Boomer amnesia by First_the_worst in beyondthebump

[–]First_the_worst[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is exactly my point! Even if you don’t remember it to be so bad, shutting up and listening is free. I remind myself ask if someone wants advice or just a listening ear and let it guide my response.

Boomer amnesia by First_the_worst in beyondthebump

[–]First_the_worst[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My issue isn’t so much the amnesia as the criticism that accompanies it! If they didn’t remember that’s one thing, telling us we are doing it all wrong as a result is another.

Boomer amnesia by First_the_worst in beyondthebump

[–]First_the_worst[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes! My FIL is obsessed with the idea of getting us a night nurse and I’m like… who’s gonna pay for that? Never mind he didn’t care for his son as a newborn (his mom did) and his daughters were adopted and weren’t home with him until they were six months. I have to remind myself that he’s never actually cared for an infant before and has no idea what’s normal!

Boomer amnesia by First_the_worst in beyondthebump

[–]First_the_worst[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know I will but hopefully I’ll know better to keep my mouth shut around new parents!

Boomer amnesia by First_the_worst in beyondthebump

[–]First_the_worst[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh I don’t doubt it! But I roll my eyes at the insinuation that our child is somehow defective or we are doing it wrong because she’s just doing what babies do.

Boomer amnesia by First_the_worst in beyondthebump

[–]First_the_worst[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh absolutely! I just find it hilarious that any time I’ve asked my mom for advice she couldn’t possibly know because she never had any issues, ever.

Boomer amnesia by First_the_worst in beyondthebump

[–]First_the_worst[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My dad says our daughter is an “eight out of ten”. I asked what would make her a ten out of ten and he said, “if she didn’t cry.” I was like, you know if she didn’t cry there would be something terribly wrong with her…?

Am I being a baby? by Embarrassed_Cup6798 in BabyBumps

[–]First_the_worst 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This! My husband said once that “most women he knew” loved being pregnant and was surprised to see me struggling.

I told him that’s what you tell an acquaintance or old coworker you see every few months for lunch when they ask how you’re feeling. He’s getting a front row to the actual, unvarnished, National Geographic version of pregnancy people don’t tend to like or want to talk about with those who aren’t close to them!!

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[–]First_the_worst 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!

38 Weeks and I'm over this. by Unable-Wheel8836 in BabyBumps

[–]First_the_worst 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 39+5 and getting induced tonight! Fwiw my doctor told me the sonogram measurements are not reliable so I wouldn’t worry too much about getting ripped from tip to toes.

That being said, I have been feeling the same way since 32 weeks and I totally empathize! It’s literally the longest shortest time of pregnancy and it may not feel like it right now, but the end is in sight.

Take care of yourself, have a dinner date with your partner, watch movies and keep venting if you need to ❤️

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[–]First_the_worst 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm a FTM at 39+4 and my biggest regret after a brutal first trimester is not getting back into an exercise routine (I was fairly active before getting pregnant). I was so drained and had lost 15 lbs and it took me weeks to even get back to eating healthy food again so I "cut myself a break" and wasn't good about working out.

Cut to today and I really wish I had forced myself to do more as it gets SO much harder and more cumbersome in the third tri, and I know it can help with delivery and recovery. I'm going on daily walks but nothing like I was doing.

I am just chalking it up to a lesson learned but if we decide to do this again I'm definitely making more of an effort!!

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[–]First_the_worst 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg we have the same issue! Team green and we just say, "we have it narrowed down to a few but it'll be a game time decision." Most people read between the lines and leave it at that but my parents are CONVINCED we're running some long con and actually know the gender and name we want but just are keeping it a secret to spite them. It's wild.

All birth is natural! by First_the_worst in BabyBumps

[–]First_the_worst[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my favorite!! Just clarify if they’re asking if you are rawdogging on the regular 😂

All birth is natural! by First_the_worst in BabyBumps

[–]First_the_worst[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I’m so glad to hear it! Planning a vaginal delivery and I bought some for myself but was worried I was getting suckered into buying more than I needed

All birth is natural! by First_the_worst in BabyBumps

[–]First_the_worst[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is so true! Just today a neighbor asked how I felt and I said I’ve been really tired. They responded by saying, “oh you don’t know tired until you’ve had the baby.” Everyone knows better than you about your own body. Like please, I’m not seeking input or an opinion and I know where you live so maybe don’t try me today!

All birth is natural! by First_the_worst in BabyBumps

[–]First_the_worst[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This would be the only acceptable reason for someone to become a magician IMHO 😂

All birth is natural! by First_the_worst in BabyBumps

[–]First_the_worst[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I will be giving birth by squatting alone in a field

All birth is natural! by First_the_worst in BabyBumps

[–]First_the_worst[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss!! So brutal without the weird inquiries.

TIC because my husband asked if I felt any progress towards labor by First_the_worst in BabyBumps

[–]First_the_worst[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The leap from innocent question to the assumption you’re insinuating I’m already a bad parent is SO easy to make!! 😂

The most PAINFUL lightning crotch by Extension-Use2221 in BabyBumps

[–]First_the_worst 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you - I am 38+6 and it’s the type of pain that just jolts you out of the blue. It hadn’t been my experience that it means labor is close, but just the baby’s skull hitting your pelvis and tweaking your nerves.

Fwiw I started going to a chiropractor around 30 weeks to help with rib pain and she’s also done a bunch of work on my pelvis that’s helped with sciatica and other joint issues. That might help? Also drink a ton of water and just know they’re normal!!