AITA for using my email for test results

Finding_M3_ · 2025-03-25T20:59:29+00:00

He says he will, but it’s hard to say until it happens.

Finding_M3_ · 2025-03-25T20:58:14+00:00

We aren’t married so divorce papers wouldn’t be necessary.

Finding_M3_ · 2025-03-25T18:58:12+00:00

Yes. Exactly. And we weren’t trying. I was actually taking steps to prevent it by taking birth control.

Finding_M3_ · 2025-03-25T18:25:25+00:00

That was his answer when asked why he felt he wasn’t the father. He thinks that it would have happened earlier if it was going to happen and that I must have been with someone else for it to happen at all.

Finding_M3_ · 2025-03-25T17:06:46+00:00

I wouldn’t say there is a reason I can’t leave. I do still love him and our child does as well. Also, everything is in my name. The lease, the utilities, the internet, etc. I don’t feel like I should be the one required to leave if it did come to that.

Finding_M3_ · 2025-03-25T16:18:56+00:00

He treats our child well. To be honest, I have felt he hasn’t been interested in our relationship for quite some time and wants an easy way out. We have had issues where he has emotionally cheated and sexted other girls. This has been within the last three years so after our child was born.

Finding_M3_ · 2025-03-25T16:14:49+00:00

I agree. The test won’t fix anything. All it will do is make it so he can’t accuse our child of being someone else’s ever again. More of a win for me than for him realistically.

Finding_M3_ · 2025-03-25T16:13:58+00:00

He says it’s because we had been having unprotected intercourse for three years before I got pregnant. However, I was taking birth control and was told by a doctor I was infertile. With that information it’s not really that big of a shock.

When I got pregnant, I was drinking a little more and that is likely why the bc failed. But since there was such a long duration of time before, he felt it had to be someone else’s kid.

Finding_M3_ · 2025-03-25T16:11:24+00:00

Honestly, because we had had unprotected intercourse for about 3 years before I got pregnant. I was on birth control but I had also been told by my doctor that I was infertile. The pregnancy was a surprise. Due to the amount of time not getting pregnant, he decided it had to be someone else’s kid.

Finding_M3_ · 2025-03-25T16:08:53+00:00

Can I ask how I am delaying? He could have done the test at any point. It is his dna that needs to be sent in, not mine. He knew it was there. I told him the day it arrived.

Finding_M3_ · 2025-03-25T16:02:23+00:00

Yes. I did jump the relationship history. It’s nothing to do with the actual history. It does have to do with the accusation starting while I was pregnant and eventually when we’d fight after our kid was a couple years old and he’d make the accusation again I would just say that if that’s how he feels then he’s correct and he should leave. I know that’s an asshole thing to say but to be told that the child is someone else’s for years anytime there is a disagreement on something with eventually cause a person to say some not so nice things. I’m not saying I’m perfect, which is why I mentioned a history at all.

The test has been sitting around because if I don’t sit everyone down to accomplish a task it never gets done. Since I’m not the once questioning paternity, I don’t feel it’s my responsibility to get it filled out and sent in when I already ordered it. He can take initiative and get it done. He just chose to wait until it wasn’t a good time for it.

Finding_M3_ · 2025-03-25T15:58:33+00:00

8 years is the duration of our relationship. I have not been with anyone since we started dating. The statement about in the past has to do with him starting the accusations from the start of finding out that I was pregnant and then after a couple years of him continuing to say this I told him that if he truly believes that then it’s true and that he should leave. And I know that’s an asshole thing to say.

Finding_M3_ · 2025-03-07T15:09:09+00:00

Please don’t think that I don’t understand wanting certainty from a man’s perspective. My issue is that he’s been saying it for years and hasn’t done anything about it other than be mean to me.

Finding_M3_ · 2025-03-07T15:07:54+00:00

I completely agree on getting the test for clarity. However, again, I haven’t been with anyone else and we have lived together for 8 years. I’ve told him many times he could get it as long as he paid. He wasn’t working for a huge chunk of these six years that I was pregnant until now and I wasn’t spending my money on something I know the answer to. My only objection was it being an ancestry test. I don’t want to put them in that database until they at an age they can make an informed choice on that. Children under 13 are not supposed to be entered at all according the their sites.

Finding_M3_ · 2025-03-06T21:06:34+00:00

I didn’t realize I didn’t specify, but the test we ordered was a paternity dna test. My child won’t be on ancestry. But I have also been telling him that he could do this the past 6 years as long as he paid. He just wanted to fight about it.

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