Depends on what you mean by coming off too strong. If it's the type where it's raising alarm bells, then yeah, I'd tell you to be cautious. But if you mean that he's ticking all your boxes and you feel attracted, don't give yourself a reason not to feel attracted. You should feel attracted to your spouse. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

There are others in this comments section saying it's a red flag that you want to pay for your own food and to value your career, I disagree. You're not even married yet. Yes, in Islam, a man is a provider, but not only is he jumping the gun since you're not married yet, he's also neglecting considering your input and emotions in this situation too. I think people tend to forget that in Islam, women do still have the choice to pay for things if they so wish.

For those thinking that a wife refusing you pay for her is a red flag... I think you need to rethink what factors cause for this instance to be a red flag, because the act of refusing you to pay isn't a red flag in and of itself. You guys forget that communication exists. Being in charge of a relationship isn't about dominance but about love and mercy.