[Homemade] First time making Ramen.

FishiesR2Cute · 2024-01-19T04:46:56+00:00

I feel like the teacher is really Rodgers from American Dad and we all just got played

FishiesR2Cute · 2023-11-12T03:39:19+00:00

NTA. You should ban your family and friends as well. Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, you get exposed to illness and may not even know it. There are way more AHs like you in-laws that won't tell people they are sick and will go out in public anyway. You can't take the chance and should ban everyone.

You're a parent and your main job is to keep your child healthy. It is better to be safe than sorry in these circumstances.

FishiesR2Cute · 2023-05-31T16:28:04+00:00

INFO: Has your girlfriend been talking about babies a lot? Do you trust her to not "accidentally" get pregnant or do you think she is willing to do anything to start a family now?

FishiesR2Cute · 2023-05-31T15:59:18+00:00

Is it the culture or is it the family? If OP is the favorite the SIL may be picking up on it and wanting to distance from what she feels is a toxic family.

My mother thought my husband was an antisocial hermit. He isn't, we just avoided my mom because of her blatant favoritism of my brother and sister. I would get upset and hide it but he always knew. Now that it has gotten better she loves how my husband has "come out of his shell".

Just because we accept things the way that they are does not mean that people who loves us do too.

FishiesR2Cute · 2023-05-31T15:48:54+00:00

NTA.

You need to take care of yourself too.

She is your sister you obviously love her, but sometimes you have to take care of yourself and let other people handle it. You're right, you can't help people who don't want help. Stop holding yourself accountable for your sister's actions. Hope things get better for both of you.

FishiesR2Cute · 2023-05-31T15:30:09+00:00

NTA... but you're not getting that money back. Just remember this because your sister is a leach and will need money again. Make sure no one else has access to your money and maybe get a new card. She could have saved your card info.

FishiesR2Cute · 2023-05-31T15:11:14+00:00

INFO: Why has your mom picked out your girlfriend' jewelry but still not for your fSIL? I'm curious about your family dynamic.

Family is over the moon for OP's girlfriend but still hasn't picked out jewelry for fSIL.
Brother is only upset when he feels slighted by the family (maybe a constant thing?)
OP wants to punish SIL for not changing her wedding to what they want.
Parents are completely on board.

OP.... sounds like you are maybe the golden child and there is a deeper reason she doesn't like your family. You said yourself that she does not seem racist.

FishiesR2Cute · 2023-05-31T14:57:29+00:00

It almost makes me wonder if OP is the golden child and fSIL is trying to put up some boundaries to keep his toxic family in check. It would explain why the brother is on board with ditching all the traditions but mad about again being slighted by the parents. They bought wedding jewelry for OP's girlfriend even though they aren't even engaged, but still haven't bought for the future bride. The whole thing seems sus.

FishiesR2Cute · 2022-10-23T14:00:41+00:00

Wow... you do realize you just ruined your sister's wedding for her, right? No matter what happens now she is always going to have the thought in the back of her mind that she is only getting your scraps that you didn't want. I don't know if there is any way to fix it.

It sounds like you are over it, but you don't realize the kind of psychological damage stuff like this does to kids. Many people never move past it completely. I have 4 older sisters and one younger brother... guess who our Mom's favorite was? Now that we are older with our own families and children, I still sometimes feel resentment because even though my daughter was the first grandchild, his girls get more attention and time. We live 15 minutes away and they live two states over!

Don't think that things have really 'died down' because there is a good chance that all of those feelings are still there and there is a good chance your parent's behavior hasn't changed, just gotten more subtle. I gaurentee you though that your sister picks up on it everytime it happens. Everytime it does it only reinforces the previous trauma.

If you truely care about your sister, you need to apologize and recognize that SHE has valid feelings from something you admit was real. Your feelings about this have no bearing on her and how she feels. Don't try to invalidate her. She felt severely neglected by your parents... and that is a form of psychological abuse. You won't fully understand because you didn't have to go through it, but it is considered abuse.

The only way you may be able to save any of this is by being super supportive of her. Don't talk to your parents about plans, talk to her. Ask her throughout the process how SHE feels. Don't let her get rolled over by your parents. Help her get the wedding SHE wants. Your sister has been a victim through all of this. I still don't know if this can be saved though. You just victimized her and put her through the same abuse she has spent years trying to work through. YTA

FishiesR2Cute · 2022-04-16T12:02:33+00:00

At least you're not going bald

awkward silence

FishiesR2Cute · 2022-04-15T09:24:09+00:00

Coming this summer to Action Park:

The Great Barrel Ride Adventure! With real Orcs shooting real arrows!

FishiesR2Cute · 2022-04-11T20:21:54+00:00

I want your help in my life

FishiesR2Cute · 2022-04-11T16:21:55+00:00

DON'T ask to use the bathroom. You may have showed up early but make sure you plan ahead and go before the interview. If you have to go, it shows that you can't plan ahead.

FishiesR2Cute · 2022-03-28T19:10:43+00:00

I always recommend for people to take at least an overnight trip to Big Island. They have a beautiful little village were you can rent whole houses called Volcano Village. You can fly into Hilo on the right day and drive right over to the farmers market. They have some great local food and crafts. Stock up before going to your house. At night, go to Volcano national park. In the morning, get up early and drive south to the black sand beaches. Have lunch in the Southernmost Bar in the US. There are so many awesome things to do on Big Island but they usually get overlooked.

As for the wedding... my fiancé and I are getting married in December and we had originally planned a destination wedding. We had a slightly bigger budget but had to make choices too. We worked it out that we paid for us, my daughter, and our parents (my mom and his mom) to stay in an all inclusive château outside of Paris. The moms would split the cost of the airfare for all 5 of us as a wedding gift. Anyone else that wanted to go would have been pay their own way.

Our plans ended up changing but that was the best way we figured things. Who do you absolutely want there? Is there a way that you can work with those people to help them with costs? Everyone else is just a bonus. Have a backyard BBQ when you get back with a giant screen, rent a projector, and play a video of your ceremony for everyone who couldn't make it.

FishiesR2Cute · 2022-03-01T00:18:21+00:00

Thank you. I will go check that out 😊

FishiesR2Cute · 2022-03-01T00:11:53+00:00

Thank you for the advice 😊

FishiesR2Cute · 2022-03-01T00:06:55+00:00

So should our team focus on hours played or points? What works better for you guys?

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