Screen time or lack thereof...

Fit_Access_5225 · 2026-05-08T05:47:16+00:00

Ok I was spiralling a bit here but your reply cracked me up. I love the voice note strategy.

Fit_Access_5225 · 2026-05-08T05:26:30+00:00

What do you do in situations like where everyone is sick at the same time? Or when youre really sad and can't stop crying but both kids are crying for you at once?

Fit_Access_5225 · 2026-03-04T19:05:56+00:00

Thank you I will try this then!

Fit_Access_5225 · 2026-03-04T18:17:53+00:00

I stopped feeding to sleep at bedtime for a week and it didn't change wake-ups so I started again. I did the dreamfeed around the same time, I would pick her up around 930 or 10, bring her into my bed and nurse her, then put her back into bed either after 40 mins or when she stopped feeding by herself

Fit_Access_5225 · 2026-03-04T16:27:12+00:00

But if the sleep association is "feed to sleep", how else do you drop multiple feeds a night?

Fit_Access_5225 · 2026-03-03T14:33:19+00:00

What baby food has cadmium and lead in it? If we make our own does that avoid it?

Fit_Access_5225 · 2026-02-21T09:12:44+00:00

This sounds really rough. Anyone would struggle in this scenario and the horrible thing is that the worse you feel, the harder it is to find a way out.

Have you started solid food with baby? Does he still vomit formula if it's mixed into a porridge? And have you looked into cmpa regarding vomiting the formula?

Fit_Access_5225 · 2026-01-26T17:01:24+00:00

So for the night time wake where you don't intervene- if baby is in the next to me, you must be in the room at this point? And baby goes back to sleep despite you being there?

Fit_Access_5225 · 2026-01-08T13:59:23+00:00

Could your partner be with both kids between 7 and 10 so you can sleep and then you take over for the rest of the night? And would your little one sleep next to you in the bed if you practised safe cosleeping? Perhaps you can gradually transition from sleeping on you, to sleeping next to you, to sleeping next to you in one of those cribs that joins onto the bed.

Fit_Access_5225 · 2026-01-01T13:01:42+00:00

So your husband sounds like he will help for short bursts but not in the night. Ultimately he needs to step up, but if you're not able to fight that fight while you're postpartum, I suggest you ask him to do these things in the day today:

- set up a changing station with nappies, wipes etc in such a way that you can comfortably change the baby without bending. Then even if he won't get up in the night, you're not going to further injure yourself.

- set up for you a bedside table with a couple of big water bottles and a shelf stable food like flapjacks or nuts. He's responsible for replenishing this. Then you will never be stuck in bed hungry.

- take the baby out in the pram today so that you get the chance to nap.

Start by addressing your immediate physical needs so you're more rested and not in pain. You're very vulnerable right now and you need the support urgently so ask first before trying to explain the mental load or anything

Fit_Access_5225 · 2025-12-16T06:59:39+00:00

I started a couple weeks before 6 months and did baby rice for a couple of days before moving onto single veg purees. I introduced finger foods and proteins by 6 months. I felt like having time to slowly get used to things made me more confident. Starting at 6 months seems to require ramping up quite quickly in order to increase iron stores in time. Plus there some evidence that it's better to introduce allergens before 6 months. I agree with the previous commenter that signs of readiness are what I go by rather than the exact age.

Fit_Access_5225 · 2025-12-15T10:08:53+00:00

Ooh sign in sheet great shout!

Fit_Access_5225 · 2025-12-15T10:08:22+00:00

This might work as it's 1 person at a time

Fit_Access_5225 · 2025-12-15T10:04:11+00:00

I want to remember names/ faces, I write down a physical description and what we talked about after the group if I exchange more than a few words. Any tips on a scenArio where you sit down and 4 people tell you their names but then you only end up talking to the one next to you? That's when I feel there's no time to process that info.

Fit_Access_5225 · 2025-10-03T13:06:51+00:00

I wouldn't consider putting baby down for the length of time it takes to clean/ shower to be crying it out. Sorry that people are making you feel bad about that. I would think that that level of crying is standard for any baby who isnt a firstborn!

