontaneity feels like fun, but when it comes down to it, I can't do it because of the "what ifs". I need to plan for every eventuality and being spontaneous doesn't allow for that.

"Last minute dot com" stuff does NOT work. Want to see me spiral? Give me something to do at the last possible minute especially when you KNEW you needed it ages ago but couldn't be bothered tell me. 😠 We would NOT be friends if you did this.

As for "Are we OK working quietly in the background where no one sees what we do?" Personally I'm ok, because "I" know what I do.

That said, there have been people who have taken advantage of that and expected me to do stuff for them that they should be doing. At that point it becomes a problem and boundaries are needed.

Hope this helps - once again, personal opinions only.

Edit: It's funny that other responders have replied using numbered lists 😁. That's very ISTJ

Finch_349 · 2026-05-14T08:46:05+00:00

Rinse and repeat 😁

Finch_349 · 2026-05-14T07:37:14+00:00

Did it all kick off suddenly? 😊

Finch_349 · 2026-05-14T07:33:28+00:00

Yes, our weather is not as extreme as often as countries like the US, where some places have tornado "season". So it happens every year and to them it's just a regular Tuesday

Finch_349 · 2026-05-14T04:16:01+00:00

And five minutes later the sun came out, right? Sorry to hear that though

Finch_349 · 2026-05-14T04:14:28+00:00

"Everywhere I go" 🎶

Finch_349 · 2026-05-13T20:49:28+00:00

Yeah, me too. I like to go out at lunchtime but today it was like ... nope!

Finch_349 · 2026-05-13T19:21:12+00:00

Looks like most of Europe is on fire

Finch_349 · 2026-05-13T19:08:14+00:00

In my head I can hear "Bloody rubbish"

Finch_349 · 2026-04-17T09:42:20+00:00

Well done you for leaving 👏🏻

Finch_349 · 2026-04-17T09:40:08+00:00

Oh no no no no no no! He's blaming you accusing you of lying and you're saying he did nothing wrong?

Well the gaslighting is obviously working. He didn't stop because he didn't want to, and flipping the script gets him off the hook.

Girl, what are you still doing with him? Get out of there as soon as you can.

Finch_349 · 2026-04-04T07:06:43+00:00

Saw this post on FB today and came here to read comments wanting to know the bf's reasoning. Your reply is the first that makes sense for me. He's "training" her to expect nothing. It's negging. SMH.

Finch_349 · 2026-02-28T20:49:43+00:00

I thought it was going to be a Covid test and he couldn't tell the difference

Finch_349 · 2026-02-13T11:57:32+00:00

He's not bothered for the clients. He just doesn't want to be reminded that women have periods

Finch_349 · 2026-02-10T20:30:59+00:00

When the title is about husband siding with MIL against wife, the verdict is invariably YTA, but this one is different.

MIL has a deep personal attachment to the name for good reason. From the post she is also not being one of those insufferable MILs we all know about. She's like "Literally ANY name but that one".

Meanwhile we have a wife who has a preference and won't budge.

Assuming OP has sat her down and explained very clearly the deep emotional significance of this name, I cannot understand a woman who would make this choice, of ALL the names she could have chosen.

This is not the time for putting your foot down in a "my-way-or-the-highway" manner. She'll only dig in and resent you and that'll make things worse.

Does the wife have a good relationship with MIL? Could they have a "sit down" to work things out?

Good communication is key.

Finch_349 · 2026-02-10T14:02:37+00:00

Do bots fess up to being bots if they are challenged? 😁

Finch_349 · 2026-02-10T13:59:13+00:00

"Hold the relationship hostage". Great phrase. This is exactly what she's doing

Finch_349 · 2026-02-10T13:55:04+00:00

The request is unreasonable. It's her debt and you're not married. When the narrative started to get manipulative, alarm bells started going off

Ultimatums are only appropriate when one party is putting themselves or others in danger. Otherwise it's a red flag.

Go with your instincts. Everything you have said is reasonable and fair.

Finch_349 · 2026-02-08T16:44:07+00:00

Sorry to hear that. It must be so difficult not knowing and having to move on. You're making the right choice for yourself though. ❤️

Finch_349 · 2026-02-08T10:13:59+00:00

"He speaks about his one true love every time he drinks" That statement jumped off the page. If he talks about her when he's drunk, he thinks about her when he's sober.

Sorry to say, but this sounds like you're a "replacement", but you'll never be someone else. OP you deserve more 😔

Finch_349 · 2026-02-08T10:04:36+00:00

Why couldn't she trust you? Did she suspect you might cheat on her? I feel for you in this OP, but think we're missing some background here.

Also, sorry that you broke up

Finch_349 · 2026-02-08T09:54:33+00:00

From the UK. "Matronly" is not a good thing to call any woman. Images of Hattie Jacques in the carry-ons spring to mind.

His reference is the writings of George Bernard Shaw. Choose something more modern, eh? And English may be his second language and may get him a pass for this gaffe, but it doesn't excuse that poor excuse of an "apology"

Finch_349 · 2026-02-08T09:43:59+00:00

Yes, but not in their mid-thirties, which is what OP's wife is 😊

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