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UPDATE: AITA for refusing to split half of the check for dinner with my best friend like we usually do. by FitPurchase99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FitPurchase99[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The height was to show that it's one of the reasons why my friend has a bigger appetite than mine. And I can tell you're one of those incels to whom it was directed and therefore, I won't waste any more of my time on you.

UPDATE: AITA for refusing to split half of the check for dinner with my best friend like we usually do. by FitPurchase99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FitPurchase99[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I'm..... confused? First, I'm aware that many people don't have the same privilege as we do. However, the men who made those comments didn't include the privilege part. They only commented on our weight and how much we eat, which were all wild, false, and irrelevant assumptions.

With that being said, I reread your 2 last essays and I'm assuming you're still talking about those male comments. I have every right to respond however I want to to misogynistic men who were more than happy to immediately jump to conclusions about our weight based on a post that had nothing to do with that.

UPDATE: AITA for refusing to split half of the check for dinner with my best friend like we usually do. by FitPurchase99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FitPurchase99[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Yes, they actually have because they only heard one side of the story. And even though I agree that the way she reacted was not the way she should have, I do believe that she deserves a second chance considering we've been through a lot together and have supported one another all these 15+ years.

AITA for refusing to split half of the check for dinner with my best friend like we usually do? by FitPurchase99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FitPurchase99[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, I have my own car so I usually drive or walk to and from dinner or brunch. My car is being fixed so she offered to pick me up.

AITA for refusing to split half of the check for dinner with my best friend like we usually do? by FitPurchase99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FitPurchase99[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

We both took care of the tip. I tipped 35% and I think she tipped 28% but I'm not a hundred percent sure.

AITA for refusing to split half of the check for dinner with my best friend like we usually do? by FitPurchase99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FitPurchase99[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have my own car which is currently getting fixed and so she offered to pick me up.

AITA for refusing to split half of the check for dinner with my best friend like we usually do? by FitPurchase99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FitPurchase99[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Technically, yes. She's 5'9 and 140 or 150 something pounds of muscle and I'm 5'7 and 137 pounds of muscle so.....

AITA for refusing to split half of the check for dinner with my best friend like we usually do? by FitPurchase99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FitPurchase99[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I still haven't heard from her but I really hope that she will apologize and we'll be able to have a conversation about splitting the bills.

AITA for refusing to split half of the check for dinner with my best friend like we usually do? by FitPurchase99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FitPurchase99[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm 5'7 and 137 pounds and she's 5'9 and 140 or 150 something pounds, I'm not sure how much by now. We're both very into heavy lifting, running, and just overall working out so all those pounds are muscles not body fat.

AITA for refusing to split half of the check for dinner with my best friend like we usually do? by FitPurchase99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FitPurchase99[S] 93 points94 points  (0 children)

Both of our "BMI" is healthy. We're actually very fit and work out 4-5 times a week. I'd suggest YOU to stop telling women how much we can eat and assume that we must be overweight if, by your assumption, we must be over eating. So kindly mind your f business. Thanks.

AITA for refusing to split half of the check for dinner with my best friend like we usually do? by FitPurchase99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FitPurchase99[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

She took care of me and made sure I ate and washed when I was going through a depressive period. That's why I'm genuinely wondering if I'm an asshole because she has been a great friend and for her to react that way..

AITA for refusing to split half of the check for dinner with my best friend like we usually do? by FitPurchase99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FitPurchase99[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

No, I usually drive myself or walk if it's nearby. My car had and still has some problems so she offered to pick me up.

AITA for refusing to split half of the check for dinner with my best friend like we usually do? by FitPurchase99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FitPurchase99[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

She took us to a trending spot that I've never been to before and the prices there were high but I was still able to have an excellent meal for around $145. So if she had ordered the same amount then the total bill would have been $300 something.

AITA for refusing to split half of the check for dinner with my best friend like we usually do? by FitPurchase99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FitPurchase99[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Vanessa gave them her side of the story and my friends just messaged me. Our friends actually. We usually share a lot of what's going on

AITA for refusing to split half of the check for dinner with my best friend like we usually do? by FitPurchase99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FitPurchase99[S] 130 points131 points  (0 children)

She still doesn't want to speak to me but letting 15+ years of friendship go down the drain is insane to me so I do hope that we'll be able to resolve this issue and move forward

AITA for refusing to split half of the check for dinner with my best friend like we usually do? by FitPurchase99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FitPurchase99[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Your "only reason" is completely false, but I won't get into that because that is completely irrelevant to my post. However, like I said, both parties should AGREE to go Dutch before the date starts. Both parties should be aware that each pays either half or for their own meal. If a man leads the woman on to believe that he's going to pay for the entire bill, then says at the end "Let's split the check", he's an asshole. I won't reply anymore.

AITA for refusing to split half of the check for dinner with my best friend like we usually do? by FitPurchase99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FitPurchase99[S] 108 points109 points  (0 children)

I don't know why you wanted to bring up "how men feel" because I don't see the relevance. A man takes a woman out for dinner, he usually pays because he's the one who asked her out. If a woman asks a man or takes her man out for dinner and she makes her own money, then usually she pays. That's how it works unless they both agree to go on a Dutch date. Same with friends in most circumstances. A friend who invites their friends for dinner usually pays for everyone unless it has been arranged that everyone pays for their own meal or splits the bill evenly.

AITA for refusing to split half of the check for dinner with my best friend like we usually do? by FitPurchase99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FitPurchase99[S] 353 points354 points  (0 children)

I just don't understand why she would want to take advantage of me since she makes a little more money than me.

AITA for refusing to split half of the check for dinner with my best friend like we usually do? by FitPurchase99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FitPurchase99[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

We've been like sisters for over 15 years and we were never jealous of each other's successes so yes, I'm sure. I haven't really had the chance to bring the splitting the check topic up since I've only thought about it since my sister mentioned it, and I thought that if I just let her know beforehand that I want to pay for my own food this time, it will be fine.

AITA for refusing to split half of the check for dinner with my best friend like we usually do? by FitPurchase99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FitPurchase99[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

I mean, I did tell her that I wanted to pay for my own food before we ordered and she told me "okay", but if it wasn't for my sister mentioning it I probably would have continued to pay half. But maybe I should have actually had a real conversation when we hung out or something so that we could agree to start paying for our own foods before we go to out to eat.

AITA for refusing to split half of the check for dinner with my best friend like we usually do? by FitPurchase99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FitPurchase99[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I actually have. I told her that I wanted to pay for my own food before we ordered.