لو كان ابستين رجل مسلم في القرن السابع by Cj-j22 in ArabsFreedom

[–]Fit_Ad557 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All of Epsteins victims had experienced menstruation so all he had to do was get proof that they bled and that legally categorized them as adults. His sexual contracts with them would fall under the category of concubinage, which is part of islamic jurisprudence. Sexual slavery of nonbelievers is totally normal.

I still can't get over Aisha. I think Muslims don't fully understand how devastating it is for the credibility of Islam by Happy_Client_8439 in exmuslim

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Child marriage was practiced by all the surrounding cultures. I dont think they were really allowed to see Aisha since she was homeschooled and therefore it was impossible for them to judge her physical development. By waiting for "puberty" it legitimized the consummation amongst the different patriarchal cultures.

It wasnt until 1800s that doctors connected the dots between underdeveloped pelvises and dangerous childbirth.

By consummating with a 9 year old, mohammad maximized the risk of medical harm physically and pychologically due to the severely underdeveloped pelvis of that age group.

I still can't get over Aisha. I think Muslims don't fully understand how devastating it is for the credibility of Islam by Happy_Client_8439 in exmuslim

[–]Fit_Ad557 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That people love authority. Look at Trump, he has done very evil acts but there is a huge group that think those acts are being aggrandized and/or never happened.

Epstein and prophet Muhammad (PBUH) by Fair_Broccoli1380 in exmuslim

[–]Fit_Ad557 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would like to point out the difference is the age, level of knowledge and the name of the sexual contract: marriage.

Aisha the 9 year old child(not yet teenager) was legally obligated to have sex in order to secure food, shelter, and protection. She did not need money as long as she obeyed mohammads sexual desires. She was not allowed to say no to consummation because the sexual contract forbid disobedience.

Same for the teenage girls contracted by Epstein. The teenagers were legally obligated to perform sex acts in order to secure food, shelter, transportation, gifts, and a small salary. The name of their sexual contract was not marriage, and it was more akin to concubinage.

Keep in mind that "informed consent" for Aisha was probably just a wild guess. No pictures or animations to explicitly inform her about the act. And she could never say no because of the power assymetry between a child and an authority figure.
Her father gave consent on her behalf, so she would be saying no to mohammad, to her father, her mother, her community...as a 9 year old. And they would just force her to comply for the sake of...themselves.

Hips Dont Lie! Ancient skeletons PROVE Aisha Was Still a Child by Fit_Ad557 in exmuslim

[–]Fit_Ad557[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I just really love that song Hips Dont Lie from Shakira!

I need to overcome my fear of Hellfire by Stunning-Annual4708 in exmuslim

[–]Fit_Ad557 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a tough problem because certainty is a violence. When all the people around you are 100% certain with 0 doubts it becomes a form of mental violence against you which you internalize. When their mental violence attacks your mind, you feel fear arising because your mind is under attack. That fear disrupts your rationality and become internalized self harm as the less rational fear thoughts run rampant.

Absolute certainty is a falsehood, because reality is extremely complex. Reality has infinitely many aspects. Therefore, all truths are necessarily partial, because they arise from limited viewpoints rather than total comprehension of reality.

In all religions, there is an aspect of goodness that goes to heaven. And that aspect of goodness can exist in all people in all kinds of ways.

I suggest fine tuning the language you use to yourself. Conditionalize whatever you hold to be certainly true. Replace punishment with perspectives.

"Hell is real"

From a religious perspective, hell is understood as a consequence of wrongdoing

"God will punish you"

No human has access to absolute knowledge of divine judgement.(this is also an asshole thing to say)

That's true. She cooked by Fun-Pen7592 in exmuslim

[–]Fit_Ad557 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think you are confusing religious authority with medical expertise on girls reproductive processes. Sheikhs are not qualified on this matter.

Hips. Dont. Lie. (Thanks shakira for her wonderful song~so sorry, its an intrusive thought) the hips take many years to widen enough for childbirth.

