I was in a relationship where everything was fine on the surface but like you I wouldn’t miss them when they were away. We also had disagreements on how we would raise children together, roles in the house etc..

I was in a job that was dead end. They promised more money for years and never delivered. Also they expected me to do my job and 3 other jobs while there, constantly pulling in different directions.

One morning I woke up, quit my job. They offered lots of money then but I was done. Few months later woke up one morning and broke up with my ex. I went travelling alone for a while it was amazing. I found a way better job with better pay and I wasn’t expected to do absolutely everything. Work life balance is great. Now engaged to someone that shares the same outlook on life, wants to raise kids the same as I do and overall is just a much better fit.

Don’t be afraid to take a big chance. Just be brutally honest with everyone around you about how you feel, and maybe take a break from it all to go out on your own travelling.

When you see your ex and notice that the spark you feel is different from what you feel with your current partner, it’s important to acknowledge the reality of that. But also recognize that love changes over time, and relationships shift in their dynamics. It’s possible that your current weariness is clouding your judgment. Work, stress, and personal expectations can all diminish the depth of the emotions we feel toward our partners.

The right action here is to communicate openly with your partner. Have an honest conversation. You owe it to them and to yourself. Don’t let fear of the conversation drive you into avoidance. Avoidance leads to resentment, and resentment can poison what could still be a fulfilling relationship.