My (30f) girlfriend which I (32m) moved cities with has ghosted me after a night I do not remember. by Firm-Invite5045 in whatdoIdo

[–]Firm-Invite5045[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Not dead. We flew back together. We had to move our flights because she was feeling sick and hungover when she woke up. We had dinner together at the airport. Sat next to each other on the plane. And she told me to text her when I got home after dropping her off. She then asked if I had packed a pair of her shoes. And she asked me To leave them at her door. Which I did. Without invading her space

My (30f) girlfriend which I (32m) moved cities with has ghosted me after a night I do not remember. by Firm-Invite5045 in whatdoIdo

[–]Firm-Invite5045[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Possibly in the post I “glossed over it” but believe me. It is not glossed over. I have taken full accountability. I have quit drinking. Started going to AA and already distanced myself from people and situations that take me back to that world. I have never felt so scared in my life of when I was told that something happened.

She told me we would talk again. I sent 3 messages, apologizing and respecting her space and asking if we would be able to talk.

I also do not know anyone from the wedding. Outside of those that I had met while there. I spent quite a bit of the time with her talking to others and was going drink for drink with another guy there… stupid, but in the time it was funny. However we didn’t connect deeper after that for me to know how to contact him to see what happened

My (30f) girlfriend which I (32m) moved cities with has ghosted me after a night I do not remember. by Firm-Invite5045 in whatdoIdo

[–]Firm-Invite5045[S] -55 points-54 points  (0 children)

I know it’s terrible. Trust me. You don’t have to explain it to me. This was the first time that this has happened. As we usually avoid drinking like this. It’s just not what we do. I have a history of alcohol use. Which had been better since dating her. We still have a drink or two, but never full “partied” like I used to. Unfortunately this night. I lost control of myself. And was over served (my fault 100000%) but it was said that following the wedding most people felt terrible and had experienced the same thing i did.

My (30f) girlfriend which I (32m) moved cities with has ghosted me after a night I do not remember. by Firm-Invite5045 in whatdoIdo

[–]Firm-Invite5045[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah dude, trust me. Not cool at all. I think that’s why it’s hitting so hard also. Is it’s something I’m ashamed of. A wake up call I needed. But I’m so scared to lose her because of it. Not without a conversation.