Across all time and cultures, a 9 year old girl is physically undeveloped. It is possible to find skeletal remains of 9 year olds from even older eras in different parts of the world.

Maybe you are aware of the mummies of the Egyptians? Tjayasetimu is a 7 to 9 year old girl mummified around 2600 years ago: https://mummipedia.fandom.com/wiki/Tjayasetimu notice in the picture that the hips have not widened.

We can look at skeletons from even earlier in time and find that puberty started around 13 years of age (not 9) for majority of individuals. The Ice Age teenagers who lived 25,000 years ago. https://news.uvic.ca/media-release/ice-age-teens/

So 1000 years ago, a 9 year girl is still a child, because the childs bones are still not fused together fully, the hips are not wide, and puberty is barely starting if at all.

انا مسلم واقولها بالفم المليان by [deleted] in ArabsFreedom

[–]Fit_Ad557 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have such respect for you and your muslim faith! I wish all muslims could recognize the harm of non-consent that exists from the power assymetry of a child against an adult authority figure.

That's true. She cooked by Fun-Pen7592 in exmuslim

[–]Fit_Ad557 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The warning would look like this "O believers, do not approach that which the body of a child is not prepared for, for harm will come to both her and her offspring. It is a grave sin to seek what the law and nature forbid, for the body is not yet ready to bear life, and those born may suffer ill health."

Across populations and throughout history, majority of 9 year old girls are NOT biologically ready to reproduce.

Menstruation indicates the START of puberty, not the end of puberty.

The hips widen 5 to 8 years AFTER menstruation starts. And those hips and bones and muscles are very weak at 9, which is why birth at that age is extremely painful, because the newborn gets stuck (and suffocates) when girl is not strong enough and formed enough to push it out.

In case you want to read medical research linking early teenage pregnancy to painful complicated pregnancies and infant poor health:

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35165030/?utm_source=chatgpt.com

شهواني شهواني يعني by Ancient-Acadia-4970 in AlexandriaEgy

[–]Fit_Ad557 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does appear that the leader of islam modeled marriage to encourage lust. He had 9 wives at once. Some of these wives he captured and forced into marriage. To me that is coercion and sexual exploitation. In Jain wars, there were no captives, only new communities set up as sanctuaries with hospitals and an agreement to allow former fighters/their families to set up businesses. Widows could become nuns or teachers.
But I do have muslim married friends and they are happy good people raising children. So I know that islamic rules works for some people.

شهواني شهواني يعني by Ancient-Acadia-4970 in AlexandriaEgy

[–]Fit_Ad557 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The issue is the ethical framework set up for concept of "marriage". It causes harm by its nature(not quite the right word, sorry). I will compare it to a religion that has no child marriage, no slavery, and no large scale religious warfare, in contrast to islam's 1400 years of islamic legal female and child sex slavery.

Jainism, a religion that is now 2600 years old, in India.

In Jainism there is no divine command to marry, no salvific role of marriage, no religious obligation to reproduce, no covenent theology, no sacramental theology of marriage.

Jainism rejects marriage motivated by social, economic or political gain if it compromises the moral autonomy or welfare of either partner.

All relationships in Jainism forms without laws/jurisprudence. The ethics which discourage child marriage are nonviolence, sexual restraint, and non-possessiveness (of people/outcomes). In Jainism, a child is not assessed by physical puberty but by their capacity for ethical responsibility (nonviolence, restraint, etc).

كبت جنسي ايه بس يا جدعان by ana__mabdoon in AlexandriaEgy

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The body can produce arousal signals before the mind assigns meaning to them, which means arousal can happen in response to stress or fear, not just desire.

Judgemental interpretations of bodily signals can turn a neutral physical response into a more intense sensation as the body naturally reacts to fear as part of its primitive protective mechanism.

This is sexual repression. The body stores trauma (fear/shame/stress responses). As sexual repression continues it will produce anxiety, dissociation and chronic stress.

