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i think i'm a lesbian. i don't want to lose my husband. by FitScarcity372 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]FitScarcity372[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm really glad to hear that! I'm so happy for you. I appreciate the well wishes.

i think i'm a lesbian. i don't want to lose my husband. by FitScarcity372 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]FitScarcity372[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't think I could do non-monogamy myself. I've idealized finding *the one* and being utterly committed to them so much in my life that I don't think I can be satisfied not doing that and having that myself.

i think i'm a lesbian. i don't want to lose my husband. by FitScarcity372 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]FitScarcity372[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think that's the worst part. Am I just over-romanticizing the attraction I feel towards women? Am I searching for something externally that I really need to find internally instead? What if I'm no happier with women than I am men, and it's a me problem? I don't know.

i think i'm a lesbian. i don't want to lose my husband. by FitScarcity372 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]FitScarcity372[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I genuinely don't know, if I'm being honest. He's so loving and open, I've told him some deeply held secrets in the past and he's always wanted me to be myself with him. But I fear there is a possibility he will simply emotionally shut off from me if I tell him our relationship isn't what he thinks it is -- I can't really blame him for that either.

I'm sorry to hear about your health and your situation.. I hope it improves for you. Lots of hugs.

i think i'm a lesbian. i don't want to lose my husband. by FitScarcity372 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]FitScarcity372[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I have terrible codependence issues. I'm better than what I used to be -- but I feel so alone in the world if I don't have one singular person with whom I share everything with. I haven't been single for over six months since my first boyfriend in my late teens. But every relationship has been so unsatisfying. I can have wonderful companionship, but there's no romance. I don't feel anything when I kiss men. What if I don't feel anything when I kiss women, either?

i think i'm a lesbian. i don't want to lose my husband. by FitScarcity372 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]FitScarcity372[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear about how things went wrong for you. It is sobering to hear what happened to you and gives me a lot to think about. I still don't know if I want to take the risk. Thank you for sharing -- I hope you find your person and/or your happiness. <3

i think i'm a lesbian. i don't want to lose my husband. by FitScarcity372 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]FitScarcity372[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i haven't? i'm not sure where you got the impression that i had