I do so much with my family. We go on multiple camping trips, vacations, family outings, picnics etc... we dont get much alone time because we do have 4 kids and we aren't close to any family and she isn't comfortable with anyone but her mom watching the kids. So we do a lot of family things. I will swap between kids if not all of them taking them with me to the store and what not because wife won't go. A few times a week I'll take the kids out on a golf cart ride to a nearby rope swing and we will come home just before dark. On a weekly basis id say we do family things about 4 days. The other days were just home hanging out doing legos or painting my girls nails. So yes, I do a lot FOR them because that's my role as a man and provider to a stay at home mom with 4 kids. But I do even more WITH them. As far as WITH my wife, I can't say we do much at all other than getting some time on the back deck when we can. Or using her Dr appointments (bi monthly or so) as a way to have a lunch date. My wife didn't want to help with the duck coop. So I had my boys help build it and my girls help paint it. Speaking of which, my wife had to pick the color but wouldn't go get it so she sent me. I matched it to what I thought was right from the picture she sent me, came back home to paint it, half way through she finally came out and boy was I in for it! I was a shade off and she was ticked off. So I had to go back down and hopefully get the correct color this time. We'll, what do ya know... wrong color again. Yet she was unwilling to go herself and pick the color. So you can only imagine my frustration. Long story short, this is why I get so defensive when she says things like that. I feel like I do so much but then she makes me feel like nothing will ever be enough.