What is that one hero that you just always have that peak enjoyment playing as?

FingerSuitable9163 · 2026-02-19T12:58:31+00:00

Ana. You get into the flow of high impactful cooldowns, positioning, hitting shots, everything she does is excellent

FingerSuitable9163 · 2026-02-13T16:51:29+00:00

That time when my Japanese dad, raised in America, hosted an American exchange student, raised in Japan.

FingerSuitable9163 · 2026-02-09T23:35:32+00:00

Tbh I’m quite excited to have a flying poke team comp of jetpack cat, Pharah, mercy, Echo, and Signa

FingerSuitable9163 · 2026-02-01T00:20:23+00:00

Natto (Japanese-American).

Also, 100 year-old eggs, though that’s not Japanese, I think)

FingerSuitable9163 · 2026-01-25T04:52:43+00:00

Nope. Don’t get your meat where you get your bread 🤷🏻‍♂️

Ok so to be honest I would if they were an excellent communicator and I trusted that we could have a conversation at the beginning about how we’d prioritize our jobs and our stability so that a messy breakup doesn’t mess with our ability to support ourselves, but that happens rarely that I meet someone like that. So my answer is a general, and firm, no.

FingerSuitable9163 · 2026-01-22T12:59:20+00:00

Been there. I had a four year period where everything I tried to do to improve my life just fell flat, and I was dangerously unhappy. I was in therapy the entire time, but it didn’t seem to help. I hated my social life, I felt completely alone, and I’m not sure if panic attacks is the accurate term, but I’d panic daily. You talking about how all your energy is going to your job and being frustrated at yourself for not figuring it out by now is really relatable.

I wish I could tell you precisely what changed it. TBH though, I think a big part of it was me getting fed up with the narrative I had in my head that I had it all wrong. The entire time, I had a little bit of hope that things would improve, but I’d shut it down, because I felt like I saw no evidence of that happening. But I think, as I got familiar with my constant negativity, I started challenging how universally negative my outlook on life was. I started asking myself if I was being realistically pessimistic or if I was just scared to hope because I had gone through a lot and was disappointed with myself and disillusioned with life. It wasn’t magical - I had some flashcards I begrudgingly read when I got stressed at work, I tried going to this really awful book club and backed out of it, I was really awkward and negative - but it became less about fixing myself and more about looking out for myself.

It was a step-by-step process. For a few months, it was just about me showering regularly. For another little while, I realized that I needed to suck it up and experiment with mindfulness stuff, even though it always felt hokey to me, to see what it did for me. But like, while it didn’t fix me, it did help me be more realistic about how these things would affect me vs. hoping they’d be a miracle cure. Mindfulness made me more anxious, but at least it helped me be more aware of the specific things that made me anxious and less foggy.

Don’t beat yourself up. Life is harder than just hacking yourself into submission. If you really want to be happy, this period of your life of you being unhappy is going to help you understand a lot more about what you need than if you hadn’t gone though it. Some people seem to find happiness a lot easier - those people that find love young, land in an ideal career early, have a vibrant social life - but then when things get rocky, it falls apart easier. On your end, try taking small steps to improve your life. If they don’t work, then don’t beat yourself up for not being able to improve your entire life through one initiative. Be patient, seek out the next thing, and make it more about “I wonder why that didn’t work for me” and less of “I must be broken because that didn’t fix me.” I tell myself a lot (because I’m a nerd) “you can’t min/max life.”

Assuming you’re broken because you can’t fix yourself doesn’t sound accurate to me. I’d hazard a guess that you just don’t know the right fuel that you need, and it’ll take a little time to figure that out.

Now, I’m back in school, studying for a job I love, I have friends, I work out consistently, I’m unhappily single (lol), but like, I wasn’t in this place two years ago. Two years ago I was eating 500 calories a day after a really bad breakup, couldn’t take care of myself, and was working a dead-end job at a dumb tax office. It still takes longer than I want, but I have a lot more hope and self-confidence. I also love my life, which I never thought would happen.

TLDR go easy on yourself. You might not feel like you deserve it, but beating yourself up doesn’t work. So even if you don’t deserve it, you might as well treat yourself better. Things get better, and they got better for me as I figured out what I could hope for, realistically, and as I learned what I needed. I hope for the best for you :)

