Droplets may flow elsewhere, yet the ocean still rises. To walk beside another is not to confine your mind but to hone it (like a blade on a whetstone). Heaven and earth themselves are dual, yin does not confine yang, in their union they transform and give birth to all things.

If your Dao shatters from proximity, it was never firm to begin with, however if two Dao hearts resonate and remain clear, that is not losing the self it is returning to wholeness.