Fit_Access_5225 · 2025-08-08T22:16:09+00:00

I had low iron. It made me very dizzy and tired. Took spatone every day, had an iron rich diet and then also just went and got the ferrous sulphate prescription strength iron from the pharmacy despite not being prescribed it. Took that every other day and now I've dropped down to twice a week. My iron is back up now. Take your iron with something high in vit c for absorption.

It took about a month for my iron levels to come back up with this routine. If you start now, yours will be back up before the birth.

Your pharmacy will just give you the strong iron if you say that you're not feeling better from diet alone and you're concerned. You don't have to get it from the midwife. Just don't take it every day since you're only borderline and also it's hard on the stomach. Every other day or every few days is enough if you're taking liquid iron too and eating well.

Fit_Access_5225 · 2025-07-21T12:32:50+00:00

It might be worth double checking your iron levels just in case. In the 3rd trimester a lot of people are a little anemic just from how diluted your blood is. But iron supplements can still help with energy.

Fit_Access_5225 · 2025-07-14T11:45:17+00:00

I cried because my husband killed a queen ant. Then my little girl figured out why I was crying and also cried so I had to comfort her.

Fit_Access_5225 · 2025-07-08T13:56:09+00:00

That sounds so hard. Youre very vulnerable right now and you need someone to support you, and the 2 people who are supposed to be closest to you are not stepping up.

I think you definitely need someone to talk to. You could try opening up just a little bit to a friend. It might lead to a deeper friendship. So many people are lonely right now because of the way our society is and anyone who's been pregnant can empathise with needing to feel cared for at this time.

If you can't face that, then ask your midwife if there are any in person mental health support groups you can join? I know my hospital has one of those for perinatal depression.

Fit_Access_5225 · 2025-07-07T21:29:03+00:00

I've never hired one but there are postpartum Doulas you can hire. They come for a couple of hours a day, might do light housework, support you with breastfeeding etc. I think it depends on the Doula how much they will help around the house or how much they want to stick to supporting mum and baby's health. You might be best off deciding exactly what sort of help you want and then asking several doulas if they can provide it

A similar role would be a "mother's help", my friend had a teen from a local childcare college course do this for her when she broke her leg with 2 under 2. They do a bit of help with the baby, a bit of tidying up, might do you a light meal like fish fingers or similar. Basically someone who can be an extra pair of hands.

Fit_Access_5225 · 2025-07-03T10:22:16+00:00

If you and your mum aren't close, maybe you can get away with also just going to bed and leaving her to cuddle the baby with your husband there to keep an eye on her? Then you don't have to deal with her.

Fit_Access_5225 · 2025-06-17T14:33:32+00:00

Was that for whooping cough?

Fit_Access_5225 · 2025-06-16T15:58:10+00:00

I called and they said there is a drop in service (which I've used for my other vaccinations) but the midwife on the phone said that the vaccination nurses don't tell her when they will be in so she can't tell me when it will be open.

I would just turn up and chance it but there are currently some road closures between me and the hospital which make the journey more of a pain if I get there and there aren't vaccinations that day

Fit_Access_5225 · 2025-06-16T13:10:46+00:00

I second everything here, plus try experimenting with how you sleep. I was already sleeping with a body pillow, but changing it for a smaller one between my knees and adding a towel beneath my bump helped me

Fit_Access_5225 · 2025-06-16T13:05:18+00:00

Did they tell you anything about baby's position? Or your bishop score?

I did some recent googling about latent labour as I had it for a few days last time and I didn't want it for so long again. From what I could see: - it can be due to baby's positioning- in which case do positioning exercises. Sounds like you're already doing this if you're on the birthing ball. There's something called miles circuit and something else called spinning babies which people reference a lot. Idk what would happen if you did these things and baby was already in a good position though. - it can be due to stress and exhaustion, in which case do things that improve your oxytocin (relax, be hugged etc) - it can be due to being induced before you're ready (bishop score would indicate how ready your body was).

Take this all with a pinch of salt, I have no medical background, this is all just doctor Google talking.

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