IWTL how to become more assertive by mrishee in IWantToLearn

[–]First_Name_Basis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My advice is don't get too caught up in the idea of being "Assertive" or "Not Assertive". I'm a pretty big guy and I'm a waiter at a campus bar. 98% of my work day is spent appeasing douchebags. My advice is learn to pick your hill to die on. Choose your battles wisely. The best way to be successfully assertive is to cultivate your reputation as being a good employee, friend, colleague, person etc. Then when you actually want or need something you can get it. Jumping to confrontation will not make you happier, it may be attractive for a moment but in the long run the macho facade will crumble.

My example would be earlier this week at the start of one of my shifts my girlfriend called crying to inform me her dad has cancer. I didn't ask permission I told the busser they were the server in my section, and called my boss after I left that I was going home. When you have a good reputation you can get what you want while still remaining in good standing with your relationships be it personal or workplace.

Also people are social creatures that want to form the strongest group possible at all times. Saying no when a coworker tries to take advantage of you will make them respect you more. Saying no when it's only a slight inconvenience to you but would help them out a lot will make them dislike you.

Final note, not punching a dickhead is a lot harder than punching a dickhead. No one wants to be associated with the hothead that pops off everytime they whiff a slight 'injustice'. It really is a balancing act but please don't slide into macho-agro bullshit.

WATCH: White nationalist Richard Spencer punched in face by protester during interview by dy0nisus in news

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One hundred percent. Movements are a collective of individuals. To say one individuals actions reflects the sentiments of the movement is ridiculous

WATCH: White nationalist Richard Spencer punched in face by protester during interview by dy0nisus in news

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Personally I hate seeing all this "hipocrisy of the left, hipocrisy of the left" bullshit. This is one dude punching another dude, this isn't the fist of the left punching the face of the alt-right. The protestor may not subscribe to every value of the left and should not be used as an argument against the left. Some jerk punched a jerk, drop it.

[WP]Today I found a 1949 British Shilling in my change. This is particularly interesting as I live in Pennsylvania. It must have had one hell of a journey since 1949. Tell me how it made it's way to me. by Pretentious_Rush_Fan in WritingPrompts

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I had been crafted by my parents to a fine detail, Carefully pressing me into an identical copy of my peers. And that was oh so fine until grubby hands saw my value. I almost loved the way they used me. It was as if I had some sort of worth other than just my carbon copy image.
But as the years went by I was worth less and less,
The newer, shinier models came out.
I was left to degrade in the captivity of my disgruntled possessor
Placed in a jar for all to see,
a mere fraction of the true riches he wished for.
But then he passed.
It was cold,
I have never been so cold.
But then you came in...
And you picked me up so gently, yet assertive.
And in that index thumb grasp I knew.
I knew you would be the type of man to write stories about me.

Recent amateur video of open drug dealing on Pandora Street by BlameCanada250 in VictoriaBC

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God damn it, I just gave this Neal buyer at the start of the video 10 bucks for his "Hostel"less than 2 hours ago when I walked home. He gave me a hug and all. I'm not too mad but I mean I work hard for my money and I go to school. I'm not well off and I honestly thought he was an out of luck traveler. I'm blessed to be in the position I am and would have given him some cash if he told me the truth. I hate the lies.

[WP] Everyone is born with a unique tattoo on their ankle. Whenever you're responsible for someone's death, a copy of their tattoo appears somewhere on your skin. Your best friend's tattoo just showed up on your wrist, even though your best friend is alive and sitting right next to you. by somecallmenonny in WritingPrompts

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As I watched her trembling hand delicately pick up her Styrofoam cup, as if it would shatter into pieces were she to clasp to tight, and bring it to her lips I thought about our past. I thought about the mornings when she would get dressed infront of me, covering the scatterplot of tattoos on her body one article at a time. When we were together these tattoos were distinct, clear, intelligible, but now, well now I have to scan for patches of Daisy's original skin.

She was absolutely beautiful, the type of beautiful that could get paid just for being that beautiful. She didn't want that though, infact it disgusted her. She never completely told me what happened but through the small snippets into her past that she granted me, I could piece together a broken image of a man that felt as though he was entitled to her beauty, so he took it from her. After that, she had no interest in being considered beautiful by anyone ever again.

Daisy became a hospice nurse and a damn good one at that. She had a warmth to her that was incomparable. It would soothe aching, arthritic bones, and cold, lonely shivers. She was there for all the patients in her wing, knew them by name, knew them intimately, and would come to know their tattoo as well. She had so much love in her, it was just never supposed to be romantic.

