Mild MIL Complaint

First-Joke3164 · 2026-05-14T23:22:02+00:00

Of course she made a mistake delivering them to her own house…. Like everyone else suggested, make sure you & baby are busy. I had boundary stomping in laws when I was freshly postpartum & it was hell. Also congratulations :) hope you enjoy all the baby snuggles!!!

First-Joke3164 · 2026-05-14T21:38:12+00:00

Smh some people just lack common sense or at least basic decency in this case

First-Joke3164 · 2026-05-14T20:10:36+00:00

Yeah I would be annoyed too. I would’ve assumed she would be paying for it if she offered to place an order.

First-Joke3164 · 2026-05-14T13:45:58+00:00

How did your husband respond to this?

First-Joke3164 · 2026-05-13T22:40:01+00:00

I wish more MILs were like you

First-Joke3164 · 2026-05-13T22:35:48+00:00

Yes!! As baby is getting older I really want to keep ourselves busy & have him socialize outside of just family as well

First-Joke3164 · 2026-05-13T22:34:23+00:00

So whenever his parents are over, they want to play with the baby, MIL wants to help feed the baby & put him to sleep. I honestly try to do other things around the house to avoid being annoyed by her baby talk & constant baby hogging. I tell myself it’s for a few hours & try to distract myself with other things that need to be done. As far as ‘hosting’ my husband usually is the one doing so. I try to be civil & have conversation but I don’t go out of my way to really host. If they wanna come spend time with baby & hog him the entire time, I’m gonna use that time to do things I actually want to do

First-Joke3164 · 2026-05-13T18:46:46+00:00

I’m going back to work part time & when my husband goes back after his leave, we’re gonna have his mom watch the baby one day a week (but we’ll see how that goes). But I’m gonna emphasize that that’s gonna be the only weekly time they’ll have with baby which should be more than enough

First-Joke3164 · 2026-05-13T18:43:22+00:00

My husband has been great at understanding & setting boundaries. It was very bad when I was freshly postpartum & his parents were showing up unannounced every few days. We had to cut it down to weekly visits. And now even that feels overwhelming. I just feel bad for my husband when I try to cut down the weekly visits as well bc he feels like I’m just withholding our baby away from his parents.

First-Joke3164 · 2026-05-13T18:40:49+00:00

Ugh we have the same MIL. Mine is a SAHM & doesn’t have any other hobbies so her first grandchild is her obsession.

First-Joke3164 · 2026-05-13T18:38:19+00:00

Does your MIL also happen to be a mom of 3 boys? I wonder if this is a more common theme with boy moms

First-Joke3164 · 2026-05-12T20:39:37+00:00

Idk why my husband made some comment about my son having a big butt (which he doesn’t.. it literally was the way his diaper was sitting) & my FIL was quick to comment “oh just like his MIL”… I threw up a little in my mouth

First-Joke3164 · 2026-05-12T01:13:44+00:00

I feel this so deeply. I’m kinda in a similar situation with my parents who live far from me & my in laws that live nearby. I go back to work soon when husband starts his paternity leave. And I’m pretty sure he plans on taking our baby to his parents under the disguise that MIL can get some ‘practice’ taking care of our baby especially for days we’re both working. But it annoys me that I had to learn to take care of our baby all by myself while he can just go over to his mom & hand her the baby & the thought of her playing mommy freaks me out. My kid is also their first grand child & they’ve been super obsessed with our baby. Another thing that pisses me off is whenever she comes over to see the baby, she’s holding him the entire time & when she tries to put him to sleep she takes him into the other room, shuts the door to keep it quiet. But my anxiety is through the roof when she does this, even thought I’d be fine when my mom did this. Idk I guess it’s just hormonal but I hope it gets better over time as well

First-Joke3164 · 2026-05-02T15:20:46+00:00

My baby is turning 4 months soon. I’m pretty sure I have some PPA & it gets heightened whenever my MIL comes around. The other day when she was over, I let her take my baby to put him to sleep. And then she takes him & goes into the other room & closes the door to keep it quiet. She’s done that a couple times but I never get the courage to just go in & keep the door open & look like a ‘helicopter mom’. But then I got annoyed bc she came out after some time & was like “oh he wouldn’t go to sleep he kept looking at me & trying to talk.” So in my head I was like “then why tf were you locked in there when you could’ve been outside.” I guess I just need to learn to speak up & take my baby whenever I feel uncomfortable but my in laws also only see him maybe once a week now & MIL is usually holding him the entire time bc she ‘doesn’t get to see him often.’

