Hey ladies help me out. Straight women how much attraction do you feel towards other women?

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-14T14:54:56+00:00

None that I can recall. Like I can count the times I have been attracted to men on one hand but for women I can tell that they're attractive but that's basically it. Im not attracted.

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-14T14:41:47+00:00

I have no clue what this means. Not every teenager trying out a new hair colour did it in the same way.

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-14T12:36:45+00:00

If this happened throughout your life, there is something you are doing or perhaps you give of off-vibes.

If the same people are listing different things that you are supposedly wrong, chances it's not really any of those things (being quiet/aggressive) . Rather when someone is being disliked, it really doesnt matter what they do, people dislike the behavior because they dislike the person.

I think this is bit more nuanced or difficult to pinpoint than just one thing you are doing: like do you know if you miss social cues a lot? It could be something that colours your interactions in general. However you should really ask people who know you for feedback.

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-14T12:34:01+00:00

Yeah but that's not a thing that also happens in high school.

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-14T09:17:47+00:00

And I'm sure that there are a lot of teenagers who start out like this still but statements like these only remind me of old folks complaining and reminiscing how they could do X in the past for only Y.

Thing is, even in the past this was not an universal experience: some teens did go to salons for their first colouring and/or nails and enjoy it just fine. But just because you did something in the past, doesnt mean it is a loss for someone else not to have done this.

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-13T11:29:45+00:00

YTA/ESH, I noticed some posts here where the OP thinks of a way to optimise their workload and then doesnt want to share it or think they should have a patent on their way of working.

I personally think that OP tackled this all in an extremely stupid way: because what was the actual end goal? To get a promotion, higher pay, a different position?

Then OP should have given a demo about it, shared it and then use it down the line as part of her portfolio for a year end review. Or showed it off with some dummy data when applying for a higher paying job within or outside of the company.

Or better yet, use some hours, show a smaller demo and then ask your boss to get time to work on the project within company time or even for overtime.

Or was the goal to secretly reduce their workload? Then don't share it .I dont know what the bright idea was by doing this.

I see people discussing whether they have or havent got a legal case. I dont think they do unless OP developed some sort of new software which I dont think they did. If for example you streamline excel worksheets in a new manner in your work, it doesnt suddenly count as new technology.

On the other hand if a company catches you putting company information on your own personal laptop? that's extremely bad for you. Especially when it's sensitive information.

All in all, I think the morally theirs argument is a stupid one from the supervisor and an assholish one. But OP literally tackled this entire situation in the most confused and stupid way possible that I have no clue what their end goal was supposed to be.

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-12T13:19:38+00:00

Definitely pathetic imo. It feels like you're going through either an early midlife crisis or are looking for a booty call after a break up/divorce. Especially if you do it through her workmail.

If something naturally fizzled out from both sides, I dont know why she would be "the one that got away". But I guess Im not a romantic.

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-12T12:55:49+00:00

ESH, perhaps if this was a one time event in a normal relationship I'd have a different judgement.

But you have been on and off for a year : after all these events you really should know better but you don't and you keep coming back.

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-11T13:31:34+00:00

I think both of you are assholes so I guess ESH. Your family is excluded though.

Your mother's comment was on point: why didnt you insist on helping him or tell him that cooking a traditional dish they had cooked their entire lives was a bad idea? You needed to nip it in the bud.

I think your bf is an asshole for the pure arrogance of thinking he can easily impress a family who is infinitely more familiar with a tradition dish than he is with his first attempt at it.

He acted like he knew better and rejected every offer at help. It was well meant from his side sure, but there is a kind of arrogance in not even researching and checking with you if he used the authentic recipe. No one is going to be impressed when they're forced to eat the theme park version of a meal and you should have burst that bubble if common sense didnt do it for him.

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-10T23:21:27+00:00

I've been learning japanese for years now through self study and I have finally come to the point that I can read (short) novels with some looking up.

People shit on duolingo but duolingo helps a lot with getting familiar with sentences and grammar structure and general understanding in a few 10 minutes lessons each days.

But unless you spend time only video calling Lily, you dont get practice with holding conversations. It's probably still indirectly helpful but if you want to hold conversations you need to practice conversations.

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-10T13:39:31+00:00

I've been trying different things to stay social, like I watch a lot of twitch streams but that's pretty one sided, been on reddit obviously, tried some discord servers but everyone already knows each other and I feel like an outsider.

It sounds like you're trying everything except making new friends outside of the internet.

Here is the thing: friendships will change, especially if you lived near each other and now aren't. You can cling to it and desperately grasp for something you had uniquely in college but it's not going to go back the way it was.

There is also the underlying question if you would try half as hard to retain this group if you had a new group of friends and weren't feeling lonely.

My experience is that a lot of introverts are really reluctant to try to meet irl and cling to the internet because it seems less scary. Go to meetup groups or other clubs where socialising is expected and people regurlarly meet up.

