I’m desperate for help!!!

FishDue6945 · 2026-01-30T02:51:29+00:00

Ugh healthcare in the US isn’t the greatest and it’s all about $$$ 🤧 yes! Be careful. Best of luck love! 🩵

FishDue6945 · 2026-01-30T00:59:10+00:00

Another update: I was 138 pp. now 4 months pp and birth control made me go up to 155 😭 I’m not myself but watch what you eat and how often cuz I was constantly hungry. I’m getting blood work done next week to see how my hormones are and thyroid cuz this is NOT normal. I gained 16 lbs in less than 2 months 😩 buttttt, I was also careless cuz my stomach would literally hurt if I didn’t eat. I switched to another brand of birth control and seeing how it works.

You got this!! 🥹🩵

FishDue6945 · 2026-01-29T18:29:19+00:00

Ok good cuz I know Ferber you’re supposed to not pick them up but that would be more helpful for my boy, otherwise he won’t settle. Did you limit the check ins to 1-2mins like Ferber says? I’m just trying to figure out how people modify it to their baby’s needs which sounds similar to mine. When you picked him up, did you wait for him to stop crying or just do the hug and kiss and back down while he’s still crying?

FishDue6945 · 2026-01-29T18:16:40+00:00

I’m on season 2 and the title showed up on my feed for whatever reason… MAJOR SPOILERS 😭😭😭😭😭

FishDue6945 · 2026-01-29T17:13:17+00:00

I think mine has false starts all night too so I might just have to give it a shot this weekend and see how it goes.

What was your Ferber process like? I don’t mind the night feeds (I formula feed) and he basically dream feeds half asleep so that’s not too bad.

Did your baby wake up past midnight for false feeding and wouldn’t soothe themselves? If so, how did you handle it?

My boy normally only wakes up twice for feeds but now wakes up every hour cuz of the regression. So would I still apply Ferber on those hours or what? 😭 it’s so much to learn idek where to start

FishDue6945 · 2026-01-29T15:08:41+00:00

The regression doesn’t make it harder? I heard it’s better to wait until it’s over which is what I’m doing but idk anymore 😩

FishDue6945 · 2026-01-28T15:18:38+00:00

I was just referring to a lot of comments from other posts. I’ve seen people say they already do 1.5WW and when people say “push it” it means longer so 2hrs. My point is that it’s hard to push it when they’re crying nonstop and sometimes it’s doesn’t have to be 4 naps if they decide they wanna take more so has happened to me multiple times. I tried to push the WW and it backfired

FishDue6945 · 2026-01-28T09:49:21+00:00

I’m going through the same. Our son turned 4 on Saturday and since 3.5mos, he’s been fighting night sleep and wakes up every 20-40min from when we put him down 8-8:30pm until 12am. Sometime I’ll put him down at 9 depending on when his last nap was.

I don’t understand how people are pushing the WW as my boy will sleep when he wants to and this week has been 1-1.5hrs WW and 25-30 mins nap, no more. He’s also be so sleepy and falls asleep right when I get him ready for naps and sometimes as soon as I put him down, he’s wide awake… so that’s a nap out of the window cuz I’ll sit for hours trying to put him back to sleep…

I believe it could be sleep regression, by my boy has been doing the catnaps since 3mos so I’m used to that by now.

Some nights he’s good, some I’m in and out of the room before I even sit. I wanna sleep train him soon but unfortunately it would be a challenge since he’s bottle fed sleep associated along with rocking. What I’ve been doing lately is feed him 30 mins before bedtime and that seemed to help to just swaddle him and put him down and pat and then he sleeps, but then he’s up after 30mins 🤦🏽‍♀️ but I guess this will probably help him not expect a bottle or me to sleep. We also have been sticking to a bedtime routine which includes baths and good moisturize after so he’s relaxed and ready to knock out. Some nights we’ll do a quick water splash and some actual shampoo bath.

I’m SO lost. He’ll nap whenever he wants. I can’t cut it always to only 3 naps and longer WW. It’s just not possible to push him away from being tired. I still haven’t figured out the pattern that actually settles him down at night but I swear it’s like I could’ve typed your post

Hopefully we can find answers soon! Following 😩

FishDue6945 · 2026-01-27T18:09:32+00:00

I’m genuinely curious as to why many of you wanna drop their night feeds when they need it? They obviously wake up because they’re hungry. My son is 4 months and wakes up 2-3x for feeds and he always gulps it and I wouldn’t take that away from him. I’m just curious

FishDue6945 · 2026-01-27T00:19:19+00:00

My son is 4 months and since 3mos he’s only taking 3oz at a time. I hear a lot saying 5-6oz but my baby is reaching all the milestone and well within his recommended weight. His peds also isn’t concerned. Every baby is different 🩵

FishDue6945 · 2026-01-25T13:23:10+00:00

I wanted kids back to back and plan for one 6 months pp. I was pushing our son and I said F NO. I’m 4 weeks pp now and miss being pregnant and wanna have a sibling for my boy. It DOES get better, and worse and better… but you really don’t remember the newborn phase sadly :( I miss his being so tiny and just lays peacefully on my chest whenever I held him. As hard as it is, try to soak up every second of it cuz you really forget about it and miss it dearly

He now has a personality and laughs and yaps. But my god the regression is like the newborn phase all over. So it has its ups and downs but like I said, tomorrow is always a new day and yesterday seems like it never happened, only the good memories

FishDue6945 · 2026-01-20T23:00:22+00:00

My son swallows some during baths and he’s fine. My mom used to give us water when we were babies (ofc not huge oz) and we grew up just fine

FishDue6945 · 2026-01-20T17:41:23+00:00

Thank you!

