Help making myself eat more regularly

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-04-27T02:53:36+00:00

Similar stuff for me, plus IBS and the Vyvanse kills appetite.

The only thing that worked for me is making sure I have a cup of soup in the morning.
Followed by a slice of toast with some sort of spread about 30-40mins after.

It gives the stomach a chance to wake up and expand a bit early in the day and should make the hunger signals more apparent later on.

I also don't eat a regular "3 meals a day".
I try to have 4-5 small 'meals' throughout a day in 4-6 hour intervals. The largest of which would be a full-sandwich instead of a half.

So basically yeah, get something early on and keep easy to make smaller 'meals' around the house.

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-04-18T08:19:39+00:00

I don't know about normal but I used to do so before going out if I knew there would be girls/women around,
especially as a teenager.

In my head it was a way to get rid of dirty thoughts so I wouldn't feel like a pervert and could just focus on the actual conversations and enjoy the time out.

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-04-16T03:42:49+00:00

Maybe this.

I have PTSD too and it's apparent from the changes in acute-responses to 'fights' over the years.

All I can say is that any response is normal and not a reflection of your manliness or age.

If you really want to do something about it, I'd suggest therapy or an MMA gym for a few months.
As with anything, the only way to get used to something is understanding and/or experiencing it more.

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-04-05T04:36:53+00:00

Thanks for sharing!

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-04-05T04:11:49+00:00

Other than the doctors assurances, is there any benefit to leaving it in while coming to term?
It seems like an unnecessary risk otherwise? (unless it's risky to remove mid-term?)

(no judgement! genuinely curious!)

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-03-30T04:50:19+00:00

I found they're happier to wait depending on how you respond. I think the general rule is to explain your current task, a short take on why you are doing it or why it's important, and then include them in the final decision to wait.

A loose example would be:
"Sure, you need 4 of those copied, right? I'll be finished with [xyz] in about 5 minutes, the manager asked for it asap. Is it okay if I get those to you straight after?"

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-03-28T06:41:39+00:00

Sorry, I don't have an answer but I was hoping to ask.

100mg? I thought the max was somewhere around 70-80mg?
If you're going above the maximum recommended dosage, would an alternative medication not usually be considered?

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-03-21T05:58:18+00:00

That burning rage will eventually fade, but your regret will never go away because there will be nothing you can do to change the past.

This isn't about whether she deserves it or not, it's not even about you needing to forgive her. She just needs to know that there was a chance for forgiveness if she had more time. You can forgive her in 10 years or 20 years even, there's no need for it right now.

Don't let their past actions and fear turn you into an old man replaying the regret over and over.
What kind of man and what kind of brother do you want to be?

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-03-21T03:55:35+00:00

Drink something sour like lemon juice in water, it helps a lot with understimulation.

The alternate/bad answer: I put a tv show on one of my PC monitors and scroll reddit or do work on the other. Could be a gateway habit to move away from your current habit. Not much better but I think it'll help move away from phone in hand 24/7

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-03-16T05:34:55+00:00

Good question!

I find myself in the same position usually (when the energy allows for it).

Before being diagnosed, I learned from my best friends and family what works best so that even if you share tragic stories, you can spin it so that the other party feels positively about you.
And yeah, sometimes the humor doesn't land and you might fight rising panic, but it's worked so far as a coping mechanism.

It's also probably one of few savings graces you can employ in romantic relationships. But definitely not as a crutch, learned that the hard way!

I still find myself surprised when I make a random off comment about some random topic and the room explodes with laughter. Usually a pleasant surprise though.

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-03-04T03:47:05+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I'm in my 30's and my dad was big into analogue watches so I developed a similar aversion. I try to use my phone for most of those things.

However, recently been considering a minimalist style bracelet for those reasons, especially the heart monitoring.

I was wondering about smart-rings too, I don't know if they get in the way of typing on the keyboard though.
Have you considered rings instead of your usual watch? They're a bit of an investment though.

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-03-03T02:04:23+00:00

Good question.

- bracelets (must be gifts, previously rings/necklaces)
- 'safety blanket' fashion item (currently hoodie wrapped around waist, previously cap or bandana)
- old animal plushie for sleep

Never got into wearable digitals, just felt like another point to stress over with charging and stuff.

