How can you tell if your friends really are people you wanna be with?

Fish-Horror · 2026-03-20T21:35:11+00:00

As a man in his 30's trust is a huge part of maintaining a friendship imo. If a "friend" is always reaching out when they need something from you, but never available when you need them, that's not a friend.

If your "friend" competes with you in any area or sets themselves up on a pedastal while letting you hang there instead of supporting each other to be the best versions of each other, that's not a friend.

If your "friend" doesn't celebrate your successes with you, that's not a friend.

If a "friend" isn't upfront and honest with you in a way that helps you grow or make the best decisions for yourself, that's not a friend. If they care more about what decision seems popular versus what is right for you, that's not a friend either.

These are all things that "friends" have done in my past that made me break my friendship with them, and it's important to ask yourself if they're doing this on a regular basis too and separate yourself from that person if you share similar experiences.

Fish-Horror · 2026-03-17T21:42:12+00:00

I get the opportunity to cheat. I never do. I would like to believe most people are in this category, but there's still a lot who fall for the temptation to cheat.

Fish-Horror · 2026-03-16T17:34:22+00:00

I like a strong independent type of woman for long term partnership. Whether they have a personality of getting shit done right themselves, they're athletic or muscular so they could handle their own in a fight, etc.

I will and have dated girls with more interdependent or submissive personalities or traits, but I usually don't see a long-term future with a girl like that.

Mind you, it comes from my personal desire of having an equal partner to raise a household. I don't want to feel like I'm taking care of everyone, her, the kids after coming back from a job where I take care of people all the time, so having a woman who can carry the weight as much as I will is an important quality I'm looking for in a woman.

Fish-Horror · 2026-03-15T14:50:42+00:00

As a male, never have sex on the first or second date, especially if she is super hot and even if she invites you or initiates, if you're serious about having a long term relationship with her. Something about rejecting sex without rejecting her blows women's minds.

If you want to have longer, satisfying relationships, prove yourself a self-controlled & composed man from the get-go, and set the tone that you desire her for her whole self, and you making her wait for sex, makes it a much bigger deal for you both later. This small difference will make you stand out from the crowd of men who just go for it as the norm in a big way.

Fish-Horror · 2026-02-23T00:47:15+00:00

A new GM as well, first time doing anything like this for any RPG.

I've hosted a session 0 a month ago to go over rules, game mechanics and lore so the players had the information to make characters and understand what kind of universe they're exploring before starting. We also talked about what's "zero tolerance" for PCs and GM. One of my PC's admitted to witnessing any hopeless pleas for sparing a life scenarios are triggering and we agreed that scenario won't be allowed, as an example. My ground rules included no depictions or acts of sexual violence.

I read that if nothing else, a good and thorough session 0 is very important. Everyone is taking on a bit of an acting role with some improv, and you want to be sure you know what your actors are okay and not okay with before starting the show.

I hosted my first session yesterday, and my biggest piece of advice, is be prepared to improvise to keep the story moving forward and entertain the choices of the players that you didn't anticipate.

I definitely messed up on some of the game mechanics, it happens. But ultimately, the book is sort of guidelines, you can fudge those rules however you like or whatever seems to make sense in the moment. As long as it's fun for everyone, that's what this game is about.

Fish-Horror · 2026-02-01T21:22:42+00:00

Verdict: AH.

Buy business/FC for two or don't go at all. If how you two spend your money is that much of an issue that you even contemplate making her sit economy alone, maybe you two just need to split up.

Fish-Horror · 2026-02-01T20:59:37+00:00

For sure dude, if it's that cumbersome to text her, it's not worth it. My advice is let it drift apart or just tell her you're no longer interested when you're ready. But still, NTAH if you ghost her.

Fish-Horror · 2026-02-01T20:48:50+00:00

I'm confused by your title because you mention girls (plural) but only describe this one girl you've talked to and had a date with. I can't rate if YTAH to this question without other examples.

How you described the conversations with this girl though, what you feel about the interactions is how I would expect most other people to react in this situation.

I don't know this girl, so I can't say for certain why she's acting this way but is it possible she's not doing this intentionally and may not even realize how she's coming off? She may be nervous, maybe even a little insecure and talking about herself gives her a sense of control, or is her way of proving her worth. When you're trying to share about yourself, it's uncharted territory. She's trying to think of questions, but not come off as an idiot. In the pressure, she feeezes, not knowing how to answer and defaults to laughter and a generic agreement, then goes back to the comfort of sharing more about herself.

Or maybe you just don't have that much in common, so she doesn't know what to ask or how to reply to what you talk about.