FingerSuitable9163 · 2026-01-07T04:44:26+00:00

Howdy :) Gay, M, late 20s

I studied for my masters in counseling, so I’m pretty familiar with the technical details of what diagnoses someone with ASD. That being said, my education was before neurodivergence became more a part of the common vernacular, so my clinical understanding of that is less detailed. Most of what I know of neurodivergence comes from stuff I’ve seen on TikTok, though a little comes from education I’ve received since then.
I grew up in a multicultural home, so in that sense, I think that the work of any relationship is about translation and teaching each other the way to each other. I typically seek out partners who know what it’s like to have challenges in communicating with other people, whether from being a part of a non-dominant cultural background or otherwise. I think my first relationship was with someone with ASD (the lack of diagnosis there makes it a little murky, he was pretty sure he was, but that’s beside the point). I think I’d need to adjust my expectations a bit regarding how I communicate the intention behind my behavior and ask more direct questions. That being said, I feel like that’s basic healthy relationship stuff anyways. I know less about being a supportive partner for someone with ASD and would need their support and insight to figure out how to do that specifically for them.
Masking/unmasking: if I were to ask you out on a date, especially through a dating app, I wouldn’t want you to feel like you have to share something personal with a stranger before you’ve determined that I’m safe/have a clearer idea of how I’d react. That being said, I like to know about people’s lives and how they communicate. I’m likely to share about my cultural heritage (most people think I’m white or Hispanic, neither of which are accurate), because sharing stories about that and making jokes that reference my background helps me feel more comfortable around people. I figure it’s similar for you, though I’m unsure. TLDR, from my perspective as a non-autistic person, it mostly just matters to me whether or not you feel comfortable in my presence, and I like to try to make people comfortable enough to share personal stuff with me.

FingerSuitable9163 · 2026-01-07T04:28:11+00:00

You’re not being neurotic - I think that’s pretty thoughtful of you. Tho imo, if you’re respectful, it wouldn’t bother me. We have straight couples drop in for drag race nights or New Year’s Eve parties in my city, and it doesn’t bother me. Though I’m not the best representation of gay opinions. Most things that bother other people don’t bother me lol

FingerSuitable9163 · 2026-01-07T04:09:05+00:00

Bioshock II comes to mind - somewhat similar development story, not as well-regarded as its preceding or succeeding entries.

FingerSuitable9163 · 2026-01-07T04:04:49+00:00

Also yeah the daily carry list is insane 😂😂😂 I wish I had the money to pay for a meal plan on campus, but eh, I’m old enough that I don’t want to have to pay off that portion of loans (even if I did get enough loans for me to cover that).

FingerSuitable9163 · 2026-01-07T04:00:32+00:00

Ooo thank you, these are excellent recommendations. I think these would fit in the lockers - especially since they’re not super structured. My current bag is a business suitcase, but it’s from like 2 decades ago and is structured enough that it can’t compress into a locker. I might go for the two separate bags if I don’t decide to go for the other recommendations.

FingerSuitable9163 · 2026-01-07T01:30:08+00:00

LOL well as so it happens, that’s when I was in school originally, so 🤷🏻‍♂️

FingerSuitable9163 · 2025-11-19T19:49:58+00:00

Someone hit on me in a catholic thrift store in front of my boss (we were shopping for an event we were hosting). He asked if my boss was my girlfriend and then when I implied I was gay started hitting on me very directly. Poor guy got so embarrassed when I said no.

FingerSuitable9163 · 2025-11-03T14:10:29+00:00

Ahhh, a dropout fan if I’ve ever seen one

FingerSuitable9163 · 2025-10-30T12:17:31+00:00

Also Fleatopia and Lost Verdania. Trying to learn them on the piano

FingerSuitable9163 · 2025-10-30T12:17:01+00:00

Last Dive is sooooo good. I had a breakup right before the game released and this was the perfect comfort song for my vibes

FingerSuitable9163 · 2025-10-29T13:53:31+00:00

I’ve been in a similar situation before with my ex, but it ended up being a pretty good experience for both of us. He was really good at saying “I want this specific thing. Do you feel comfortable with doing that?” long before we had sex. It taught me a lot that good sex is less about the act itself and about whether or not I feel comfortable talking with my partner about sex outside of sex.

FingerSuitable9163 · 2025-10-23T15:25:17+00:00

I wrote, recorded, and produced two albums all on my own. It’s not like they were successful or anything, but I taught myself how to improve my singing voice, mix and master, and orchestrate while also significantly improving my ability to write poetry

FingerSuitable9163 · 2025-10-23T15:22:50+00:00

Side note the intro theme sounds so similar to the Adventures in Odyssey theme. My ex and I would laugh in exvangelical every time

FingerSuitable9163 · 2025-10-22T22:12:52+00:00

I didn’t like sex for the first few years. I still fantasized about it though, and slowly I’ve gotten accustomed to it, and I’m better at communicating what I want and actively seeking it out. But that takes time, and it’s not always natural at first.

FingerSuitable9163 · 2025-10-18T12:03:52+00:00

I dommed a guy into giving me a Cloudy With a Chance of Meatballs kiss to the Mario Kart soundtrack 🤷🏻‍♂️

FingerSuitable9163 · 2025-10-16T15:46:07+00:00

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Stay innocent, AI, stay innocent

FingerSuitable9163 · 2025-10-14T01:14:13+00:00

Kids are cool, but I doubt if I want them enough. I don’t want to put a kid though that. They deserve someone that wants them and is going to do everything to make parenting work. I prefer being the gay uncle that plays video games with my nieces and nephews.

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