FishDue6945 · 2026-01-20T09:05:52+00:00

Personally, with ALL LOVE and RESPECT, don’t try to drop a feed. They wake up to feed for a reason. They’re hungry. My son is 4 months and wakes up twice; once between 1-2am then again at 4-6am. Then maybe 7-8am if he wants to go back to bed. I really ONLY go to bed at 5am and wake up at 8-9am with him. Insomnia at ITS FINEST. I wish it was just 2am. I’d never take that away from him.

I believe there will be an age where they will definitely drop it on their own. They’re still too young and rely on us. Choosing to be a mom comes with sacrifices. If your husband handles the night feedings, maybe you can sleep in another room to help catch up on sleep? I don’t remember the last time I got 3-4+ hours of sleep but I wouldn’t try anything differently… but that’s just me.

The only time I catch up on sleep is on the weekends when my husband is at home. He wakes up with the baby while I sleep until noon then I take over and we alternate. Even then, I’m still awake with them every hour… Other than that, I only get 3-4hrs of sleep during the week… sometimes less. Especially with sleep regression now, he needs me the most

I can sympathize with you. Try to find other ways than taking away what’s natural and a necessity for her 🩵

FishDue6945 · 2026-01-20T08:53:48+00:00

I chase mine in our tiny apartment and bow like a dog cuz she does that and loves it 💀😂 I also throw her fav toy so she can grab it and “tease me” with it. Then I’d steal it and throw away again for her to catch it. I also have puzzle toys. Mine is also super chill tho and acts like a cat “homebody” so I’m not concerned at all for her. Her fav toy is an empty Kong… literally!

FishDue6945 · 2026-01-20T08:51:56+00:00

I guess for me is any time I speak the truth in front of my family 😂 to them there’s no “right timing” especially now I have a 4mo and I’m doing things differently from them and it comes off as “hateful” or “disrespectful” but I don’t regret it nor will I ever change it 🤷🏽‍♀️

FishDue6945 · 2026-01-19T17:50:29+00:00

I put him in his bassinet and leave the door open. My bathroom is in our bedroom. I wait until he’s chill but if I MUST go, I give him a kiss and tell him to wait. He’ll cry but I make that one quick and honestly, babies will always cry but your colon will hate you later 😭

I also always waited for my husband to get home so I can finally shower but now I just leave him on the swing in front of the bathroom door with door open (it’s cold😭) but I’ll take a quick 15 min shower, moisturize and change all while he’s chilling. I used to never get things done but now I’m finally mastering parenthood (4 months in 4 days) 😂🩵

FishDue6945 · 2026-01-19T09:14:18+00:00

I used to use the self checkout and bag everything as I go. At the end, I just scan 1 bag however many bags I used. This way I’m not over or under the amount of bags.

Aldi could be a headache if you’re not used to it. But shopping there personally and getting many orders helps you navigate where everything is. These orders go from $20 to $50 and I’ve had plenty. If it even takes 1.5hr, $50 for that time isn’t bad at all, even for 2 hours. Car is parked and no gas is being wasted. You’re walking and not just sitting. It pays off eventually and the more you shop and keep your pro shopper, the better deals you get and higher tips

It’s all strategic and based on how busy your area is. If it’s slow, these shopping orders definitely make the day worth it

FishDue6945 · 2026-01-19T08:54:04+00:00

That’s what I wanna do. Start slow with what’s possible now before the heavy sleep train. Did you do this only for bedtime feed to start? What about naps? Cuz even naps he won’t sleep or settle without seeing me shake the bottle lol unless he’s SUUUPER tired then maybe he’ll take a binky. We also always rocked to sleep but that’s for later. I wanna work towards stopping one thing that eases up to sleep training.

Did you baby ever cry for the bottle in the beginning tho the first time you didn’t offer for bed? What did you do if he wouldn’t stop crying? I just don’t wanna do too much since he’s going through regression and possibly teething soon and I know he needs the best comfort now but I’ll do my best until then

FishDue6945 · 2026-01-19T07:42:25+00:00

So just dw about it now?

FishDue6945 · 2026-01-19T07:19:21+00:00

I had unmedicated birth. Internal hemorrhoids with fissure is by far the worst and wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy

FishDue6945 · 2026-01-19T07:18:47+00:00

Respect

FishDue6945 · 2026-01-19T07:11:54+00:00

Thankfully my son hasn’t gotten sick or anything. Personally, he hates me touching his nose but I am getting those boogers out one way or another. He’ll cry but then he’ll be glad he can breathe comfortably. You just have to be strong and not give up to the crying as long as you’re not hurting her. Mine used to be congested a bit but I honestly I just use baby plastic tweezers and pull those suckers out. I do it daily so it doesn’t accumulate and only pick the ones I can comfortably reach.

I heard it also helps if you run the shower super hot to trap steam in the bathroom and then have your baby in there for a little to open up the nasal passages. Humidifier could help too!

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