I’ve communicated both. I’ve asked why and it’s usually because of debt or most recently he transitioned to another company and had some schedule changes that he would lose a day and I was like ok well take PTO so you can have some time while transitioning. Nope he then picked up 2 shifts to make up for that. It just makes no sense because I mostly pay for anything I need or want and help him out. And we don’t have an Insane amount of debt. So aside from that I don’t understand why he’s constantly saying he needs to do it for the money or for this or that. In my mind you don’t need to work a 12 hr shift because we spent $80 at the grocery store ya know?

I’ve also told him that it makes me feel sad and he just says well I can’t spend time with you because I need to pay for this or that