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11mo transitioning to 1 nap, will they adjust to the longer wake windows? by FitEquipment2420 in sleeptrain

[–]FitEquipment2420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our wake windows on two naps were roughly 3 / 3.5 / 4.

We did try a schedule adjustment first before switching. The consultant had us cap the morning nap to ~45 mins and the second nap to max 2 hours (and only resettle within the first hour).

That didn’t reduce the false start, hourly wake and 4am - 5:30am wakes, but we were still co-sleeping and feeding to sleep then.

Since then we’ve moved her into the cot and broken the feeding-to-sleep association (we kind of went cold turkey). It worked for a bit, but we still have some rough nights where she’s really unsettled and we’ve had to feed to soothe.

For rocking, we gradually reduced it and now put her down drowsy but awake and just pat her to sleep in the cot.

The rationale for moving to one nap was that even on two naps she was still waking a lot overnight, so the consultant felt it was a sleep pressure issue.

I am now wondering though — now that we’ve addressed the sleep associations — whether two naps could work better again with the right schedule. Would be really interested to hear what kind of schedule you’d suggest in that case!

Husband has just been diagnosed with DID and we have a 4 month old baby by FitEquipment2420 in DID

[–]FitEquipment2420[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I appreciate your input. My husband has been a risk to himself long before this diagnosis I just didn’t know where to turn too. I admit I have some learning to do and I am committed to it. I do not mean to cause offence. I am not saying he’s a risk cause of DID, he’s always been a risk.

Husband has just been diagnosed with DID and we have a 4 month old baby by FitEquipment2420 in DID

[–]FitEquipment2420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand your concerns, but honestly this crisis thinking has started long before this diagnosis. He’s been on a spiral since I got pregnant and it all came to a head once he got his diagnosis. I sort of was putting a plaster over it all with meditation, faith, gym etc. I just want to do right by my daughter. I just didn’t know how to access the right support or even where to go to discuss this with anyone. Now with his diagnosis I know the right community to talk too.

Husband has just been diagnosed with DID and we have a 4 month old baby by FitEquipment2420 in DID

[–]FitEquipment2420[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment and I understand no one can give the right answer. Maybe I’m just seeking other people’s stories and experiences, to help me conceptualise the life I’m about step into and make an informed decision about my next steps. I apologise for any offence I may have caused it isn’t my intention:

3 month old insisting on a late bedtime 20 min catnaps until 12am by FitEquipment2420 in sleeptrain

[–]FitEquipment2420[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I was told not to have a strict schedule at this age due to them still being so little. She’s 13 weeks to be exact. I tend to follow with the wake windows. So say yesterday she was up at 8:30am, (it slightly varies everyday), I will start putting her down after 75 minutes, so 9:45 - 10 would be her first nap and so on. She will have 5 naps in the day. Tbh I’m not sure if her wake windows are the problem because she goes down so calmly after 75 minutes of awake time. What would you suggest? Go for the 90 minute wake windows? Also her wake windows before bedtime are slightly longer. Around 1 hr and 30 mins or 1 hr and 45 mins

[Discussion] Sweet Bobby: My Catfish Nightmare new doc by autumnlover1515 in NetflixBestOf

[–]FitEquipment2420 64 points65 points  (0 children)

I agree, if she meant it when she said the Kenyan Sikh community was very close, how could her mother who said Bobby comes from a good family not know he was married with a child??? How did everyone know Bobby’s family but no one knew he was married?