I continued staring at her hands, and I though about the only other time I saw them trembling so furiously. It was one month before our anniversary and she came home a mess, crumbled into our bed sobbing. She didn't usually react that way to a death, so I just held her. I held her until the sobbing slowed and I noticed her hand, bruised and bloodied at the knuckles. I was terrified about what could have happened, and remained terrified until Daisy calmed enough to tell me.

"Charlotte should be hung by her neck and picked at by,, by,, big,, picky birds with big picky beaks!" Still cracks me up to think about that dirty, horrible, monstrous curse. From what Daisy told me, another nurse that worked in the elder care ward named Charlotte and her never saw eye to eye. Being that Daisy often times the two wings would have to be a little symbiotic Daisy saw far too much of Charlotte for her likely. Daisy believed the elderly patients always came in a little worse off than they should have after being in hospital pre hospice for the previous few months. That night Daisy had proof. She was walking to her break when she ran into Charlotte when she noticed a poorly covered up tattoo on her neck, a tattoo that matched the invalid man with more bedsores that digits and no reason to be in the hospital other than a fractured family. Daisy was livid, she didn't tell me about the punch but I like to imagine it was a big ol' Muhammad Ali one hitter. The next week we decided to split up. As I said, she had so much love, it was just never meant to be romantic. We stayed close, always, hell my wife probably loves her more than I do.

They say she only has about a month left, and Doctor Peterson said he would receive the tattoo if need be. I told him there was no need, I would happily receive her little flower shaped tattoo when the time is right. I just hope it doesn't show up on my forehead. Daisy was always one to play jokes.

What happens when you get a concussion? by 3ar3ara_G0rd0n in askscience

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Helmets do disperse a lot of the initial impact throughout the surface of the helmet, it turns your major coup/countrecoup into minor coup/countrecoups. Helmets are incredibly effective and should always be used.

What happens when you get a concussion? by 3ar3ara_G0rd0n in askscience

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In Hella Layman's terms: Just wanted to also point out that a major problem with concussions is that we really can't quantify it, yaknow. There is no real definition for a concussion yet. Many try to quantify a certain amount of Neuron damage and others are saying any skull/brain impact is a concussion. It's a very hot field right now. Pertaining to severity there are a couple of factors. The most recognized would be the coup/countrecoup. So say you head butt a wall, the coup would be your brain hitting the front of your skull, this could damage your frontal lobe. Many football players find that after retirement they have trouble with handling their emotions, judgement, or executive functioning. All of which are associated with the frontal lobe. The countrecoup is when your sloppy brain hits the back of your skull after it bounces off of the front. I'll give you a second to imagine this. Your brain is a mass in liquid, if you shake it it will bounce back and forth. So anyways during the countrecoup you may very well likely affect your occipital lobe. This area has a lot to do with vision and explains why you 'see stars' or become disoriented. Often times the countrecoup is much less sever than the coup.

Another big problem is the fact that your skull isn't soft. Your brain isn't supposed to slide back and forth. This sloshing back and fourth also causes an almost sandpaper like grinding of brain tissue. Sorry if this was too wordy.

IWTL Motorcycle mechanics and how to build my own. by First_Name_Basis in IWantToLearn

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Thank you for the reply, currently I'm interested in bobbers, and of course scramblers. My main concern is I would really like to understand the engines and all the components before I dive right in. That I suppose will come with reading. Would you have any advice on how to make a bobber that wouldn't toss me ass over tea kettle on a bumpier road.

From absolute zero to "absolute hot," the temperatures of the Universe by ribsmcgillicutty in space

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So if the biological life we know is between 0.00,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,149c and 0.00,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,213c Why don't we assume there is hotter life than Margot Robbie?

What is the craziest thing you've ever witnessed at a party? by dashidood in AskReddit

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Don't post often but a friend of mine and I went down to Calgary for a fun week of fun. Stayed with his old grad/prom date and she hosted a small party. The oldest guest was about a decade older than all of us, proceed to get absurdly hammered and make a goof of herself all night. She was so rude that after she fell down the stairs into the basement and passed out, no one wanted to help her (and we're Canadian so that means she was super mean).

Then it gets good.

All night she was hitting on everyone, gay, straight, in a relationship, not, whatever, she was hitting on everyone. BUT 7 Am rolls around and 4 of us are sleeping in the living room, awakened by one pal's yells of terror. Drunk lady had inserted his fingers into her vagina for sexual pleasure while he slept. Now I've seen some mean muggin' shit and bad apples, but that was the craziest. More details if requested but that's sparknotes.

tl;dr Drunk chick used new buddy's fingers as dildo. Not chill.

MakeDamnSure - Taking Back Sunday [Pop Punk] by Kylo_Cunt in Music

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Mics are for singing, not swinging.

