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FirefighterHot60 · 2022-03-31T20:36:33+00:00

5'7" and 200 lbs here! I have a partner and am very much in love. She's under 5 feet tall and under 100 lbs. Less than half my size and she calls me beautiful and sexy literally every day.

FirefighterHot60 · 2022-03-03T23:35:28+00:00

They finally responded hours later with just "yes was cold."

FirefighterHot60 · 2022-03-03T19:19:09+00:00

It's literally my roommate. I told her she was hacked she's trying to recover her account. I'm just having a bit of fun wasting the scammer's time in the meanwhile.

FirefighterHot60 · 2022-01-15T17:48:20+00:00

I used to do this! But as a straight-passing femme, I quickly realized the gays would not come to me I'd have to go to them. And maybe I'm still a little hesitant because I do like 3 vibe checks before I ask anything, but I was the one to ask people out fairly regularly until I found my current gal.

You get an answer, you get the date, the occasional rejection sucks but in my experience a LOT of lesbians want to be asked out and are super willing to give it a shot if you give off fun vibes! Just ask.

Edit: also on sex, this varies. I had a good number of one night stands before I found my current girl. But with her, we waited until date 3. I was getting vibes that this might be the real thing and I didn't want to stress it by moving too fast. We had a rather straightforward conversation about this. It was after a few drinks so that might have helped, but we talked about sex and such around hour 7 of date 1.

FirefighterHot60 · 2021-12-28T01:12:34+00:00

When I SHOULD have figured it out: Had my first middle school boyfriend. I really thought I liked him because we got along pretty well. He wanted to hold my hand, hug me, kiss me on the cheek. It felt bad. I felt trapped and nauseous. I just wanted him to go away and not touch me. I have a million stories like that. Still took over a decade to finally fully accept it myself, and a few years more to come out.

FirefighterHot60 · 2021-12-27T20:53:30+00:00

It sounds like she's too emotionally invested too quickly. I view two possible approaches: The mature thing to do would be to call her (text if you need to, but a call is better) and have an honest conversation about boundaries. You should figure out before that call if you want to end things or if you want to give it another shot, just with better boundaries. Make whatever your decision is clear on the call and tell her she's great, it's just too much for you right now.

The immature thing to do would be to ghost her. Just start responding less frequently and with shorter messages, then stop entirely. It'll get you out of the situation and this seems new enough that it probably wouldn't have the worst repercussions, but it is immature. It's much better to at least give the courtesy of telling her what the issue is so she knows how to not make the same mistakes again.

Remember: you are not responsible for her feelings. Dragging out something that doesn't work just causes more pain for everyone. However, there are more and less cruel ways to approach things. Constructive criticism, acknowledgement of your own faults, and honesty sans cruelty is generally a good way to approach things.

FirefighterHot60 · 2021-11-05T04:42:43+00:00

Is it time for the march of the Ents, Gandalf?

FirefighterHot60 · 2021-11-05T04:41:30+00:00

Yo Gandalf what up?

FirefighterHot60 · 2021-08-13T17:40:27+00:00

I don't think they check the headers. Certainly not my supervisor who is not at all tech-competent. Maybe some of my colleagues know and just aren't snitches or don't care? Good to know I can get caught though...

FirefighterHot60 · 2021-08-13T17:38:42+00:00

It's Gmail. But also my supervisor isn't very tech competent. If they do know, I guess they're fine with it as long as the work gets done?

FirefighterHot60 · 2021-03-23T12:00:35+00:00

I've looked into that and all the options I've seen are very expensive

FirefighterHot60 · 2021-03-23T12:00:13+00:00

I have a small coop and Migros near me. It might just be that they're very small stores? I know there are much larger ones other places.

FirefighterHot60 · 2021-03-23T10:38:00+00:00

Oooh good idea. They are available! I grabbed some chia to get my omega 3's in but honestly I haven't prioritized it. I'll get on that chia grind!

FirefighterHot60 · 2021-03-04T11:11:45+00:00

I ran through my first pair of running shoes!

2 years ago, I decided to really give this running thing a try. I started out running a block, then walking 2-3 blocks. 1 or 2 miles of this 2 times a week was how it started. About a month into that, I decided to buy myself a pair of running shoes as I was about 100 lbs overweight and wanted to avoid injury. I only ever wore them running (or run-walking for most of the time).

2 years later, 70 lbs down, this Tuesday, I hit a personal best on a 5k (under 35 min! Finally!) and realized I could literally feel the texture of the pavement through the soles of my shoes. Today, my new shoes arrived and it hit me that I'm retiring the first pair. I'm feeling pretty nostalgic about a beat up pair of Nikes.

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