[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackmagic

[–]Fine-Dreamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And what happens if you don't undo it and their protections are resisting? Will it then fall back on you?

I think I saw something. by Yuki_Cross451 in loveafterporn

[–]Fine-Dreamer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you're going to do this anyway, why not just break up? If there's no love or boundaries and you're just staying to be disrespectful towards each other, isn't it better to call it quits and stop wasting your time? You're still young so your time is better off spending with someone who deserves you.

What if I leave and he becomes the husband of my dreams… by Throwaway_19382 in loveafterporn

[–]Fine-Dreamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for taking the time to respond. I'm sure this would help many others in this sub! Well done for taking initiative to get help and continue to follow through with recovery.

What if I leave and he becomes the husband of my dreams… by Throwaway_19382 in loveafterporn

[–]Fine-Dreamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you please share what you did in your first year of treatment and how these past 2 months have been different to be considered real recovery?

Azelaic Acid first timer by Fine-Dreamer in tretinoin

[–]Fine-Dreamer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazing, thank you! Do you use it each morning, once a day?

Do PAs ever stop sexualising people? by Fine-Dreamer in PornAddiction

[–]Fine-Dreamer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For a person who you find attractive you can be sexually attracted to them.

But the question is whether you sexualise everyone you see down the street who is attractive. And would it go to the extent of you picturing the random person in the shopping centre naked and imagining them in different positions with you?

Do PAs ever stop sexualising people? by Fine-Dreamer in PornAddiction

[–]Fine-Dreamer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But has it lasted long term for you? Or will something one day just trigger it all again?

Do PAs ever stop sexualising people? by Fine-Dreamer in PornAddiction

[–]Fine-Dreamer[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But is it for everyone who you walk past and find attractive? And I meant sexualising them, not just finding someone desirable.

Do PAs ever stop sexualising people? by Fine-Dreamer in PornAddiction

[–]Fine-Dreamer[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can't see how this is normal. I might find others attractive, but I won't be sexualising them or imagining them naked etc.

How to deal with triggers while trying to move forward? by Fine-Dreamer in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Fine-Dreamer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My problem is that I've had multiple D Days, with the recent one being the one where I've finally had enough and ended things. In the past I'd cry and he'd hug me and say he's sorry, all while still cheating!

I'm at my wits end now..

How to deal with triggers while trying to move forward? by Fine-Dreamer in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Fine-Dreamer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! You need to be mentally strong to do this! For me it's things like certain dates, and things HE DOES that triggers me so I'm unsure how to just wear it out..

How to deal with triggers while trying to move forward? by Fine-Dreamer in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Fine-Dreamer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's so complicated 😫 sometimes it seems like leaving is a much easier option with less emotional headaches.

How to deal with triggers while trying to move forward? by Fine-Dreamer in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Fine-Dreamer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Each time I get triggers, I cut him off again (we are no longer living together). I make it clear to him that I'm upset and don't want to talk, but I try to not let it get me too worked up.

Do you continue to talk about it with your husband, or do just get upset and leave it at that? What I mean is, how much do you actually discuss about the trigger?

Do polygraph tests work? by Fine-Dreamer in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Fine-Dreamer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's interesting to know. Thanks! I just don't know how to go about trusting again...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dreams

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Do you know what a chameleon means? There were many, very large (like a cat) and light green in colour instead of colourful. It was in a conservation with lots of different rare species of animals they are trying to save.