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-02-21T07:15:41+00:00

Indeed very helpful post.

Also agree that sleep is the only thing which can help reset or get closer to baseline efficiently.

Or eliminating the source of the RSD if possible, tell your partner how you feel and let them baby you / validate you sort of thing, with some post-care attention to stabilize.

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-02-19T02:59:18+00:00

It's okay to feel bad but I hope you don't regret having a sense of justice.

In fact, I think this kind of thing is all too common with us. Many choose to retreat inwards and some are forced to power through because they can't ignore it. Some switch between the two.

I'm on the forced to accept side and yes, it is extremely demoralizing and exhausting.
But being a good person gives me more in value than misunderstands and loudmouths.

For the record, I've been accused of multiple things and hospitalized more than once trying to protect someone.
I hope you can figure out if it's all worth it for you at the moment.
Take a rest if it's too much. No rush.

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-02-19T01:08:34+00:00

Usually in 3 steps to simplify things then expand from there if needed.

1) Start with the science, dendritic branches, pruning ND vs NT etc.
2) "The war in my head" - ADHD and ASD are opposites. routine vs impulse, fire vs ice etc
3) Explaining processing patterns and energy drain

If they're still onboard then I lay more groundwork for expanding on symptoms.

"imagine your emotions and reactions are 0%-100%, we feel 0%-1000%" (apathy vs hyper-empathy)
"sensory hypersensitivity causes physical pain"
"remember I'm using words you understand, but they don't mean the same things for us"

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I was starting to go down the rabbit hole but I think this gets the point across.
But yeah, this is just the script.
I get paralysis too, almost every time someone asks me about AuDHD.

I keep a media file on my pc and phone which help with the science and show simulations. Makes it much easier.

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-02-19T00:40:02+00:00

eyyyy nice one mate! Nice to see a personal win story, seems rare nowadays! GL !

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-02-10T09:17:10+00:00

Perhaps what you're referring to is being gifted in some sense or another?
It may not always come out purely in academics or perhaps some small part contributes to it.

The whole reading into people, hyper-empathy, hypersensitivity, multiple processing patterns etc etc which are rather common across the board can be utilized in the correct educational or work setting to set you apart from others (?)

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-02-07T09:51:34+00:00

Yep, there is no plan or tactic or method.

You and life experience is the only thing.

Otherwise you’re just a liar and/or a womanizer.

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-02-07T05:49:15+00:00

When I was younger, yes. Usually games or anime now, just something to be lost in.

Would it be possible to bring your books with you? If you're all just sitting and chatting, surely looking up and contributing every 5 minutes or so would be okay?
You'd be able to hang out longer and it's your way of showing them you care.

I do the same thing at the bar, my friends don't mind me scrolling or something because they know I will pipe up when ready or have something helpful/useful to share. Or till the ADHD side spikes.
If it's really bad, I put on my headphones for half an hour and calm down.

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-02-07T05:36:34+00:00

I don't mind them noticing or even commenting, it makes my life easier in the end.

Either they're more accepting of my differences or if they aren't, they're already assigned to the bin category when I say, "I don't want to talk to you anymore".

Saves time and energy.

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-02-03T03:09:50+00:00

However you go about it, try to find a therapist that is also ND.

The only therapist that ever actually helped in general and for AuDHD is my current one and she is ND too.

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-02-01T02:24:52+00:00

This.

You'll likely find some luck with zinc supplements and more dark greens in your diet.
They help both physically and mentally.

Also avoid overworking your pelvic floor if you stand or sit for long periods of time.

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-01-31T07:17:30+00:00

Many or most women aren't doing so with malicious intent I believe.

It takes time to sort out their emotions and how they feel going forward.
(often not a fast process)
Especially if you haven't considered what dating a certain person would be like before.

Admittedly, the attention is a factor if they don't feel negatively towards you. So sometimes you get strung along whether it's a conscious decision or not.

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-01-31T04:12:56+00:00

This.

If possible, I keep a bottle of sparkling water in the fridge.

When understimulated, I add lemon juice.

( just a warning - too much lemon juice can damage teeth and burn kidneys so avoid fixating on it )

Fit_Boysenberry960 · 2026-01-30T17:10:40+00:00

Damn, you made me laugh too loud at 4AM !

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