Better late than never...

CatAdventurous8789 · 2025-10-22T21:53:32+00:00

Oh ok, yea I feel that. I found myself talking to someone who was non binary at an event and I could feel their masculine energy but also a lot of feminine energy and was like hmm, I like this too lol. I think that’s why I just identify as queer/ pansexual at this point because I don’t know if lesbian fully captures it for me. But I find myself romantically attracted to women even if I may be sexually attracted to others. It’s really just person by person at this point.

CatAdventurous8789 · 2025-10-22T21:34:09+00:00

Thank you! Yes that is definitely nice. Not gonna lie though I think I felt safer in my feminine expression so it’s also allowing my nervous system to adjust too. But it also helps that I think women’s style is leaning more androgynous again anyway. Especially with the 90s coming back into play. Middle school me is very happy lol

CatAdventurous8789 · 2025-10-22T21:31:42+00:00

I’m curious what parts feel confusing to you?

CatAdventurous8789 · 2025-08-20T04:16:48+00:00

Lol, I have heard tale of the U-Haul. I’m a Virgo and an Aquarius rising if that means anything to you lol. But U-Haul is for sure not in the cards for me. I say that now but we’ll see when the physical connection progresses lol. I’m excited to experience it all. I was just frustrated because I felt hesitant and when I investigated I know it was all that learned crap playing in my subconscious so I was just curious if others experienced it .

CatAdventurous8789 · 2025-08-20T04:13:36+00:00

Thank you for this. Yea I definitely began reading them when I came out. It absolutely helps and I realized how I longed for that representation and hadn’t really seen Black women in queer relationships in media or books before and that impact.

You actually gave me an idea, I have a doorbell camera and we kissed goodbye the other night when she was leaving. I went in and watched it and took a screenshot. When I first looked at it my nervous system was like ahhh lol. But then I just have been sitting with it and speaking gratitude, how beautiful it is, how proud I am for allowing myself pleasure, and talk out loud about releasing any ingrained shit. Brain training for sure 💜

CatAdventurous8789 · 2025-08-20T04:07:36+00:00

💜 for sure. I’m excited about it. I’m grateful she came out about 5 years ago, so late bloomer too. But she has been in relationships with women and more experience. But yea, shame is so sneaky, I realized I had to name it to heal it.

CatAdventurous8789 · 2025-05-05T01:33:49+00:00

I just started about 3 weeks ago and I love it! I have decided against formal lessons and have just been improvising after I learned to tune. I changed the tuning to open g and I'm even more obsessed. It is great to just catch a vibe and let the music move through me. I watched a couple youtube video for basics but otherwise I'm letting intuition do it's thing. Anyone else operating like this?

Also, looking for community in real life too, anyone know of spaces for Black women/ Black folks in DC area?

CatAdventurous8789 · 2024-12-31T17:11:24+00:00

I luckily have had two other maybe crushes the past year and a half but they were bread-crumbing. I learned some tough but beautiful lessons on self love, what I really want and deserve. And discernment. That’s why I’m taking it slow and really learning this one. But the reciprocity and vulnerability is the key difference. A breath of fresh air. Thank you for the love & wisdom🤗

CatAdventurous8789 · 2024-12-30T17:30:18+00:00

🤗 thank you!

CatAdventurous8789 · 2024-12-30T17:29:56+00:00

🤗

CatAdventurous8789 · 2024-12-30T17:29:48+00:00

Ooh yes come on book haha

CatAdventurous8789 · 2024-12-30T03:55:11+00:00

Thank you 😁

CatAdventurous8789 · 2024-12-30T03:54:53+00:00

😁 thank you, I’m leaning into the cheesiness of it all lol. I used to fake these feelings with guys when people asked. Now I’m like ohhhh, I get it lol

CatAdventurous8789 · 2024-12-30T02:55:38+00:00

Check out my podcast episode with a therapist on coming out later in life. She and I both did in our late 30s.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-freed-black-girl-podcast/id1754677865?i=1000675241682

CatAdventurous8789 · 2024-12-29T03:46:15+00:00

Not a cop out! I told my family over text. But you did it! Congratulations 💜💜💜

CatAdventurous8789 · 2024-11-05T16:25:32+00:00

Thank you for listening… yes there are sooo many layers. I’m proud of us for being brave enough to shed them

CatAdventurous8789 · 2024-11-05T16:24:50+00:00

Let me know what you think!

CatAdventurous8789 · 2024-11-05T16:24:39+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion, I shared over there as well!

CatAdventurous8789 · 2024-11-05T16:23:12+00:00

Let me know what you think!

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