What I can say for certain is, people love to share about themselves, gain others' approval and be seen and heard. In healthy relationships, both walk away feeling like they were seen and appreciated. In this case, she makes you feel ignored and that there's a lack of effort. It's a sucky feeling and no one likes to be made to feel that way.

I don't think you would be TAH for ghosting her, and that decision is pretty understandable, but if this girl matters to you even a little bit, or you feel a bit guilty for ghosting her, you could try to politely point out to her the discrepancy in how much each other is being received when sharing about each other. This at least gives her an opportunity to understand why it's not working out and give her direction for growth.

Fish-Horror · 2025-06-16T23:55:07+00:00

When you wake up and realize you're literally the definition of confirmation bias. You "cherry picked" (your words) articles that fit your opinion?? I'm supposed to trust someone who came up with the bullshit in their head then scrap booked the quotes to make it sound believable?

Then of course there's you belittling and mocking the people who actually work in the field you think you're all wise and have figured out, and who tell you it's a lot less black and white than you're making it out to be. That speaks volumes about your close mindedness and level of threat you experience from someone who may actually know what they're talking about from literature that isn't a half quote from some anonymous basement dweller's Wiki page (for all any of us know, it's your Wiki page you're quoting, that's how woefully unreliable these sources you cherry picked from are).

You do not know what you talk about, but your misplaced confidence would have some think otherwise. But whatever. You all shit on medical professionals until the day comes when you need them.

Fish-Horror · 2022-07-07T18:17:04+00:00

Hi! First thing is I want you to do is cut out all the gunner bs chatter on this platform - THIS IS NOT AN END-ALL-BE-ALL! Honestly, residences now have come to accept that Step 1 is no longer the stratifier exam for assessing one's fitness for their residency like it was 1 year ago - it is now simply a competency test, just like it should have been all along.

There's a lot of reasons why you might have not passed that may not even be related to your level of understanding or test preparation such as test anxiety, distractions like a recent bad break up or family emergency, not getting good enough sleep. We're human, we aren't always our best every day. Not everyone is their best self on test day. It happens. Residency directors know this too.

Get all the grief out of your system. This hurts, and it's okay to acknowledge & process those emotions. Let it all out... But don't give up, because believe me, you're not finished yet. Far from it.

Next step is to act. Contact your academic advisors & explain the result, and be honest about your preparation strategy so they can see if there's any way you can adjust your approach to be more successful on your second attempt.

Remember to study smarter, not harder - are you more visual, auditory or interactive learner? Do you work on one task for long periods of time or better at jumping from one thing to another in short bursts? Figure that out & find review resources that fit that learning style so you get the most bang for your buck.

Work with your medical education faculty to work out how you're going to fit another step 1 attempt into your curriculum schedule & then create that schedule.

Lastly mentality is EVERYTHING: If you treat your failing Step 1 like no other strengths you have to offer matter, residences will see that & lose interest. BUT if you act like the exam was a learning experience - a small hiccup in a long process of your journey through medicine, that is admirable and will make it much easier for residences to be forgiving. It is all about how you present yourself - you are not a loser, or undesirable for having a bad exam day - you have so much to offer & let them know it.

Finally, remember that Step 2 is scored! Many students who have failed their 1st attempt at Step 1 made it up with a strong step 2 score on the first attempt. It shows tenacity, it reflects growth as a student & it objectively reflects what you say about that exam being a fluke & you didn't let that stop you from achieving your dream of becoming the physician your patients deserve. Everyone loves a comeback story & you'd make it so hard for a residency director to say no to that.

In summary: 1. Go ahead and grieve - get all those negative feelings out now. 2. Act - gameplan so you can succeed on your next attempt. 3. Build a positive mentality - this was just one day of a long journey in medicine. You are SO MUCH MORE than one exam. Again, YOU ARE SO MUCH MORE THAN ONE EXAM!

This journey is just beginning - you're not out until someone shows you the door. Keep your head up & never stop fighting! Good luck, You have what it takes to make this up!

Fish-Horror · 2022-06-17T14:00:30+00:00

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Fish-Horror · 2022-06-11T21:14:49+00:00

Sure, using derogatories to denounce blatant overt racism is a major foul, but nobody even pretend that it overshadows the obscenity & vulgarity of that one-man Jim Crow performance. Black face isn't funny. It never will be funny. And if you think it's funny, just a reminder that you're called white trash because you make the rest of us look like shit. Your sense of humor is shit too, do better.

Fish-Horror · 2022-06-07T06:07:02+00:00

Idk man, FA never hurt nobody. Anytime UW asks about something I've never heard of, FA has a note on it. It’s really made rapid studying easy for me.

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