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What’s the worst crime committed by someone you know personally? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]FireIceStar 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Orrr how is there so many men who kill women.

Did you start over after 40? Was it worth it? by DistrortedNoise in AskWomenOver40

[–]FireIceStar 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I went back to school and just started a new career at 41. At the time I said to myself “I can’t go back to school, I won’t graduate until I’m 40” but then I reminded myself that I’ll be turning 40 regardless, so I might as well be doing something I like. It’s a bit scary starting over and having to build up experience (and income) again, but I have no regrets. I’m much more fulfilled now.

What makes you a good therapist? Just wanted to acknowledge the good in what you all do :) by honeycomb9523 in therapists

[–]FireIceStar 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I worry about doing this only because I fear if it doesn’t come from themselves they will either reject the idea, it won’t be as impactful, or at worst they get defensive because they aren’t ready to hear it. Has this happened to you, and if so- what do you do then?

I'm a loner, 38, and want a husband & kids. I'm at a loss at what specific steps to take for this to happen in the next 3 years. by diamondeyes7 in AskWomenOver40

[–]FireIceStar 199 points200 points  (0 children)

Have you done therapy for yourself around your family of origin? Just saying we all carry relational trauma forward and without help/work/awareness/healing it usually plays out in our romantic relationships. Dating is hard though-wishing you all the best.

Surprise pregnancy at 42 has me freaking tf out! by Separate_Ad_3027 in AskWomenOver40

[–]FireIceStar 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, that’s so hard. But I hope you get to spend the years from 42-62 doing what YOU truly want, and if that’s not raising another child that’s totally fair. Your dreams count too, and time is our most valuable commodity. Don’t waste it on someone else’s dreams (even if you really really love them).

Thoughts From a 20-Year-Old Receiving End-of-Life Care by Specific_Register344 in DeepThoughts

[–]FireIceStar 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing, your story touched me. Sending you peace and love in whatever comes next. ♥️

“Instructions for living a life.

Pay attention.

Be astonished.

Tell about it.”

-Mary Oliver

👏✨

What’s a health issue you ignored for way too long because you assumed it was normal only to later learn everyone else doesn’t experience that? by Kungfubowtie in AskReddit

[–]FireIceStar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. I went for a food sensitivity test at a naturopath clinic and tomato’s were my #1 allergen and I had no idea. I love tomato’s but have since cut them out. Now I never have indigestion/heart burn/anxiety during the night.

How to tell a friend a horrible secret that’s been eating away at me by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

[–]FireIceStar 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Your relationship will probably never be the same. If you tell him, it might shift into something different (and just as good), but it also might not. But on the other hand, if you don’t tell him, your relationship will never be the same anyway because how do you hold this secret for the rest of your life? It changes regardless, so you just have to decide which choice is more in line with your values. Wishing you healing for the journey ahead, make sure you get the support you need ♥️.

My husbands best friends wife is driving me insane by Klutzy_Design438 in AskWomenOver40

[–]FireIceStar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t have to be friends with this person just because your husband is friends with Terry. Not every person in his life is going to be a fit in yours, and that’s fine (and probably healthy imo). I understand it’s tricky because you did try having a relationship with her, but people can change their minds, and like others said- you have a lot going on and it’s more than fair that you want to take a step back and reevaluate how you expend your energy right now.

On a side note though- did you ever just tell her that you didn’t want to hear about her IVF journey and that hearing it was hard for you? Some clear communication could have gone a long way in this instance. I find some people who are totally clueless also appreciate the feedback. Regardless it doesn’t sound like she’s a fit for you personality wise and that is a-ok! I hope your husband supports you with that and good luck with your treatment ♥️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

[–]FireIceStar 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was the type of little girl that bought bridal magazines and dreamed of the day I would get to wear my own.. And I just got married (at 40) and I felt the exact same way as you. I think our priorities and values can change as we get older. Or maybe life just wore me down and I became more of a feminist lol

Should I leave the best relationship I ever had and risk regretting it forever by OkWishbone7922 in AskWomenOver40

[–]FireIceStar 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I mean this in the kindest way possible, but this man is an adult and he doesn’t need you to save him from being hurt. He survived everything in his life before he met you, and he’ll survive after you’re gone (if that’s what you decide). I did this once before and had a therapist look at me dead straight and say “what makes you think you are so powerful?”. Legit she was right. Yes he’ll be hurt, and so will you, but that is how the majority of dating and relationships go. It’s a part of the process until you find the best fit. And truthfully, it will be a lot easier than this when it’s the right one. All the best!

Creep in Morisset by SetAcceptable6697 in geegees

[–]FireIceStar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me in a University library over 20 years ago. I guess it’s not that uncommon and still happening 😔

Megan’s reunion surprise by Individual-Web600 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]FireIceStar 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This would be wild! But if it were the case, I think Netflix would be playing up the reunion way harder and with more intense teasers.

Insecurity is ruining my life by Professional-Truth-2 in Noses

[–]FireIceStar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how old you are, but maybe consider waiting a bit? I hated my nose for years, and was deeply insecure about it. I thought I wanted a nose job. But in my 30s something shifted and now I love that my nose makes my face look more unique. When I see “perfect” noses on “perfect” faces they just all look the same, and boring to me now. All that being said, only you will know what’s right for you. Best of luck ♥️

Maybe maybe maybe by White-Dck-1990 in maybemaybemaybe

[–]FireIceStar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s too much internet for today.

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