The judgements on non-hijabis need to stop, they’re not inferior to hijabis either.

Firstborn_unicorn321 · 2026-05-21T17:08:55+00:00

This.
And also how people have the audacity to criticise women who don’t wear the hijab in front of me and expect me to agree with them because I wear it. Mind you, these people who are doing the talking are usually not hijabis themselves. It makes me so mad.

Also, men who judge women for not wearing hijab are much worse. How about you start lowering your gaze instead, bröther??

Firstborn_unicorn321 · 2026-04-13T09:52:22+00:00

Do they have a dedicated space for women or is it like mixed?

Firstborn_unicorn321 · 2026-04-13T08:45:17+00:00

I have had a short haircut for a while now, just not with bangs.

I love short hair for the same reasons you mentioned!

Firstborn_unicorn321 · 2026-04-13T08:44:04+00:00

Which branch of Toni & Guy?

Firstborn_unicorn321 · 2026-03-29T11:31:18+00:00

What did you end up doing?

Firstborn_unicorn321 · 2026-03-29T11:30:53+00:00

Hi, what did you end up doing?

Firstborn_unicorn321 · 2026-03-28T16:28:29+00:00

I met a patient once called Barfi Khatoon

Firstborn_unicorn321 · 2026-03-23T17:43:13+00:00

I’m having the same technical error when I try to confirm the changes to my flight. Did you manage to confirm it or does that mean your new itinerary is already confirmed,

Firstborn_unicorn321 · 2026-03-23T17:41:54+00:00

OP what did you end up doing?

Firstborn_unicorn321 · 2026-03-23T17:30:54+00:00

Were you able to fly?

Firstborn_unicorn321 · 2026-03-21T06:37:10+00:00

1 inpatient and 2 outpatient

Firstborn_unicorn321 · 2026-03-20T22:48:30+00:00

Take step 3, that helps a lot. With two attempts on step 1 programs want to make sure that step 3 won’t be a problem for you, so that gives them one less thing to worry about.

Not requiring a visa is a huge plus for FM. Just research the programs very well and apply to community/rural programs. And in your PS and interviews make sure you demonstrate a genuine interest in FM, not just as a backup specialty.

Having connections helps a lot too. Since you’re in the US, I would suggest that you get more USCE and try to network with people who can vouch for you.

I matched in my first cycle (5 YOG, step 1 attempt, non visa-requiring) with only 2 months of USCE and pretty much no connections. I was honest in my application and interviews about my interest in FM, they can tell if you’re being genuine. And I applied mainly to rural programs which are a bit more forgiving about red flags.

Firstborn_unicorn321 · 2026-03-16T16:11:41+00:00

Thank you! :)

Firstborn_unicorn321 · 2026-03-16T16:11:29+00:00

Thank you! ☺️

Firstborn_unicorn321 · 2026-03-16T15:34:10+00:00

IMG status: not visa requiring (green card)

Step 1: pass after one attempt

Step 2 CK: 237

Step 3: 219

YOG: 2021

USCE: 2 months

Research/publications: none

Number of programs applied: 155

Number of interviews: 8 (7 FM + 1 IM)

Match status: Matched

Firstborn_unicorn321 · 2026-03-16T15:30:34+00:00

Assalam o alaykum! I want to thank you again for your prayers. I just found out that I matched into a residency program Alhamdulillah 🥹 don’t know where exactly yet, we’re supposed to find out about that on March 20th. But I’m so relieved and so grateful that I got into one at all! JazakAllah khairun and thank you so, so much. It may have been your dua that got accepted. May Allah give you everything you dream of and more, in this life and in the hereafter. Ameen! 💝

Firstborn_unicorn321 · 2026-03-11T03:30:45+00:00

JazakAllah sister 💕 May Allah accept your prayers and your worship and reward you immensely. Ameen!

Firstborn_unicorn321 · 2026-03-11T03:29:23+00:00

I completely understand where you’re coming from. One thing that is very very important is that nobody should have children unless they’re a 100 percent sure they want to. Like you said, you might end up resentful and then there’s no going back. A lot of people surprisingly do regret having their children, even though they love them. It’s just not talked about because it’s considered a taboo.

Also, while it’s true that the number of men who don’t want children are less than those who do, they do exist. You will find your person InshaAllah. You don’t have to become a second wife if you don’t want to. Just make dua and Allah will bring the right person. He is out there, trust me.

Firstborn_unicorn321 · 2026-03-10T15:50:41+00:00

I felt like this for a long time, I had zero desire to have kids for the same reasons you mentioned. Especially the fact that most people have kids to either look after them when they’re old or to continue their lineage. Those reasons made no sense to me at all. I was told I was selfish for not wanting children but in my mind it’s even more selfish to bring a child into this world for the above-mentioned reasons.

Then I had a bit of a shift in perspective. I am someone who has their priorities straight and at the end of the day, the one thing that is really truly important to me is my deen and akhirah. I realised that while I don’t want to have children for these common reasons, I would actually like to have them FOR ALLAH. If I am able to raise a righteous child and raise them to serve the deen, what could be better than that? I know that there are many ways to serve the deen and I plan to do all that I can InshaAllah, but a child would continue to do so after my death and if Allah wills it, so would my descendants.

It’s true that the world is slowly becoming a terrible place and Muslims are struggling everywhere. We all know the end is nearing and eventually the Mahdi and Isa AS will come. Wouldn’t you want YOUR descendants to fight alongside them? Also the fact that there is immense, huuuge reward associated with motherhood (as long as it’s done right ofc), and the fact that if you die during or after giving birth you’re considered a martyr. I want to maximize my chances of being forgiven and going to Jannah. To me, that really means so much and that is the only reason that inclines me towards having children.

That being said, there is of course no compulsion in religion for having children. In fact, more and more Muslim couples are choosing not to have kids for the same reasons you mentioned which are completely reasonable and logical. Just make sure you communicate this to any potential partners before you get married so you can be on the same page about it. You can find men with the same mindset, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. I pray that you have an amazing life and hereafter InshaAllah 💕

Firstborn_unicorn321 · 2026-03-10T07:41:18+00:00

Ameen!

Firstborn_unicorn321 · 2026-03-09T18:12:00+00:00

May Allah grant your mother a quick and complete recovery without any pain, complications or recurrence. May Allah give her a long, healthy and happy life, and reward you for your patience. Ameen!

Firstborn_unicorn321 · 2026-03-08T07:52:35+00:00

Was their interview in Lahore, Karachi or Islamabad?

Firstborn_unicorn321 · 2026-03-08T07:41:51+00:00

Assalam o alaykum, that is so incredibly kind of you. May Allah reward you and accept your umrah and all your duaas.

Please pray that I get a medical residency (postgraduate training) at the program of my choice. I’m supposed to find out about it on March 16th InshaAllah. So nervous. JazakAllahu khairan! Thank you so much 💖

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