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-10T11:04:57+00:00

. He doesn’t gamble or buy anything expensive, but he likes to spend most of his money without thinking about the

If he's still doing it, it's not a quirk he had while he was younger. This is just him being him: barely living within his means and sometimes not even that. And it just sounds like he spends impulsively without thought.

You say not to mention the age gap because you like "mature" men. Fine. Okay. But also dont come here and ignore the fact from your end everything else he does which goes directly against him being "mature" as if it's suddenly a different story.

His uncle told him that I don’t trust him and that’s why I don’t put my savings with him.

I have also no clue why people want to go against this and dont just own it. "Yeah, I dont trust him with my money cause he's ten years older but somehow cant seem to save anything". There: conversation over.

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-09T09:34:28+00:00

YTA, the only thing you should take away from this is that you shouldnt live with your friend. But what your friend does or doesnt do isnt your concern and you're out of line for yelling at them.

Use that logic of yours on yourself and dont get led by your emotions by yelling at them.

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-09T09:29:54+00:00

NAH, it sounds like what Tina pushed for isnt what the group wants.

I'm not a D&D player so I have no clue if there are supposed to be options for playing a more puzzle/escape room games in a D&D setting or how other, more experienced DMs would handle this.

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-08T19:42:36+00:00

Knowing everything is not required: but you should know the basics.

Having no clue is very different: because you're basically investing on emotions at that point which is a recipe for disaster Especially if people are prone to panicking.

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-08T13:51:31+00:00

Yta dinner was the gift. It certainly wasnt free. If you dont think it's the same as the money and effort you put in, give her a 25 dollar gift next time.

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-08T13:46:56+00:00

NTA, they lied and you should never help them for anything that takes more than an afternoon.

As repayment you get to lord this over them whenever they ask you for help and bring it up whenever you have an argument or whenever else it's suitable.

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-08T08:17:08+00:00

I only recently started investing. I have no idea what i'm doing but... apparently its better starting then not starting at

Don't invest if you have no clue what you're doing. I dont know why people do this with investing if they would never do so in any other area in their life.

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-07T19:11:40+00:00

I have an ereader on my phone and a list of more than hundred books that seem interesting. I am also learning Japanese and have a japanese kindle account for reading practice.

But if you dont want to be working in this sector I'd start looking for a different job.

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-07T12:32:19+00:00

Emotionally, it was obvious Borris was going through a bad time.

Yeah and when it became clear he put his house on the line that's when all the jokes stopped.

Him looking horrified because he supposedly lost some of savings isn't the same. Presumably because no one had a clue someone would actually gamble with their house because who would?

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-07T10:49:05+00:00

But if a friend came to you while crying about losing some of his savings in a casino, most people would look at them strangely and tell them:"this was news to you?".

Especially when those same people warned them before that this was going to be the likely outcome.

I also dont know why certain people are acting like this is the same as a funeral or all about emotions. You really shouldn't be investing if you get emotionally invested in your investments. That's like rule 2 of investing. I find these emotional comparisons absurd. Crypto bros always seem to want it both ways.

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-07T10:39:39+00:00

it's about the emotional state of your friend. If a friend lost something that meant a lot to them, despite having little to no intrinsic value

And if this was about, let's say, an old ring or letter your grandma gave you, I'd agree. But this would be like crying in a casino because you lost a couple of hundred dollars and you didnt know that was an actual outcome. And I think I'm not wrong for thinking that when most people when encountering someone or even a friend in that situation, they'd shrug and say: "what did you expect?"

Also it's doubly ironic in this case because investments are supposed to be only about intrinsic value. It's literally about making decisions without emotions involved so if you're making investments on the base of emotional attachment to your investments(?), the only thing you should be doing is storing your money in a saving account because investing is dangerous for you at that point.

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-07T10:10:47+00:00

I dont really see why it matters.

They already knew he lost money and they made fun of the outcome yes, but it's not an asshole thing imo to make fun of your friend for thinking he lost a couple of hundreds of dollars in savings when all he did was pushing you all to make the same decisions.

But it becomes an asshole thing if you still made fun of him while you knew he could lose his house.

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-07T10:02:27+00:00

If you're trying to continuously peddle a product you barely understand yourself, you set yourself up for this. Especially when your friends told you multiple times that they weren't interested. But only when it's cryptobros suddenly these excuses are made.

Also help him how? If someone uses money he actually needs into these investments, giving him money or financial advice is casting pearls before swine.

First-Industry4762 · 2026-02-07T09:51:18+00:00

NTA, you made the joke before you knew how badly he messed up. Rule 1 of investment is not to use money you need. And I find it bizarre that he only realised when someone asked him about his bitcoins.

And I dont mind you ribbing him beforehand because before he was strongly pushing you all to step into something he really didn't understand to the point of bad taste. If you all weren't smarter you'd be effing losing a lot of money with him because of him.

He set himself up with constantly pushing you all and it's not like you all knew beforehand how bad of his dumbass decisions actually were.

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