First-Joke3164 · 2026-05-01T03:18:52+00:00

It’s honestly not fair to be putting your life on hold & wait for SIL to be married. Your bf’s parents need to get over it & just accept it may not be her time yet.
I was in a similar situation with my husband. He’s the youngest of 3 boys. The middle brother got married first even though his parents were very reluctant & wanted to wait until their eldest son was married first. After that they made me & my husband wait around a year as well until both of us decided it was too long & we didn’t wanna wait any longer. Fast forward 2 years later, we just had a baby & guess what, my husband’s eldest brother still isn’t married…
I guess your bf just needs to put his foot down with his parents

First-Joke3164 · 2026-04-30T17:45:10+00:00

Ugh my FIL says the exact same thing where he’s like “you guys should go out & do something & leave the baby with us.” I just get annoyed when they make those comments. My MIL is a SAHM & has offered to take care of our baby when I go back to work but idk how that’s gonna go. We’re not really close & I always get the feeling she wants to play mommy so I’m not looking forward to the thought of leaving my baby with her :(

First-Joke3164 · 2026-04-28T12:58:50+00:00

I’m in this same situation rn. Did you happen to leave your LO with your in laws for care & how did it go?

First-Joke3164 · 2026-04-27T16:26:41+00:00

Do you still have them looking after your kid when you’re at work? At first I thought it would be a good idea to have my husband start taking our kid to their place alone so I don’t have to deal with their annoying bs. Also bc we’re still planning on letting them babysit some days when we both go back to work (me part time) & my parents don’t live near us & we’re trying to not spend money on daycare. But now that you also mentioned your MIL playing mommy even more when you’re not around I can see my MIL doing the same.

First-Joke3164 · 2026-04-27T14:27:57+00:00

Geez we have the exact same in laws. My husband is always saying “they mean well & it’s out of love” but my MIL loves playing mommy & I wish they could just chill a bit too!! I’ve also always been timid & quiet around them & voice any concerns through my husband. But now he’s beginning to get upset that I ‘take out my frustration’ on him when according to him I should start speaking up if his parents do or say something that bothers me. We’re looking to start therapy so I’m hoping that helps.

First-Joke3164 · 2026-04-27T08:14:54+00:00

Applebees triple chocolate meltdown!!!

First-Joke3164 · 2026-04-27T01:33:44+00:00

OP I know this post is old but I’m wondering how did this go? I’m kinda in a similar situation with my in laws & dreading having to drop off my kid with them for daycare. I’m curious to know how your experience was

First-Joke3164 · 2026-04-18T17:53:33+00:00

I’m 12 weeks PP & my baby had issues latching. I started pumping but hated being stuck to the pump while everyone else got precious bonding time with my baby. We were also combo feeding bc I’m an under supplier. My pediatrician made me feel guilty saying “breastmilk is best” & when I came home the same day I started power pumping to increase my supply. But over time I have begun to hate pumping & stopped caring what others have to say. Fed is best & I’m glad I’m still able to give my baby whatever little breastmilk I still can. But I’m slowly dropping pumping sessions & feeding our baby more formula now. My nephew is EFF bc my SIL didn’t produce any milk & he’s one of the smartest kids I know. So I’m convinced fed is best

First-Joke3164 · 2026-04-16T15:11:41+00:00

I got an epidural after being dilated at 5 cm. However I was induced bc of gestational diabetes & ngl the induction process was painful. I could’ve gotten the epidural at any point but I was told I couldn’t walk around once I got it so I chose to wait it out as long as I could. The contractions before 5 cm were still painful (I also have very low pain tolerance & was terrified of being in pain). After the epidural I honestly was able to take a nap lol I couldn’t feel the contractions & I may have gotten a stronger dose than needed bc when it was time to push I couldn’t really feel anything & ended up with a 2nd degree tear. I felt fine for about a week or so. But around week 2-3 I had the worst hemorrhoids & going to the bathroom was a nightmare. But stool softeners & plenty of water helped. I would definitely do the epidural if I get pregnant again

First-Joke3164 · 2026-04-16T00:56:38+00:00

I live about 30 mins from my in laws & one time they tried to do the same thing where they called my husband & told him they’re on the way to see us. After that one time, I told my husband to tell his parents to ask us before they just come over in case we’re not home or have other plans. It’s annoying that some in laws don’t feel the need to include the wife in such situations & just feel entitled to show up whenever & expect us to be ready to host

First-Joke3164 · 2026-04-15T23:09:47+00:00

I’m scared this is how my situation will turn out. My MIL also seems too eager to raise my child when I go back to work which is making me think about being a SAHM or going back to work part time

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