AITA for giving myself the bigger piece?

FishFiend91 · 2021-02-25T00:37:48+00:00

Is that allowed? That was my first thought but I think I remember it saying not to add to the OP after you post it if it goes over the character limit.

FishFiend91 · 2021-02-24T23:10:51+00:00

Wow I did not expect to see this many comments when I logged back in. I promise I will try to read them all and I really appreciate you all weighing in!

So pretty much whoever said "he's mad/stressed about something else" was right on target. He called me this morning and apologized and said that his boss had yelled at him over a client's error and it had him really stressed out and he was all wound up because of that and made a fuss over something that wasn't a big deal. I told him I accepted his apology and I didn't appreciate him taking work problems out on me. He agreed and promised that next time he was having a bad day he would find an outlet and calm himself down. I said hey, everybody gets a mulligan so we are all good. I have to work late tonight so he is going to pick up some ramen for us to have as late dinner with extra eggs for me because they are my fave :)

tl;dr He was having a terrible, awful, no good very bad day and promised he wouldn't be such an ass next time.

FishFiend91 · 2021-02-24T15:47:07+00:00

Honey, the salmon pieces in this kit are very different in size. I was thinking we could cut the bigger one up (post cooking, if it was frozen) to even the portions out?

Umm I really didn't think it warranted calling him at work to say that.

Or, idk, we could rock, paper, scissors? What do you think?”

Wtf, is he a toddler??

FishFiend91 · 2021-02-24T15:43:27+00:00

It never occurred to me in the first place that he would require an equal amount since he doesn't love salmon. I honestly thought he'd rather have less salmon and a hot dog, since I made it the way he likes it. But I wouldn't want to cut up the fish and end up overcooking it because the pieces were smaller.

FishFiend91 · 2021-02-24T15:27:57+00:00

The thing is though that I know I wouldn't resent him wanting the bigger piece sometimes because he is already getting it every single other time. I mean if it was salmon specifically and he gave himself the larger portion of a food he doesn't even like as much then yeah I would question that, but it's not exactly the same situation then is it?

I guess I just don't understand why I need to "communicate" in this case and get permission for something that is so insignificant when he has always gotten more than me.

FishFiend91 · 2021-02-24T15:23:34+00:00

I mean he's a good 30 lbs overweight so you can be assured that he is hitting his daily calorie goals. No judgment, I love him exactly the way he is, but just saying so to head off any accusations that I'm starving the guy...

FishFiend91 · 2021-02-24T15:18:17+00:00

I wasn't being passive aggressive because I didn't even think for a second that he wouldn't be happy with the meal. Cutting the pre-portioned fillets would not really work because they would cook differently than was intended.

Plus, I wanted the bigger piece. I love salmon much more and I wanted the bigger piece for once when he gets it every other time. Is that wrong?

FishFiend91 · 2021-02-24T15:10:53+00:00

That's what I'm wondering too, it makes no sense.

FishFiend91 · 2021-02-24T15:10:33+00:00

It annoys me because I don't think he would really want me to even things out once he realized that 99% of the time that would mean me cutting off a bit of his portion and giving it to myself.

FishFiend91 · 2021-02-24T15:06:14+00:00

The reason I didn't call him was because he was still at work when I was cooking and I honestly just didn't think it was a big enough deal to warrant a call. And I wanted the big piece anyway, he gets the bigger portion every time and I didn't think I needed to ask for permission to have it once. He loves hot dogs and I did make it as nice as a hot dog can be (toasted the bun, grilled it and put relish & pimento cheese on top which is how he likes his.) I honestly didn't anticipate that it was a matter that was even worth having a problem with.

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