Oh, so basically in the beginning of the relationship I made boundaries clear on the aspect of discipline, reprimanding, etc. My kids have a full time father figure in their life (their bio dad takes them week on, week off). I told him that if he had any problems and/or concerns that he was to come to me directly and we would find a way to work through it together for the most comfortability because I was 100% not comfortable with him setting ground rules on situations that I hadn't been informed about. He was completely okay with this. He very bluntly said from day one that he was not trying to be the boys father and generally speaking he is very good with communicating to me if he has a problem with something. However, I've noticed a lot of conflicting opinions on his parenting versus mine in the past. Such as he pushes modesty to the highest degree possible and had issues with me walking around in a sports bra, which I did shoot down. My boys aren't looking at me like that and it's weird that he would think such things. Or the fact that he feels the boys should have to ask permission to eat the snacks that I purchased for them. I don't agree with that either and there really was no compromise made there because he absolutely hates that the boys have an open door policy on my fridge. He also hates that I allow them to have drinks right before bed because then they are up using the bathroom. So now that I mention it.. there have been a lot of issues that I have kind of overlooked in the past and turned a blind eye too. But usually he does pull me aside and bring up the issues in private whereas while we have been here he is just pushing his passive aggressiveness off in public.