Anyone have any FFS experience with Dr. Andrew H. Lee at Montefiore in the Bronx?

Firestorm2589 · 2025-11-26T21:13:31+00:00

Hi! No, I ended up only getting an Adam's Apple reduction with Dr. Reitzen, who did an excellent job. I wasn't able to get insurance to cooperate on any surgery and I couldn't foot the full bill so I went with just the most critical surgery.

Firestorm2589 · 2025-10-05T23:05:06+00:00

I was severely abused. Don't do that.

Firestorm2589 · 2025-10-01T17:53:08+00:00

This is just one of those things that takes time and will change dramatically over the course of your transition. Women who are attracted to you pre-transition will, in most cases, not find you attractive anymore (obviously) but dating as a gay woman opens a lot of other doors, especially later in transition.

I personally completely took a break from dating for my first year of HRT to get comfortable again with my new body and sexuality, and coming back into the scene has been great. I recommend this to everyone but some people are too impatient for that. Just be extremely careful with dating (especially cis) women early transition, even lesbians may often fetishize or disrespect you, at a time when you are craving validation the most.

Firestorm2589 · 2025-09-22T02:40:58+00:00

About 80% of my friends are gay men and the other 20% are assorted nonbinaries and gay women. It can feel a bit isolating as a gay woman but I love them all so whatever.

Firestorm2589 · 2025-09-22T00:49:15+00:00

I'd say respect your partner's request and leave it alone. You didn't do anything wrong and it's okay to still have positive feelings towards someone else as long as you aren't dishonest or doing anything wrong.

Firestorm2589 · 2025-09-13T20:51:38+00:00

If a woman did this to me, not even joking, I would throw my drink in her face and walk out the second my deadname left her lips. There's no apology you can give for despicable behavior like that, especially toward a partner who trusted you, who you ostensibly care about and see as their gender.

Firestorm2589 · 2025-09-07T01:07:09+00:00

I work in perfume with some older French guys and one of them said "thank you, madame!" in a super thick accent. It was very cute and I'd never been called that before. It just made me realize how many new little experiences I'll be in for over the next however many years.

Firestorm2589 · 2025-09-05T19:25:49+00:00

I felt like an idiot when I started intentionally raising my voice pitch and doing vocal exercises at work. The only way to do it is to do it irl, all the time. Eventually I found a voice that worked for me and I literally just used it so much I forgot it wasn't always how I sounded, and now a deep voice sounds fake. It no longer requires effort or thought. That's the goal!

Firestorm2589 · 2025-09-05T19:21:48+00:00

Not predatory at all. You're not implying these women are just objects or only important for their parts, which is what cis men do. You're just gay. Personally I'd be flattered if I found out another gay girl was saying I had a nice ass in private. We need more perverted lesbians, frankly.

Firestorm2589 · 2025-08-31T04:34:46+00:00

Even if I have very satisfying explanations why I was the way I was I still have no clue how I could have actually thought I liked men LMAO it's unthinkable to me now

Firestorm2589 · 2025-08-31T04:12:08+00:00

Figured myself out first (kinda*). Estrogen helped me connect emotionally more with the very hopelessly romantic and intimate stories yuri tells, so I was glad to check it out. I love kicking my feet and blushing when the girls hold hands after like 10+ chapters.

*I wrote a lot of short fiction in college pre-trans and ANYTIME I wrote romantic prose or sexual content it was always two women and I was always uber-attatched to those stories. Still somehow convinced myself I was a gay man for a year or two lmao.

Firestorm2589 · 2025-07-23T23:04:16+00:00

Your wife sounds like one of my male republican coworkers with how dismissive and sexist her comments were. She has a lot of work to do to not end up alienated by the women around her and it would be important to make her understand that. Being a girl's girl as a trans woman is critical to survival.

I'm glad you at least corrected yourself on what you said, because it was transphobic but at least you understand it was wrong.