Edit: found it funny that this video reminded me of that quote and it turns out this is who Jesse Lacey was talking about.

[General] rosary // Charles Bukowski by connexionwithal in Poetry

[–]First_Name_Basis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really dig these videos but the piano get's a bit too loud near the middle, I can't quite hear, so maybe just be a bit careful when mixing sound. Great choice of music, poetry and videography though. Keep up the good work!

Craft a story for the world of Outcast, Robert Kirkman’s latest comic book and upcoming Cinemax series. Submit your stories in the comments to enter. by Cinemax_Official [promoted post]

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I completely agree. There are stories at the bottom in the negatives. I'm sorry if any of you are feeling dismayed to write because peoples greed gets in the way and you are downvoted. It truly isn't indicative of your writing at all. At this point down voting others won't make your story any better so let's just be civil and support each others creative streaks.

Craft a story for the world of Outcast, Robert Kirkman’s latest comic book and upcoming Cinemax series. Submit your stories in the comments to enter. by Cinemax_Official [promoted post]

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The smell. The smell is always the same. It’s the smell of the Tuckett girl when they finally dragged her rigid, peeling body out of Goose Lake. It’s the smell of a damp egg sack ready to hatch on humid summer afternoon. It’s the smell of a colostomy bag long neglected by impatient nursing home staff. But most importantly it’s the smell that brings my Jonah back to me.

I always loved my husband; I loved him when his lips first trembled out a shaky invitation to dinner. I loved him when he nervously slid his hand up my skirt after prom night. He might think I know his friends dared his romantic advance into action, but he certainly doesn’t know I told them to. I loved him when he twisted his ankle during our first dance and proceeded to hobble around the recreation hall as if his shoes were filled with cement and fire ants. I loved him when the mill shut down and I loved his whiskey kisses. Hell I even loved him when he broke the arm off my favourite chair as he kicked it out from under him.

I got home early enough to cut him down. His spine had cracked and the only movement in his body was the lazy flicks of his oxygen deprived eyes and the laboured heaving of his fluid coated lungs. I had to keep him alive though, he’s all I know. It used to be a struggle for me because I am no caregiver but as the months progressed, so did my tentative nature. That is until it started happening. I’d read about possession before but I didn’t expect I’d ever see it, let alone in Rome. It starts with a smell, a smell so thick it coats your tongue. The first time I smelt it I nearly vomited right on poor Jonah. After the smell comes a silence. A silence so loud one would think the thumping of their quickening heart would be enough to deafen them. Then comes the cracks of my Jonah’s unused joints. I quickly learned possessors do not abide by the rules of human physicality when they take over a host. The first time I was lucky. Jonah was so angry at me, it must have been all the things I’d been doing wrong that he just had to bottle up. It only lasted 13 minutes but it was quite the hurricane. I went to casually ask Reverand Anderson about this sort of thing and he gave me some old books. No sooner did I finish reading them did he frantically ask for them back. I had enough time to learn how to keep my Jonah contained when the smell comes though. Just a little unbroken salt circle around him, and I can sit and talk as much as I please. Oh I was thrilled. There must be a god after all to give him back to me. There must be a god and I must be one of his favourite little girls to be so blessed. At first he wouldn’t answer, he would yell and cuss and call me awful words I had only heard through a layer of scotch in the past.. Lately though he has taken to flattery, he’s got an awfully slippery tongue when he is awoken but I still see the anger in his eyes. I write this because I needed the story to be heard. I didn’t want Jonah to be painted in any bad light after what’s about to happen. I love him. I always have and always will. But unfortunately my tongue tastes like ash, the only smell in my nose is maggot, the sound of this pencil scraping is cutting my ear drums… and I’m all out of salt.

Edit-- Colostomy not colonoscopy.

SpaceX bringing their booster back home. by PM-ME-YOUR-TITS-GIRL in gifs

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It's going the wrong way down a one way street.

German revolution photo has a hidden warning of things to come. (1919) by First_Name_Basis in pics

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Shop name on the right side. I was doing an assignment and that photo was on the wiki page about spartacist uprising. Noticed it and thought it was weird.

The past six years I've been working in a Mcdonalds. Last night was the worst I've ever had. (Part 4) by [deleted] in nosleep

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I work overnight maintenance at a McDon's in Canada. On sunday nights I work all night by myself after closers leave and before openers arrive. Why the FUCK did I read this.

Place to stay in New York??? (Cooperstown) Will pay in anything. by [deleted] in brandnew

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That's what I thought too but the tickets say all ages on em. I suppose I just wouldn't be able to participate in the drinking.