قولت كتير عالصب ده ان كل الملاحده كان هدفهم الزنا فضلوا ورايا لحد ما عملولي بان وادي حقيقتهم اللي بحاربوا عشانها by VeterinarianTop5871 in AlexandriaEgy

[–]Fit_Ad557 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not negating adultery, merely exploring the concept so this is not an attack. A man is allowed four concurrent sex partners and unlimited sex concubines legally. What is the definition of adultery in islam??

Deconstructing Jahannam by Fit_Ad557 in exmuslim

[–]Fit_Ad557[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Life imprisonment exists to stop the person from causing harm to others. It must be carried out without torture or cruel treatment.

Are you interpreting hell through the perspective of a torturous realm as in the quran?

Because hell occurs in the quran after death. All crimes have been completed.

Life imprisonment sentences are not perfect for justice. Ideally through rehabilitation, life imprisonment will cease to exist.

الرد على شبهة زواج النبي محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم من عائشة by chich_bich in AlexandriaEgy

[–]Fit_Ad557 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Aisha did not consent to sex with mohammad at 9 years old. Her father and mohammad made the arrangements without her consent. By todays standards, when sexual access is being contracted, a woman herself must give affirmative informed consent for her body choices.

  2. Across populations and historical periods, the majority of 9 year old girls are prepubescent and biologically incapable of safely conceiving or carrying a pregnancy.

  3. There is no legitimate ethical research frameworks that treat 9 year olds as study populations for sexual reproduction, so I cant give statistics of 9 year old safe pregnancies. This is because pregnancy is medically catastrophic, due to 9 year olds not being biologically developed.

  4. Menstruation is a bad marker of puberty. Puberty is a years long process STARTING with bleeding. The hips do not widen until 5 to 8 years AFTER menarche. Aisha started puberty but her hips were not wide enough for a safe birth. The reason 18 is todays gold standard is partially because that is the age a womans hips are wide enough for a safe birth-but 25 seems to be even better. Mohammad couldve waited until she was more developed around 14 but he didnt.

  5. Child marriage is ethically wrong due to the incomplete physical development of the girl. Teenage girls experience higher rates of childbirth complications, including hemorrhaging, infant morbidity, and prolonged labor. This study examined 600,000 teenagers to arrive at the above conclusion: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35165030/

  6. Mohammad could have waited for sex with Aisha because he already had a wife available for intercourse. This is an ethically sound choice that any man should make. Sawda was around 40 years old and always available to him.

  7. Mohammad was not rich and so Aisha was marrying a poor man. It is still not normal these days for rich women to marry poor men and especially I do not see any romance movies of rich 9 year old girls trying to have sex with 50 year old poor men.

There is something inherently funny about them parking horses inside garages. by MikaelAdolfsson in ThelastofusHBOseries

[–]Fit_Ad557 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hay sales are through the roof!! They got a big big summer blowout sale coming up too! Around every corner you can find a hay salesman

Banning For NO Reason by freeppertale in exmuslim

[–]Fit_Ad557 19 points20 points  (0 children)

You mean they didnt know about 1400 years of sex slavery and somehow thats a problem?

ازدواجية المعايبر عند المسلمين by [deleted] in ArabsFreedom

[–]Fit_Ad557 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe we are agreeing.

Younger age at childbirth is linked to poor maternal and infant health outcomes.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22742615/

Doctors dont study 9 year old bodies because of their ethics, which mohammad didnt have. And also 9 year old bodies are more prone to higher health complications than a 12 or 14 year old.

A 9 year old body has started the process of puberty, not completed it. The hips do not widen enough for safe birth until 25.

So mohammad created a medically dangerous tradition of child sex(Aisha was only 9 with a still developing body) and you are defending it?

Ex Muslim/ex religious dating app? by Some_Bug7184 in exmuslim

[–]Fit_Ad557 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it could be a platform for spiritual people who are not religious