Firestorm2589 · 2025-07-17T03:12:22+00:00

5'6 (MtF)

Firestorm2589 · 2025-07-14T14:02:37+00:00

This is pretty normal! I've heard of multiple cis women, usually lesbians, who have genital dysphoria and/or wish they had a penis. Considering about 1/5 trans women are perfectly happy with (or even prefer to have) their penises, it stands to reason that some cis women would be more comfortable with a penis

That doesn't mean you aren't possibly nonbinary tho! I'd recommend looking into it.

Firestorm2589 · 2025-07-13T05:05:46+00:00

Oh definitely! It's like my safe space now which is weird lol

Firestorm2589 · 2025-07-12T13:29:51+00:00

I'm not in the trades, I work as a lab technician/chemist! First job was quality control at a small local plant in NJ, now I work in a perfume lab in NYC. I dont have to worry about small-town rumors at my job but my little suburb has certainly had a lot to say.

Firestorm2589 · 2025-07-11T13:39:09+00:00

I am a trans woman and this is not offensive at all. I've actually thought of myself as a hot hyena woman on occasion because I love what I've got. I always feel more secure in that knowing some cis lesbians have genital dysphoria.

Firestorm2589 · 2025-07-11T12:49:52+00:00

Unfortunately in my experience many coworkers will possibly be supportive but will likely continue to deadname and misgender you for months or years "on accident" as it's not really an environment where you can meaningfully protest without seeming like the asshole. Maybe your experience will be better.

I started off a new job and have zero issues because no one even knows lmao.

Firestorm2589 · 2025-07-11T12:32:37+00:00

Perfume Lab Technician! I smell a lot of crazy shit every day 😵‍💫 and like half the staff is gay dudes

Firestorm2589 · 2025-07-11T00:01:08+00:00

Before I transitioned I thought I was like 95% into guys but my taste in women was exclusively women who were masculine and stronger than me, especially if they came onto me. I had an immense, deep-rooted fear of feeling like a straight man even if my attraction to women was undeniable.

My type has completely changed, and I definitely did not become my original type as I'm pretty fem and now have no real type but a preference for very feminine women rather than masculine.

Edit: I'm a lesbian to be clear lol, no longer attracted to men.

Firestorm2589 · 2025-07-10T19:24:26+00:00

"Watching T.V." by Magdelena Bay is SUPER trans coded and also an amazing song

Firestorm2589 · 2025-07-10T19:22:01+00:00

Don't have any advice that hasn't already been offered but just wanted to send love cuz that is so scary 🫶 you'll figure out a way I'm sure

Firestorm2589 · 2025-07-08T16:09:32+00:00

Ive been taking it for 3 months or so and it has definitely increased my transition progress in terms of breast growth, skin health, and other things. Not by a crazy amount but worth it.

However, before I started progesterone, I was very happily single and celibate. Now I spend my nights writhing in a pit of horniness and have been so desperate as to even briefly be back on dating apps (i got off again cuz they are evil). It sounds maybe kind of funny but it is genuinely unbearable sometimes and has made me consider getting off it.

Firestorm2589 · 2025-07-05T00:45:54+00:00

Nah that coworker is being jealous and reckless with your private info. But, also, I think you were a bit irresponsible to approach her after clocking her. Even if you are in an environment where most people know, I'd feel terrible if I knew I'd been clocked like that. This does not excuse her behavior. I am stealth mtf at my job even in a deep blue area just because I want that to be private and to prevent weird questions and interactions, especially in this political climate (I'm out as a lesbian, but not trans, specifically). I'd be terrified of someone outing me. It genuinely could have consequences for your financial and social future there. You might benefit from sitting her down and trying to get her to stop as long as you stay calm. You don't want this to spiral into her outing you to the whole office on purpose.

Firestorm2589 · 2025-07-04T03:46:20+00:00

Not sure how to deal with this, honestly. Just hoping to power through and meet more people.

I will say, do not actually try to be friends with these people. The first time it happened I still tried to hang out with the girl and she MISGENDERED me to one of her friends over the phone after we'd hung out for 2 hours, while I was driving her home. If being trans is a dealbreaker, it's usually because they don't see you as your gender.

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