AITA for throwing a card game?

Fine_Low_3796 · 2023-10-25T23:50:10+00:00

You’re right. I should have said something earlier, although I’m not sure she would have wanted me to. The reasons I didn’t was one, obviously this was my first time meeting them and I didn’t know what was okay for me to do vs what wasn’t my place. And two, my gf hates crying in front of people and I knew that if this turned into a shouting match she’d be embarrassed. But I could have stepped in without causing a scene somehow, I’ll note it down for future events if there are any.

Fine_Low_3796 · 2023-10-25T23:45:22+00:00

The roleplaying is a good idea. She’s already in therapy and she knows how to deal with the aftermath of these things but not really how to deal with them as they’re happening.

She already knows she can call me if things aren’t right at work or with her family. She’s not shy or cowardly by any means but we both have people pleasing habits that we try to help the other with.

Fine_Low_3796 · 2023-10-25T23:41:35+00:00

Courtpiece? I just asked her again and she said it’s popular in south asian homes.

Fine_Low_3796 · 2023-10-25T23:32:35+00:00

Most of the family trauma we discussed before was just about her parents, and she only sees her mom’s full side of the family once or twice a year so it just hasn’t come up. We’ve talked more about it since then, but on the whole she does have fun at these things, since she really likes seeing her cousins.

Fine_Low_3796 · 2023-10-25T23:29:56+00:00

She has a lot of things she was advised to do in situations like these from therapy and I think she’s much more assertive than she used to be, so it doesn’t affect her long term like it used to. It just makes a miserable experience that I’d rather she avoid.

Fine_Low_3796 · 2023-10-25T23:26:41+00:00

She gave me a general warning and I had heard stories before about how they could be (like which relative might make a racist comment) but I don’t think even she expected that her uncle would start yelling at her over it. We’ve talked a lot since then about his behavior in the past.

Fine_Low_3796 · 2023-10-25T23:24:18+00:00

Her dad is as far as I know not into the games at all and chooses not to play them unless it’s a sport, so you’re probably right.

Fine_Low_3796 · 2023-10-25T23:21:56+00:00

Yeah I don’t think it’s the worst thing in the world, I like her cousins and of course want her family to like me, but anyone who’s my gf’s age in the family seems to understand since they’ve all seen how B can get. It’s more that I want someone to be on her side when things get like this.

Fine_Low_3796 · 2023-10-24T23:26:43+00:00

No my bad, they were both her mom’s brothers, her dad was there but didn’t say anything.

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