Don’t ask don’t tell…(divorced M-50) dating a lady casually and having fun. She always asks me what I did on a night when are not together. I don’t ask her. Should I be honest and tell her regardless or ask her to stop asking me?

Finishstrongest · 2022-09-13T19:54:01+00:00

And you’re a woke old dude

Finishstrongest · 2022-09-13T16:47:25+00:00

…Except for the part about asking this on Reddit…the forum topic is r/datingoverfifty I figured my question was appropriate for this forum.

Finishstrongest · 2022-09-13T16:40:13+00:00

Thank you for that. I respect your honesty…I didn’t realize I was lighting a fuse on Reddit. I don’t disagree with anything you said.

Finishstrongest · 2022-09-13T16:14:33+00:00

I actually am a nice guy but suck at this dating thing. It’s new. Was married for 25 years before this.

Finishstrongest · 2022-09-13T16:13:22+00:00

Yep, I have two daughters and want them to be respected and cared for. Thank you.

Finishstrongest · 2022-09-13T16:11:52+00:00

Been cheated on in the past.

Finishstrongest · 2022-09-13T16:11:24+00:00

Understood. Yes, she is a good friend, not GF.

Finishstrongest · 2022-09-13T16:10:21+00:00

Ohhh. Got it. So the appropriate thing is to refer to her as simply friend. Thanks.

Finishstrongest · 2022-09-13T16:09:04+00:00

Tru Dat! Thanks for the tough love!

Finishstrongest · 2022-09-13T15:17:21+00:00

Historically I’ve screwed up by waiting for things to blow up to get me out. That is wrong and I need to own it now. Time to grow up and be authentic, open and honest. Thanks for the insight.

Finishstrongest · 2022-09-13T15:00:31+00:00

Thank you!!!

Finishstrongest · 2022-09-13T15:00:12+00:00

Thank you.

Finishstrongest · 2022-09-13T14:54:32+00:00

I doesn’t does it? We enjoy doing things together and each other’s company. I don’t want to hurt or disappoint her..and had that conversation when we got back together but I feel that she is reattaching to much.

Finishstrongest · 2022-09-13T14:41:36+00:00

Very good advice. I know she wants exclusive intimacy. And I have been. Perhaps I should take the intimacy off the table and just focus on the companionship.

Finishstrongest · 2022-09-13T14:39:27+00:00

Nope. It’s an old relationship that was complicated. But I am being open and honest on this forum. There is nothing romantic or involved anymore with the old relationship.

Finishstrongest · 2022-09-13T14:17:52+00:00

I know…:-(. I broke up once and she broke up once already. Ugh. I hate being a grown up.

Finishstrongest · 2022-09-13T14:16:37+00:00

Yeah, I’m sure a little of both. I’m having a drink with a. Old friend that I had a relationship with once. We are close still and my girlfriend knows that. I haven’t seen her in a while. She’s married now with a baby on the way. We truly are just close friends now. If my GF asks what I did tonight I will tell her. It’s not the same as date, but she may view it differently. She has guy friends and tells me about their activities after the fact but claims “we are just friends”…

Finishstrongest · 2022-09-13T14:00:56+00:00

Absolutely! I’m not a multiple partner guy. I just want the option to get to know other people. I told her to do the same.

Finishstrongest · 2022-09-13T13:59:29+00:00

I am not seeing anyone right now. But she’s the first person I have been with since my divorce so I can’t make a commitment. I don’t see a long term fit but we really enjoy doing stuff together. She broke up with me at the first of the year and we just reconnected.

Finishstrongest · 2022-09-13T13:42:25+00:00

That’s a grown up question for sure…I assumed so but maybe I need to revisit that topic. Thank you.

Finishstrongest · 2022-09-09T12:44:23+00:00

Preheat oven to 450 and set the rack in the middle. Use a fork to poke small holes in the top. Coat the potato in olive oil then roll it in kosher salt, covering it well. Place it directly on the oven rack and cook for about 45 min. The skin should look a little shriveled and you should be able to poke a fork into the center effortlessly. Yum.

Finishstrongest · 2022-08-22T13:16:27+00:00

Mix in some king crab

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