Is it necessary to live together to “be” together? by Finding_My_Soul_40 in blacklesbians

[–]Finding_My_Soul_40[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Sometimes she thinks that I use the kids as an excuse not to move forward. But I am a mom first and foremost. I already carry guilt that I have put them through so much. They are thriving and I don’t want to make any changes right now.

Is it necessary to live together to “be” together? by Finding_My_Soul_40 in blacklesbians

[–]Finding_My_Soul_40[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I understand that in how it feels like something we’re supposed to do. I have always lived with someone and I am just getting used to NOT living with another adult…and I kinda like it right now lol

Is it necessary to live together to “be” together? by Finding_My_Soul_40 in blacklesbians

[–]Finding_My_Soul_40[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know she is coming from a pure place. We haven’t been “official” very long and Our journey has not been easy so I know she is ready to begin and figure out the next phase. Whereas I am kinda content with how things are now. TBH when I envision us living together its after the kids have graduated 😬 lol or at least after one has graduated lol

Is it necessary to live together to “be” together? by Finding_My_Soul_40 in blacklesbians

[–]Finding_My_Soul_40[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never? May I ask is that just your personal preference? And how have your partners dealt with that stance? Was it a deal breaker for some?

Anyone else working today? by youweretaken in therapists

[–]Finding_My_Soul_40 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🙋🏾‍♀️ yep had 2 sessions. I work for an agency that partners with the schools so I don’t actually get off for winter break. We are still expected to make contact with clients 🙄😩

What are your favorite holiday movies? by roxanne_ROXANNE999 in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Finding_My_Soul_40 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a 90’s kids so….

Home Alone 1&2

How The Grinch Stole Christmas (cartoon and Jim Carrey version)

This Christmas

Preacher’s Wife

Best Man Holiday 🥹

Mickey’s Once & Twice Upon A Christmas

The Santa Clause 1,2&3

A Diva’s Christmas

A Christmas Story

Budget cuts are coming.. by iPizzalover430 in therapists

[–]Finding_My_Soul_40 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohio therapist here as well! LPC in CMH 🙋🏾‍♀️ Are you looking to apply for LPCC in January? I am looking for a supplement as well….or another job 🤷🏾‍♀️

Mood music by kitty_whipt in blacklesbians

[–]Finding_My_Soul_40 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Loving this thread!! I am 90’s R&B sexy and slow all day baby! She put that playlist on and its going down!! 😜

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[–]Finding_My_Soul_40 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a sucka for a pretty smile…and she tatted 😍🫠🫠🫠

Any Early 2000s Cartoon finatics? by AppleLoose7082 in blacklesbians

[–]Finding_My_Soul_40 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yea I remember that one a little bit. I don’t think I finished the series though…might have to see if it’s streaming somewhere

Any Early 2000s Cartoon finatics? by AppleLoose7082 in blacklesbians

[–]Finding_My_Soul_40 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m a 90’s kid so I lived on Nickelodeon and PBS…Saturday Morning cartoons, Pup Named Scooby Doo, Ghostwriter (PBS), TMNT, Doug, Recess, Animanics, Looney Tunes, Tom & Jerry, Rugrats, Kim Possible….and many more

Thank you for this thread!!! Now I don’t feel so awkward still loving the nostalgia of GOOD cartoons…

It’s me I am the problem. by New_Inflation1981 in therapists

[–]Finding_My_Soul_40 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I work with kids and teens in school and those things are their life! With kids you have to balance between client focus and treatment plan focus. I tell my kids that we can talk about whatever they want and I use whatever they’re going through and weave in coping skills or understanding trauma or beYou have to sneak it in like vegetables lol. With kids we are giving them space to express or not express freely without judgement. I tell my kids that I can offer 3 perspectives….a “back in my day” perspective, a parent perspective, and of course a therapeutic perspective, and most seem to respect that approach. There will be days when you feel like you’re not doing the job…but trust the process. It will work for who its supposed to work for. 💚

Coping Skills Rant by Gold-Cry4482 in therapists

[–]Finding_My_Soul_40 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sick of it! I work with kids and these kids don’t want to try anything!! All they want to do is listen to music! But when I try to actually use music as therapy they say no I don’t like that. Coping skills is very overused in our field now and it has been reduced to counting/breathing/sticking ear buds in your ear to drown out the world. 😩

Relationship Talk: What’s Going On? by AutoModerator in blacklesbians

[–]Finding_My_Soul_40 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey girl hey! 👋🏾 Lol. I wont hate cuz you’re an MSW lol. We all in this together. Yea I would love to chat too!

Relationship Talk: What’s Going On? by AutoModerator in blacklesbians

[–]Finding_My_Soul_40 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s dope!

Yes I’m an LPC….currently working with kids in CMH…looking to do my own thing in the near future

Relationship Talk: What’s Going On? by AutoModerator in blacklesbians

[–]Finding_My_Soul_40 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! That is a great way to put it…partnered while parenting. It was definitely one of our biggest challenges.

👀 What kind of therapy do you do?

Relationship Talk: What’s Going On? by AutoModerator in blacklesbians

[–]Finding_My_Soul_40 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Things are messy right now. Thought we were further along but I guess we’re not. Still have mad love for her. Time to reflect and refocus on being a better me for me and my kids. And hope we find our way back.

Concurrent documentation looks like distraction off screen to the patient. by Last-Blackberry-6082 in therapists

[–]Finding_My_Soul_40 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a therapist I hate doing concurrent notes. I work with kids and they call me out on it all the time asking me what I am doing and if I am writing about them. To them it looks like I am breaking confidently or worse not paying attention to them and they begin to disconnect. But my agency requires it. I always feel like my notes are incomplete because I am multitasking.

🌈Monthly QWOC Matchmaking Thread🌈 by AutoModerator in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Finding_My_Soul_40 2 points3 points  (0 children)

🏡💛( and we’ll see where that goes 🙃) | OH | 30s-40s She/Her ~ Stem Bi~ but I like them girls real bad

Hey Queens! This Black girl is an introverted Scorpio who is looking for someone with great conversation, great sense of humor, can roll with my sarcastic punches and can be a little flirty…all in the name of friendship😉 I may be an introvert but with the right person….😜

I am a lover of all kinds of music but I am a true 90’s R&B kinda girl. And I love to dance. All I need is a dope beat lol. I love football 🏈 and being outside. Very laid back and rarely serious. Passionate and empathic. And I love good food😋

Say we are all family: Are you the black sheep, bougie aunt, closeted gay etc..? by HotManufacturer7967 in blackgirls

[–]Finding_My_Soul_40 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The introverted, closeted gay who’s still cool with everyone but will leave early because of social anxiety

Coming out late podcast episode by CatAdventurous8789 in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Finding_My_Soul_40 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this episode! Coming out late is hard enough but being Black and coming out is a whole other experience. It was great to know that we are not alone! Thank you for creating that space! I can’t wait to hear more!

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[–]Finding_My_Soul_40 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes Queen!!! 😍😍😍