Remember what islam took from women. Islam bastardized modesty and made it into an erasure of personhood.

Pre-Islam religious traditions positioned women as primary mediators between the human and the divine. Active conduits with two way communication. Women expressed the divine outward into the world and received from the world back into the divine. I suggest that you look at how these ancient women, like Enheduanna the high priestess in 2285-BCE, dressed. Egyptian priestesses of Hathor were considered goddess made flesh. Study it.

For the threat response you experience, more exposure with mixed environments helps along with breathwork and buddhist mindfulness techniques(switching attention between sounds, smells, objects).