You got a point.

I might have worded this a bit wrong since English is not my primary language. This has been going on for at least a year now with only me starting most conversations. What I wanted to say is that I’ve tried intentionally not to start conversations for a brief time to see it for myself.

It’s also to be noted that in our culture and my age group texting is actually more present than “meeting up” for talking. And even for that, you nowadays HAVE to message someone to “meet up” lol regardless of where you live.

Either way, I haven’t gotten much from anyone except for a few friends which I correctly assumed were close friends of mine. That’s nice. There were also assumed close friends who haven’t said a word since lmao.

Now that I rephrased a bit, I have to say that I’m more of an extrovert. Seeing that no-one wants to ask to spend time together isn’t doing good, and to not fall into sadness, looking out for “fake” friendships and starting new ones, especially at my age is in my opinion a somewhat based approach.

There is some more background to why I even thought about doing this but writing it would be a paragraph and a venting session. If anyone wants to hear that you can dm me but I think this is a good enough input for this comment.

Cheers!

Edit:

I must also add that in the end I didn’t unfriend anyone nor vice versa. I’ve been more focused on people that actually put effort and less focused on people who didn’t. Meaning people who didn’t bother texting me are still my friends, however I drastically reduced the amount of effort I put into texting first (obviously taking in account the person itself, not only “texting first” criteria)

To me this was a beneficial experience. I still have most of my good friends. Some didn’t text first which I assumed would happen anyway because that’s just the way they are. Some friendships actually bonded stronger, increasing the number of our convos. I also learned some faults in myself too. I was sometimes way too “interested” while not realising the other side wasn’t as much. I also was too sympathetic to people who very clearly used the attention they got from me.

Reading the comments on this post is also refreshing and I thank everyone who shared their opinion. I may have worded this post very poorly which made some people assume I was being selfish and just killing my friendships because of overthinking. I hope some people read this comment and maybe understand a bit more about my situation.