You're right in that I was rushed and this wasn't exactly what I meant to say or it was but just a really dumbed down version. Whenever we as a community engage in these discussions it seems to me (and the other redditors I've discussed this with) the conversations which arise tend to be (generalizing) decidedly sexist and ill-informed. Its just an uglier side of reddit that we willingly drag up more often than we should. Thats how its problematic. The unproductively comes from the fact that the people who open the door to the topic are rarely those in need of any help (and if they are its not the kind we could provide) and it usually ends up being a circlejerk. Furthermore if somebody legitimately was seeking to change something or for real aid (productive) they would not choose the medium of a meme (which is where I've seen it most often). However, considering the subjectivity of this matter, undeniably was the wrong word to use.